Trying for a Baby Part 8

tea_lover

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

The girl at work who is now about 22 weeks keeps sashaying past my desk with that rally exaggerated 'pregnant walk' that some women do. It really gets me down, and I am finding her quite irritating to be honest.

(((Hugs))). I have an irritating pg acquaintance atm too. Fortunately I now don't have to see for her three weeks... although I guess the downside of that is there'll be even more bump for her to shove in my face by then.

good_vibes

Morning all,
*hugs* MV and teamlowe, have had my own spell of everyone pg around me, it's a strange feeling. Got my mum's big Bday bash end of the year, going to be loads of cousins etc with bumps. No one at work yet, think they had their baby boom before I arrived.
Hi newbies, hope your stay is short

Metranil_Vavin

The thing that gets me about the girl at work is she doesn't seem excited or even that bothered about the fact she's pregnant.

She told me they were trying, so it was an active choice, but she has also gone on about how un-maternal she is, how she misses boozing and socialising, isn't going to even give breast feeding a go as she 'doesn't like the thought of it' and has already booked her baby into a nursery full time from 3 months as she wants to get back to work asap!

I mean really, I'm trying not to be judgemental as of course every woman has to do things their own way, but I do find it hard when she is carrying on like it's just a minor inconvenience whilst I am breaking my heart over 2 consecutive early losses in a row.

She also keeps going on about how much she is still doing at home, she told me proudly the other day when I offered to help her move some boxes that 'oh you should have seen me this weekend lugging the weekly shop in and out of the car by myself as hubby was working'.

Sigh..sorry if I am sounding mean-spirited. It's just the way I am feeling right now.

She doesn't know how bl00dy lucky she is!

firefly369

Morning Ladies,

MV & Teamlowe - ((hugs)) for feeling low at the moment.

Chloelouise - I know what you mean. I waited for years till I found the right guy and the right time thinking all I would have to do is get my implant removed. The first months were really exciting and I was POAS ridiculously early. Now I mostly wait until my af is late before I poas as it is more and more disappointing everytime I get a BFN.

Atton - Good Luck with the wedding. Try not to stress to much it is supposed to be a happy occasion;)

Becca & Lovecake - fingers crossed for testing:)

FF has moved my dates again and now says I am 12dpo. I am going to leave testing until Monday if possible I am sick of seeing BFNs

Hope everyone has a great Thursday:)

good_vibes

firefly know what you mean *hugs*. your about the same age as me. In myself have been wanting a family since mid 20's. But have at last found the right man . Which I am thankfull for and glad I did wait, who knows what mess I would be in now.
Good luck for monday, am holding everything back to not POAS myself. AF due tomorrow

lovecake

Morning all!

Welcome newbies! Hope you are not here for long!

Thanks Firefly! - You are very good waiting til Monday! Tmrw I will only be 11dpo so I know it's early, but I can't wait any longer :rotfl:If I get a BFN I will wait until Monday to test again unless AF arrives at the weekend. I'll keep you all posted. No crampy feelings yet, but I have had a few spots appear which usually means AF is on the way so I'm trying not to get my hopes up.

Hugs to everyone with babies and bumps being shoved in their faces. My facebook friend is still giving regular updates on her bump and now she has found out it's a boy they are getting even worse! I know she is just excited, but they are really getting on my nerves!! :mad:

I will make a point to not be like that when my time comes! I want to share my news with my friends in person - not via a scan pic on facebook!

Have a good day everyone - the weekend is nearly here! :j AND it's only 2 months til Xmas!! :j

tea_lover

MV - I really know what you mean. The woman I mentioned is a bit like that. All I hear about is how she wants to be able to drink, and how soon she'll be working again. To be fair, I don't really know her that well at all so she's hardly going to start telling me how excited she is and stuff. It's just hard isn't it. I'm happy for pg people, I really am. I just want it to be me so much it makes my tummy hurt .

Is anyone else already arguing about Christmas plans?! Please tell me it's not just me :cool:.

fannyanna

After writing this I’ve realised it’s just one big garbled message so I thought I’d best warn you all first

I’m popping out of lurkville as I’ve been thinking about this whole TTC lark quite a bit lately and feel as though I’m just drifting on by without actually TTC. I’d got to the point where it was all getting to me too much and decided that I needed to take a step back. But now I feel as though I took too much of a step back. Trouble is I don’t ovulate at the moment and so I feel “actively” trying is just futile and leads to me feeling miserable. I need to find a happy median.

With regards to the lack of ovulation I need to lose weight (still) to either kick start it naturally or be able to get clomid. My periods are also all over the place. I see that I’m CD70 but I would say that for the last 40 days I’ve been all over the place. This bit might be TMI: One minute there’s nothing, then there’s a bit of “browning”, then there’s very small clots, then last night a massive clot but never any real flow. This also results in zero BD (as there’s always something going on to a certain extent) which also doesn’t help. Even though I know I don’t ovulate I still live in hope that a miracle will happen and I’ll have magically ovulated and got pregnant.

I’m trying to work out my happy median action plan and I guess I’m looking for some ideas. I’m thinking that I need to avoid things like temping and OPK’s (as that’s just depressing) and focus on losing weight (which is a huge mission in itself) and keeping tack of my cycle (and all the weird little things that happen). I also bought some agnus castus a while ago so I think I might start taking them and see if it has any impact on my cycle. What do you guys think?

I just know that I need to do something as I can’t carry on feeling sorry for myself because I’m not pregnant when lately I haven’t actually done anything to make it happen. After all I’m not the Virgin Mary

angeltreats

CD1 for me. Will catch up later.

lovecake

Hi fannyanna! I can't offer much help on the kick-starting the cycle stuff as I am very regular (and realise how fortunate I am after reading some stories on this thread), but it seems like focusing on losing weight seems like a very sensible option! And keeping an eye on your cycle so that you will know any changes that happen as a result of you losing weight also seems sensible.

Everyone on here is so supportive and it's a great place if you need to rant or offload! And don't ever worry about TMI - this is a total TMI thread and nobody minds at all!

I'm sure that some others will be along to offer advice on helping to make your cycle more regular. Good luck with it all and keep us posted! x