Trying for a Baby Part 8

littleme82

Glad its not just me codemonkey. I am never usually this grumpy/sensitive and I really dont like it. I am 8DPO today. I was in my own world yesterday with an airhead which resulted in a fall down the stairs!

I hope I wake up in a better mood in the morning, dont want to make it a hat trick

Hugs to everyone

xxx

tea_lover

There's so many nasty bugs around at the moment! Hugs to everyone feeling under the weather.

Everyone else in the office here has a cold, so I know it's only a matter of time before I get it. I'm pretty sure I'll be fine till Friday afternoon and then it will get me lol. I'm going to a fancy dress party on saturday so I really don't want to be ill this weekend.

Lily_The_Legend

Morning :hello:

Sending hugs to everyone feeling ill or having a hard time at the moment.

Welcome to the thread Smookle. Mums are very unhelpful sometimes! Mine reckoned she got pregnant the month after coming off the pill, but she did tell me that when I was a teenager so I wonder if she was just trying to scare me into having safe sex lol!

Welcome back QQ!

Congratulations on getting engaged apple*pie! :j:j:j

Nothing really to report here, just that I'm putting more effort into trying to lose weight - did a Zumba class last night. :eek: Had a bright red face afterwards and was sweating like nobody's business but I survived lol! I really enjoyed it actually.

Went to have the 21-day blood test this morning. The nurse struggled to read my doctor's writing on the forms :eek:

Birdie85

Uh-oh, I'm in trouble with OH I let slip to MIL about TTC at the weekend expecting her to just shut up about it and not bring it up again but no, she has to get all watery eyed when she saw OH this morning and apologised for going on about babies whilst we were 'struggling' (not the word I used when talking to her!), I didn't mention telling her to OH as I didn't think she'd say anything so now he's really mad at me for embarassing him. Feel like s***t and I won't see him 'till he gets home at 10 and I know he'll just be stewing all work all night and getting more and more worked up about it.

I really need to learn to not speak to MIL at all about anything. She looks so sweet and trustworthy and she's all 'tell me anything, I'll keep your secrets' then *bam* they all come out the minute I turn my back on her! :mad: OH makes comments that my Mum is the loudmouth but at least she keeps personal conversations to herself!

amyloofoo

Birdie85 wrote: »

Uh-oh, I'm in trouble with OH I let slip to MIL about TTC at the weekend expecting her to just shut up about it and not bring it up again but no, she has to get all watery eyed when she saw OH this morning and apologised for going on about babies whilst we were 'struggling' (not the word I used when talking to her!), I didn't mention telling her to OH as I didn't think she'd say anything so now he's really mad at me for embarassing him. Feel like s***t and I won't see him 'till he gets home at 10 and I know he'll just be stewing all work all night and getting more and more worked up about it.

I really need to learn to not speak to MIL at all about anything. She looks so sweet and trustworthy and she's all 'tell me anything, I'll keep your secrets' then *bam* they all come out the minute I turn my back on her! :mad: OH makes comments that my Mum is the loudmouth but at least she keeps personal conversations to herself!

:eek: *hugs* That's awful! Hope your OH realises that you were just trying to save both of you from upset and that it's MIL who needs to learn to bemore discreet.

In my family I'm the indiscreet one so OH knows that my family will have been told everything after a glass or two of vino :rotfl:

lao_cat

Birdie85 wrote: »

Uh-oh, I'm in trouble with OH I let slip to MIL about TTC at the weekend expecting her to just shut up about it and not bring it up again but no, she has to get all watery eyed when she saw OH this morning and apologised for going on about babies whilst we were 'struggling' (not the word I used when talking to her!), I didn't mention telling her to OH as I didn't think she'd say anything so now he's really mad at me for embarassing him. Feel like s***t and I won't see him 'till he gets home at 10 and I know he'll just be stewing all work all night and getting more and more worked up about it.

I really need to learn to not speak to MIL at all about anything. She looks so sweet and trustworthy and she's all 'tell me anything, I'll keep your secrets' then *bam* they all come out the minute I turn my back on her! :mad: OH makes comments that my Mum is the loudmouth but at least she keeps personal conversations to herself!

