Trying for a Baby Part 8

tea_lover

mrsnotj - you definitely didn't upset me! I'm sure there's loads of useful advice in the lifestyle sections that will be helpful regardless of whether we also need treatment or not. I just wasn't in the right frame of mind yesterday (I blame the heat, it was muggy and I was in a bad mood).

RazWaz

binkyboo_2

RazWaz wrote: »

pretty sure i can see a second line on that one

teaandcupcakesplease

I see a line too RW!!!!!!! xx

lemonmelon_2

Me too, must be a shy bfp coming up

rumfeeble

Sorry I have been AWOL recently, nice to see a shiny new thread but fed up that I am still here and not graduating. I have just felt so overwhelmed by TTC recently that I haven’t felt much like being ‘here’ so I have just lurked and not posted. I am currently on CD7, ready for another month (please update me QQ) Its really unlike me to not post on CD1 even if its just to share some chocolate.

I am so fed up, it’s just not fair, why I am not pregnant yet? Every time I turn around someone else is pregnant, this morning another friend has announced she is 3 months gone and ….. yeah you guessed it… they weren’t even trying and they already have 2 kids and didn’t think they wanted any more.

I currently know 8 ladies who are currently pregnant, 6 of them really well, another 3 who have had babies in the last 3 months and all apart from 1 couple either fell accidentally or within a few months of starting trying. I even know one girl who didn’t find out until she was 17 weeks, she hadn’t even known she was pregnant. And one girl is only 16 (yes I’m in the mood to be judgmental!)

Month after month AF shows up, usually at a most inconvenient time and I feel so ‘broken’ why doesn’t my body work properly? How is it fair that so many just ‘fall’ pregnant within *minutes* of stopping BC. How is it fair that some couples have 4, 5 or 6 kids when I only want one (well 2 would be nice but I’m not greedy)

I am putting plans on hold, thinking I better not change jobs…incase I fall pregnant really soon, I better not book that expensive trip to Florida, I wouldn’t be able to fly if I was too far gone, I better not get fitted for that bridesmaid dress too far ahead of my brother’s wedding incase I have a big bump by then. I better not have that second glass of wine, just incase this is our month.

It hurts so much when everyone keeps asking me when are you going to have kids and reminding me that biological clocks don’t tick forever. Then there’s those who know we have been trying for ages who say….. you know how to get pregnant…. Stop trying….yeah coz that’ll work!! Grrr Or the ones who have had kids and decided their family is complete telling me that they ‘understand how I feel’ how on earth can you understand?? You have all the kids you wanted!!

I have tried every ‘trick in the book’ to get pregnant, I have given up drinking, stopped eating too much sugar and caffeine, stopped taking antihistamines, despite suffering a lot with hayfever and stopped swallowing painkillers if I get a headache. I have tried Pregnacare vitamins, weeing on OPKs, lunaception, soy, evening primrose, yoga, massage, red raspberry tea, 3 relaxing sunshine holidays, SMEP and setting the alarm at ridiculous times to try to remember to take my temperature at the same time each day when DH works shifts. I have bought preeseed and about 100 pregnancy tests as well as a few nights away in hotels. I have bought ’naughty nighties’ and toys to get us in the mood. I have twice driven 3 hours to ‘visit’ DH when he has been working away and it’s the ‘right’ time.

I am knackered and I am fed up. Long term TTCing is exhausting and even the BDing is becoming a chore, even when I am really tired or DH is being a royal !!!!, I still have to be nice to him so that we can BD if it’s the ‘right’ time.

Sorry for the rant, big thank yous for listening.

Congrats on the shy BFP Raz – the first BFP of the new thread!

mrsj28

rumfeeble - huge ((hugs))

I know it doesn't help that much, but we are all here to support you, please come on and post/rant whenever you want if it helps. A lot of us are feeling the same way at the moment

Have you spoken to your GP about ttc at all? It might be worth seeing if they can offer any help/support/tests to see if there's anything preventing you getting pregnant. (Sorry if I'm forgetting earlier posts about any treatment/appointments).

becca0417

Loving all the ideas about tests

I'm pretty sure I haven't oved despite a positive digi. All my ic both before and after have been negative and when I did another digi today that was negative too. Rubbish.

((rumfeeble)) x

firefly369

((Rumfeeble)) Hope you get your BFP soon -x-

amus

RazWaz wrote: »

Ooooo would definitely say thats a positive!! Congratulations!

Not supposed to be here for the next few months but am excited to see who gets their BFP's!