Son's problem at interview

thistledome

bap98189 wrote: »

Women are entitled to wear whatever they like and still expect to be treated professionally.

Yes, but only if you're a member of the oldest profession.......;)

What if OP's son had been a Muslim?

Hmm71

MissSarah1972 wrote: »

saying that women should wear appropriate lead to that. What is appropriate? I don't think they were all in bikinis or something. It was only all 3 tops that were low. Hard to believe really

I actually said that everyone, regardless of gender should dress appropriately for their job, as you would know if you had read my post properly. I wasn't being specific about the women in the OP's son's interview.

MissSarah1972

Hmm71 wrote: »

I actually said that everyone, regardless of gender should dress appropriately for their job, as you would know if you had read my post properly. I wasn't being specific about the women in the OP's son's interview.

And to some a low cut top is. If three women were wearing them maybe it was a uniform lol

Hmm71

MissSarah1972 wrote: »

And to some a low cut top is. If three women were wearing them maybe it was a uniform lol

Maybe it was or maybe it was some sort of test to see if men are capable of looking at women's faces instead of their chests, lol.
(Now I'm being sexist, lol.)

System

I'm finding it hard to recocile the situation painted by the OP with anything I have observed in teenagers living in the 21st century.
Older happily married men like myself, I agree, can have a bit of difficulty in these situations, but a modern teenager ? Those I know are so completely uninhibited that they would indeed be unfazed if interviewed by 3 girls in bikinis.
I wonder if the poster who suggested a hint of undue over-mothering might have touched on the real problem?

robpw2

joannaspanner wrote: »

Lol, used to have a guy who changed into cycling shorts at lunch and did his bending down and touching down toes in front of me outside the reception window, he would then keep them on for the rest of the day, I always felt I could never take him seriously talking to him about work when I could see the outline of his nob through his shorts.

pictures please lol

joannaspanner

robpw2 wrote: »

pictures please lol

lol twas a few years ago.

RuthnJasper

PasturesNew wrote: »

So he was perving on their norks... they spotted it and were polite enough to just say he didn't make eye contact.

PWNED.

As a parent you should have bought him more !!!!!! when he was younger, so he'd get over it.

Hehehe, this comment made me laugh! Although I never wear low-cut things to work, I am quite... er... curvaceous.

It is SO obvious when a chap's eyes drift "down there". Flattering, sort of, but annoying when one's trying to have a serious conversation - most especially at work.

Hope the OP's son isn't feeling too grim, interviews can be unpleasant at the best of times. If he struggles making eye-contact he can focus instead on the bridge of a person's nose - it then appears as though he's looking them in the eye. Also tell him to take a really boring book to read in the waiting room - anything to take his mind off a potential encounter with some ladies' "shirt potatoes".

And re. women in IT - in my experience, it isn't always possible to tell which gender is which... oo-er... :eek:

duchy

wantsajob wrote: »

Lack of eye contact and appearing nervous COULD be suggestive of Aspergers.

Or one of a hundred other things

Don't be so silly !

This lad is twenty -was he home schooled and didn't go to college either or has he never walked down a high street or gone to a pub with friends in the last two years........ It seems unlikely he has never seen a bit of clevage in real life before to be so distracted ............or maybe just maybe he just didn't do so well at the interview and is making excuses to you ?

wantsajob

duchy wrote: »

Or one of a hundred other things

Hence the "COULD be suggestive", a very tentative suggestion :cool: And only suggested because it is all-too-often missed, or dismissed as 'being shy'. It is only exhibited through difficulties in every-day life. The Aspies who have the most difficulty will, ironically, be the ones who slip through the net and go unnoticed. They'll receive no support, compared with those lucky enough to be diagnosed at a young age. I'm sure you'll appreciate the doors opened, knowledge, and support gained through a diagnosis. And how people will often think 'well there's nothing wrong with him/her' in day-to-day situations (due to the hidden nature), and it can be difficult to explain to people.

People are more inclined to think negatively, than they are to be understanding, of minor social differences. This post is proof alone of that, as it goes to show how the majority interpret/misinterpret poor eye contact.