Big hugs - its horrible when that happens. My DH is very private so I have been in similar situation just not re ttc. So big hugs it will blow over

Birdie85

amyloofoo wrote: »

In my family I'm the indiscreet one so OH knows that my family will have been told everything after a glass or two of vino :rotfl:

lao_cat wrote: »

Big hugs - its horrible when that happens. My DH is very private so I have been in similar situation just not re ttc. So big hugs it will blow over

I think this is what is boils down to for us too. OH is quite private and doesn't like to mention anything that may reflect badly on himself, he's happy to talk about the good things in his life, but hates to discuss the not so good things. I'm a lot more open; I don't see the point in covering up the truth, what you see is what you get with me, the good stuff and the bad stuff! I'm on the Autistic Spectrum so I don't always manage to sucessfully filter what I say and I guess that's the root of my problem, unfortunately that also makes me a target for prying family members and friends. I do expect that when I tell someone something that it won't go any further though (another problem I suppose), maybe I need to tattoo a reminder on my hand - where I'm most likely to see it- that you can't truly trust anyone!

The more I think about it the more peeved I am! I shouldn't be surprised; she's done it before. We were having a bit of an argue-y time earlier this year and one lunchtime I saw MIL in town after I'd stormed out of the house and without thinking made a comment about OH being a grumpy so-and-so... the following week he asked me why I'd been 'slagging him off' to his Mum! :eek: I can't even tell MIL off for talking to OH about this as she'll just go to OH and tell him that I've told her that I'm upset and cause more problems!

I'm so frustrated and want to rant to someone but I really feel like I can't tell anyone anything now for fear that they're all talking about us behind my back! Yes, I know that I sound paranoid, but I just can't tell when people genuinely care or when they just want gossip and once I start to think about it I get worried and regret ever opening my mouth since, like I said, I have no internal filter due to the ASD, not because I'm a gobby cow who doesn't think.

tea_lover

Birdie - if it's any consolation you can always talk on here. Somewhere to vent is essential (for me, at least) and knowing that this place is here has definitely saved my sanity on more than one occasion. Hopefully your DH will realise you were just trying to avoid future insensitive comments from her. Big hugs, hope it's all sorted soon.

On a similar note, I randomly told a woman at work yesterday that I was starting IVF soon. Where the f did that come from?!? a) it's not even true!! b) she's a right gossip, and c) I don't even know her that well. Have literally no idea why the words came out lol.

lao_cat

Birdie85 wrote: »

I think this is what is boils down to for us too. OH is quite private and doesn't like to mention anything that may reflect badly on himself, he's happy to talk about the good things in his life, but hates to discuss the not so good things. I'm a lot more open; I don't see the point in covering up the truth, what you see is what you get with me, the good stuff and the bad stuff! I'm on the Autistic Spectrum so I don't always manage to sucessfully filter what I say and I guess that's the root of my problem, unfortunately that also makes me a target for prying family members and friends. I do expect that when I tell someone something that it won't go any further though (another problem I suppose), maybe I need to tattoo a reminder on my hand - where I'm most likely to see it- that you can't truly trust anyone!

The more I think about it the more peeved I am! I shouldn't be surprised; she's done it before. We were having a bit of an argue-y time earlier this year and one lunchtime I saw MIL in town after I'd stormed out of the house and without thinking made a comment about OH being a grumpy so-and-so... the following week he asked me why I'd been 'slagging him off' to his Mum! :eek: I can't even tell MIL off for talking to OH about this as she'll just go to OH and tell him that I've told her that I'm upset and cause more problems!

I'm so frustrated and want to rant to someone but I really feel like I can't tell anyone anything now for fear that they're all talking about us behind my back! Yes, I know that I sound paranoid, but I just can't tell when people genuinely care or when they just want gossip and once I start to think about it I get worried and regret ever opening my mouth since, like I said, I have no internal filter due to the ASD, not because I'm a gobby cow who doesn't think.

Responding to a constant set of questions from your MIL In an attempt to advise her that her comments were upsetting you does not make you a gobby cow. Her discussing that conversation on the other hand........ Big hugs you acted from a place of avoiding awkward and potentially upsetting conversations and that is a good place.

QQuaver

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