Son's problem at interview

geminilady

1940sGal wrote: »

Are you suggesting he can't make eye contact without looking down their tops? What a ludicrous notion. He should have been perfectly capable of making eye contact.

No I am not and he did make eye contact just not enough,thanks so much for your helpful advise

Arg

Sue for sexual harassment.

1940sGal

geminilady wrote: »

No I am not and he did make eye contact just not enough,thanks so much for your helpful advise

*advice.

sorry, couldn't help myself

Wyndham

geminilady wrote: »

A little but obviously not enough and I did not go with him and hold his hand!

Sorry, possibly not clear. Why is he not on here asking for advice, why are you doing it for him? I understand that it's tough because you have this baby you need to do EVERYTHING for or they will DIE! But he's 20, it's not the case anymore.

1940sGal

Wyndham wrote: »

Sorry, possibly not clear. Why is he not on here asking for advice, why are you doing it for him? I understand that it's tough because you have this baby you need to do EVERYTHING for or they will DIE! But he's 20, it's not the case anymore.

I did wonder that myself.

wantsajob

Lack of eye contact and appearing nervous COULD be suggestive of Aspergers.

PasturesNew

So he was perving on their norks... they spotted it and were polite enough to just say he didn't make eye contact.

PWNED.

As a parent you should have bought him more !!!!!! when he was younger, so he'd get over it.

geminilady

Wyndham wrote: »

Sorry, possibly not clear. Why is he not on here asking for advice, why are you doing it for him? I understand that it's tough because you have this baby you need to do EVERYTHING for or they will DIE! But he's 20, it's not the case anymore.

He is not on here because he is not asking for advice,I am, because I want him to do better in life than I have and do not have interview skills myself to pass on.Some people have given me some ideas which I will mention.You make a lot of assumptions from my short post ?I have brought my son up to be independent and do very little for him these days but I hope I have taught him not to judge people that he does not know.

MissSarah1972

wantsajob wrote: »

Lack of eye contact and appearing nervous COULD be suggestive of Aspergers.

is that not just being shy?

Wyndham

geminilady wrote: »

He is not on here because he is not asking for advice,I am, because I want him to do better in life than I have and do not have interview skills myself to pass on.Some people have given me some ideas which I will mention.You make a lot of assumptions from my short post ?I have brought my son up to be independent and do very little for him these days but I hope I have taught him not to judge people that he does not know.

You're not alone. I work for a University, and it's amazing how many conversations I have with parents. Of course, I have to say I can't talk to them as the Data Protection Act doesn't let me, and that often causes problems, but the law is clear. Your son is an adult, and it's now his life. My own parents brought me up to be independent, and just would not have dreamed of getting involved.

To go back to the original question. Did he tell you he was...er.. distracted? I'm sorry he was uncomfortable but there are many things in life which aren't easy to deal with, and which are, perhaps unfortunately, part of working life. He needs to work out how to deal with these things, and unfortunately it is his problem, not anyone elses. If there isn't any sort of dress code in the place, then if he had got the job, it would be an ongoing problem.