What would you have told your younger self?

coolcait

To my younger self:

- You're not fat. Or wrinkled. Or saggy - anywhere. When you're my age, you'll know what all of those things really are! :rotfl:

- Cellulite? Spell it 'Sell you lite" (Creams, lotions etc). Recognise what's going on here.

- Be yourself. Your real self. Really. Be true to that real self.

- You have the ability to achieve great things. Go for it.

- Choose your own 'great things' - not someone else's.

- If you have the ability to be a great [whatever], but your personal fulfillment comes from being a great 'wife and mother', then choose what is right for you.

- If you have the ability to be a great 'wife and mother', but your personal fulfillment comes from being a great [whatever], then choose what is right for you.

- tell your children all of the things you would have told your younger self

- accept their right to make the same mistakes that you did, and their right to make their own mistakes.


What went right:

- I learnt all of the above while I still have time to benefit!

- too many things to list (and I don't want to jinx them!)

LisaLou1982

Ha! The benefits of hindsight...

Id tell myself to work harder at Uni - i didn't know how easy i had it.

Keep better track of your money and SAVE more.

Don't assume that just because you stick by your word that other people will (still learning this hard lesson!)

Over pay the mortgage wherever you can

Accept that your parents are right about a number of things, even if you hoped they werent.

Spend more time with those that you love - one day they will be gone and you
will wish more than anything that you could spend time with them.

You can go to the pub anytime...some things have a time limit.




However, on the other hand, i have a lovely house, lots of options for the future, some amazing friends who have really come through for me in the difficult times and my amazing mum who is always there.

Im actually really lucky and try to count my blessings

Mrs_Ryan

Work harder at uni and push harder for a diagnosis - dont suffer in silence like you did because those doctors said there was nothing wrong....

littlepinky84

I would tell myself to meet him, have the kids and then get out lol save myself a lot of heart break

Dunroamin

Work hard at school or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.

lolly_896

Never listen to the Royal Signals cap badged officer that the Royal Signals was the corps in the Army i wanted to join. Im now 27 and still have no career, Thanks Sir.

Even though your miles away from your friends at home still keep in touch, you will return home one day away from your new friends and you will have no body other than family if you don't.


Never ever have unprotected sex unless you want a baby - it will be you that catches


Stick out your A levels and join the army later

ETA - Things that went right

I wore those painful braces for 4 years. So pleased with my teeth now. Thank you Mum.

Catching pregnant at 19 being totally naive thinking that even though my DS is missing part of his brain he will be alright.

Keeping the special little boy i was told to consider terminating. So so perfect and so special.

marywooyeah

Love is supposed to make you happy - not miserable.

No man is worth giving up your child for - I'd go back and tell myself there is a way out and things can work out.

I'd tell myself not to worry what others may or may not think of you.

PenguinOfDeath

Pick a career/skill/area of interest and stick to it!

You are not that fat BUT eating crap everyday will not help this and makes it very difficult to shift the weight later on

'Friends' are not true friends if they only look out for themselves and never consider your thoughts or feelings

Trust your instincts, if you feel someone is up to something, they usually are!

mishkanorman

I would tell myself to enjoy the rollercoaster, the crappy times just make the good all that much sweeter,

Dont have those last 3 double Vodkas because its near last orders - you really dont need them, you are most definately drunk enough!

All those times you stood up to the various bitter old hags who felt the need to target you were worth it, you can hold your head high knowing that you had the measure of them, although there is one you should have removed from your life a long time before you did.

You will have the most beautiful children who make your heart melt every single day, they will bring you more joy than you ever dreamt possible,

your life will be good, very good

Saturnalia

I love you + lend me money = loser.

Do not put that fag in your mouth, you'll regret it 15 years on trying to kick it for the umpteenth time.

You aren't fat, tad chunky maybe. Get to the gym & you'll have a strong & healthy body as well as a slender one.