Trying for a Baby Part 8

vesper

claire16c wrote: »

Vesper I agree with Miffy moo.

Maybe see the dr and find out if there are any issues and then you know if ntnp is more likely to happen or not.

I cant remember do you do temping, opks etc?

thanks guys
i use a cbfm.

teaandcakeordeath

Didn't manage to get a call back from the hospital today about my blood results so looks like I'm going to be speculating like crazy over the weekend.

Thanks for doing the lists Becca- I'd definitely have screwed them up by now! Could you possibly update me to:

12 dpo
testing 14th & 15th January

I'm going into hospital on Tuesday for a procedure that's done under x-ray so fingers crossed I either get a positive in time to cancel or AF shows her dirty little face!

I think you should try the doctors too Vesper, they might be able to reassure you that everything is OK after investigations or offer you help and support to get your baby. We put ourselves (well I know I definitely do) under so much pressure to get pregnant and have our babies that it's no wonder our bodies don't oblige sometimes- all those stress and anxiety hormones can't be good! (Says the woman stressing and overly anxious... )

TeamLowe

I kind of prefer pregnancies to be announced on fb to the alternative of what me and a friend have dubbed surprise pregnancies...old friend you haven't seen for a while,no tell tale statuses then bam, picture of them with a huge bump! just makes it seem like the whole thing is so easy for everyone else and you're the idiot who doesn't know the magic words

course there's still no ovulation for me so there's no magic wand either. or would that be the hat? I'm getting confused by my own metaphor! lol

claire16c

vesper wrote: »

thanks guys
i use a cbfm.

Vesper I just looked on the front page - you're 28? You have years of baby making left! Don't give up if its what you want, just because it hasn't happened yet.

Plus if you've been trying since 10/11 that's only just over a year so don't automatically assume there is something wrong with you. How many cycles have you used the cbfm for?

skintchick

vesper wrote: »

Know exactly what you mean. I'm so fed up with it now, it feels like it's a normal part of life now however, like cleaning your teeth and ironing clothes.
Get up, clean teeth, have wash, pee on stick, have breakfast etc etc.

I keep thinking it's time to see the Doctor but other stuff keeps getting in the way, or I keep thinking we'll try for another month and see how it goes. Or need to see the Doctor for other things.

Think to tell the truth I've about given up. And worse I think my mind has even accepted it. Was sat talking to hubby last week about it, hence why I've been quiet on here for a while again. We discussed taking a couple of years out of trying and going back to ntnp. But I just can't do it, what happens if I miss my time that way, plus if I leave it hubby will be 38 by the time we try again. It's breaking his heart as he never wanted to as old as his dad when we had our first, as his dad acted like he was too old to do anything with hubby. He's already older now than his dad was.
Sorry suppose it doesn't really help when I'm sat watching 16 kids and counting. 16 kids!!!!! I'll be overjoyed (huge under estimate) with 1.

Aww sweetie. When I had DD I was 34 and OH was 42! He is definitely a hands-on dad who does loads with her. You aren't too old.

It's considered normal to try for a year, sometimes it does take a long time and it doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong.

vesper

claire16c wrote: »

Vesper I just looked on the front page - you're 28? You have years of baby making left! Don't give up if its what you want, just because it hasn't happened yet.

Plus if you've been trying since 10/11 that's only just over a year so don't automatically assume there is something wrong with you. How many cycles have you used the cbfm for?

I know I've got plenty of time left. Yeh I'm 28. 10/11 is the date I started on this forum, however I had been on here before from about 2/11 but left here as I was getting married. We have been trying with ov sticks since 09/10, but haven't used any form of protection since 2003. Been using my cbfm since 11/11.

Just having a down night that's all. Maybe my mind finds it easier to accept than going each month and feeling heartbroken when we aren't successful. It has made it so I wait until my af arrives rather than testing every 2 days and seeing symptoms in every twinge. Not that I'm saying there's any problem with that, so hope no one takes it the wrong way.

TeamLowe

vesper big loves, I think it at least deserves a chat with a doctor to put your mind at rest as sadly without medical tests we don't know if anything is wrong. but most of what can be wrong can be fixed x x

vesper

Thanks guys, sorry feeling like crap tonight. Didn't help that one of my friends sent me a thank you card as I had sent her some stuff as a present for her new born, so her thank you card was loads of pictures of them as a happy loving perfect family with the new little boy.
Granted I don't think she knows of our problems, but it was truely heart breaking.

Never thought this journey would be so hard when we started on it. But by gawd this child when it comes will be soooo spoilt.

It's my husband that is bothered with his age. His mum died a couple of years ago and it breaks his heart that she will never meet her grandchild.

TeamLowe

honestly I've come to believe that you don't choose when you have your children, they choose when they want to come to you.
there's a little soul out there waiting for its perfect moment to come to your arms. maybe they're just having too much fun playing with the angels,as my gran used to say x

vesper

TeamLowe wrote: »

honestly I've come to believe that you don't choose when you have your children, they choose when they want to come to you.
there's a little soul out there waiting for its perfect moment to come to your arms. maybe they're just having too much fun playing with grandma just yet x x

awww love the idea of them playing with their Grandma, she was a wonderful lady, so funny and certainly different, competely loopy. I always so much wanted to give her grandchildren.