Trying for a Baby Part 8

QQuaver

maire1 wrote: »

It's hard also when you're career driven. Like you, we have suffered issues with ttc and for me, throwing myself into work is an essential coping mechanism and I think that's difficult for mr maire to understand. Could that be true wih you two?

It probably was the major reason for us too.

DH probably wanted me to give up my current job and find something nearer to DH. It's a huge risk for me though, what if we get divorced? :cool:

DH is 11 years my senior, and he said he wants to go for early retirement in few years time, maybe sooner.
If he'd done that, we'd have been able to live together (obviously, I assume he doesn't expect me to retire at the same time:D).

codemonkey

QQ, I echo everyone's thoughts. So, so sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope you and your husband can sort it out. Thank you for all the advice and list keeping and I hope it all works out.

maire1

I sincerely hope you two can work through the problems you're having. The pressure of ttc can place underestimated strain on relationships. Add that to the issue of being apart for long periods of time and you're bound to find things hard at times.

I am thinking of you both during the difficult time you're having and, like many others here, offer as much support ad I can. X

rumfeeble

Oh QQ, I am so sorry to hear your news, I really hope you can figure it out. You are such a supportive and positive person and have helped so many of us on here, if we can help in any way please just ask.
You are in my thoughts and prayers

And as for the rest of you lot, you've got me in tears reading such lovely messages!

clearing_out_my_pockets

Just reading back on my phone and wanted to add to the group hug going on here. Hope you can sort things out

Xxx

amyloofoo

QQ,

signed on this morning to your sad news. Sending you all the biggest and dodgiest hugs in the world and reiterate the wishes for things to work out in a few days when your DH has a chance to think about them and talk 'properly' :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

You deserve all of the best that life can give you, you've helped so many of us here and I know we all wish we could give you hugs and chocolate and a shoulder to cry on. We'll always be here to listen and commiserate whenever you feel you need or want it :grouphug:

I don't really know your circumstances, and you're a very wise lady anyway, so I'm not going to give you any advice but would like you to know that my thoughts and best wishes are with you today :grouphug:

abis21

Hope you managed some sleep last night QQ, and that your sisters are with you giving you lots of cuddles. Hope you manage to be able to speak to your DH as well. Thinking of you lots and sending good wishes your way xxx

mrshappy

QQ, So sorry to see your news this morning, I can only echo what everyone has already said, we are all here for you to do what we can for you. You have given so much to our fabulous thread and I'm clearly not alone in offering you any support and help I can during this time.
Take care of yourself xxxxx

lao_cat

Massive hugs Qq hope you manages to get some rest and hoping you and your DH get a chance to talk things out and work things out

I completely empathise re work - my job is pretty much the same at times it is simply not possible to take time off unless someone very close is dying. My DH doesn't get it at all, I think it's partly as his mother never worked and his friends partners mostly work 9-5 so he has no experience of it!!

NoAngel

QQ, just wanted to say I'm sorry to see your news and I hope things work out for you xx