Trying for a Baby Part 8

abis21

Oh, QQ

I really hope that you can sit down with DH and work this out. It must be so hard being apart and it must put a terrible strain on things - especially if he is feeling insecure. Are you able to fly to be with him to try and have a better chat?

You are without doubt one of the kindest ladies I have ever known, with a heart so pure. You must have helped hundreds and hundreds of ladies with the journeys, and I only hope that we can help you in some way in return.

I so so hope you can work things out or that you both find an answer that makes you both happy.

Lots and lots of love your way xxxxxx

QQuaver

abis21 wrote: »

Are you able to fly to be with him to try and have a better chat?

I wish I could, but timing is very bad work wise:(

abis21

Is there any way you can explain to work that its an emergency? xx

QQuaver

abis21 wrote: »

Is there any way you can explain to work that its an emergency? xx

I wouldn't call getting divorced an emergency:o
Someone needs to be dying:p

abis21

I would call it an emergency Anywhere where I have worked I would have just gotten emergency time off - I don't think people argue in those circumstances. Chances are your mind wouldn't be properly on the job anyway

QQuaver

abis21 wrote: »

I would call it an emergency Anywhere where I have worked I would have just gotten emergency time off - I don't think people argue in those circumstances. Chances are your mind wouldn't be properly on the job anyway

Normally I would, but I have some work trips which we all worked hard as a team, and it is not easy to get a replacement at this late stage unless someone (or me) is dying:o

I really hope he was being menopausal, but I somehow doubt it.

He is the type who says things in the heat of the moment, but I'm not. I've taken things he said at face value and it turned out to be a heat of the moment thing, but as much as I wish it was, I don't think this one was it.

There are some things that should not be said, heat or no heat.

squ1rrel5

QQ sending you absolutely huge hugs.

When I was going through the divorce with my first husband work, that came completely out of the blue to me and work gave me some time off to try and sort things out. It obviously didnt work out as here I am today with a new husband but at the time it was worth trying as hard as I could.

I don't know where you are based or what you do as a job but I really hope that you can find someway to sort things out - or at least Mr QQ will answer one of your calls. When my ex told me things were over it took 2 or 3 days before he actually let us sit down and talk - he will be feeling far too guilty at the moment to want to face you but in a couple of days the dust may have settled and he may give you a proper explanation.

I know its a private matter but I'm sure everyone on here won't mind if you just want to come on here and have a rant whenever you need to.

Thinking about you and hope things work out for the best, whatever that may be xxxxx

abis21

I see what your saying about the heat or no heat... It just seems so sudden to call it a day At the very least you need to be in the same country in the same room to have proper discussions about it as emails can be mis-read - tones put on things where no tones were meant etc... Phone calls can lead to frustrations as you can't see body language or hug it out

But after talking, surely counselling or something should also happen? Its worth fighting for - no?

You are under so much stress with living apart, TTC with difficulties, work strains etc - its completely normal to have some bumps in your journey. Married life ain't always smooth thats for sure.

Its hard with the work thing - I've never worked in that big a place - so everyone kind of knew everyone elses business anyways. I know I would never expect a colleague to come to work in these circumstances and would completely understand if it put extra pressure on me - just so long as I got the same treatment in return if I ever had a problem.

claire16c

QQ I really hope you can sort it out and it's just been a huge over reaction on his part. I've got my fingers crossed for u. I really hope it works out ok in the end. Maybe he will pick up the phone eventually and you can get through to him x

QQuaver

squ1rrel5 wrote: »

When my ex told me things were over it took 2 or 3 days before he actually let us sit down and talk

Hope DH is the same, and will pick up the phone in 2 or 3 days:o

abis21 wrote: »

But after talking, surely counselling or something should also happen? Its worth fighting for - no?

I'd love to go for counselling, but don't think DH would:(
My parents have been married for nearly 50 years, and there were bumps, but DH never saw his parents together.

claire16c wrote: »

QQ I really hope you can sort it out and it's just been a huge over reaction on his part. I've got my fingers crossed for u. I really hope it works out ok in the end. Maybe he will pick up the phone eventually and you can get through to him x

Thanks:o