Why the everyday make-up?

coolcait

katie1812 wrote: »

My fianc! says I look much better without make up

My OH says that too.

Interestingly, the look that he thinks is "without make up" is actually the everyday hint of foundation, mascara, concealer and lippy.

"You like nice made up like that" is what he says when I'm ready for the once in a blue moon big night out.

"You look tired" is his response to my natural look during the day.

I have no idea what he truly thinks about how I look without make-up when I am in bed, alone with him, and the children are elsewhere. Those are times when he sees the opportunity for sex and I am, therefore, inevitably gorgeous in his eyes!:rotfl:

coolcait

Person_one wrote: »

How about 'if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all'?

Yet if the OP had followed that advice, would the thread be this long?

Have you followed this advice on this thread?

etc

Tina20

I really don't mean to offend anyone, but why on earth would you be in a relationship with someone who didnt love the way you look without makeup?

If I was in a relationship where I felt pressured to wear foundation, concealer, lippy etc, I'd start to question why I was with that person. Do you think your man looks tired without makeup? Does he not look so good without lippy or concealer?

Um of course not! So why does the woman in the relationship need makeup?

Madness!!

daisy_darling

claire16c wrote: »

And I dont get this 5 minutes extra in bed thing - you could just go to bed 5 minutes earlier?? Or maybe you sleep for longer anyway? Or perhaps the people who put make up on in the mornings dont do other things, that the people who dont wear make up, do do. Like.. feed the cat or whatever lol. Its not really a good argument!

Mostly it boils down to inertia.

We all have our idea of what is necessary in order to greet the day. My list is short, be clean, be dressed. Make-up for me just isn't important enough to be on the list.

onlyroz

Wirenth wrote: »

I think it depends upon which industry you work in. I'm an engineer and never wear makeup to work. On very special occasions, I may wear powder, mascara, eyeshadow and lipstick. I've never been professionally penalised for doing so.

Absolutely - I've been well beaten with the ugly stick and hardly ever wear make-up, and certainly never wear it to work. I work in a professional, largely male-dominated, environment hand have never been penalised or discriminated against in any way.

Tiddlywinks

Tina20 wrote: »

I'm a pretty ugly person, and surprisingly look worse with makeup on! My sister tried to do a proper makeover on me and I genuinely looked horrendous.

So I've just accepted I'm not the most beautiful person in the world and I live with it.

Marketing is the only reason women feel better with makeup on. The makeup manufacturers are rubbing their hands in glee, raking in the cash from vulnerable women they have convinced look ugly without it.

Sorry but that really is a judgemental statement.

I am a professional mature woman who CHOOSES to wear (natural looking) makup to work. My career does not depend on it nor do I feel any external pressures to comply.

I am not 'vulnerable' nor am I convinced I look ugly without makeup - I wear it because I want to!

Your statement says a lot about your own insercurities and your view of other women. Does it make you feel better to look down on makeup wearers thinking they are to be pitied rather than face your own views about yourself?

Edited to add... you say you are an 'ugly person', this I would say may be the root of your 'issues'... not having a pretty face doesn't make someone an 'ugly person' - looks are only external and superficial. It's how a person acts that make them a beautiful person as the 'person' is the whole package not just a pretty face and a fit body.

Bogof_Babe

jackieb wrote: »

When my sister and her friend were 13 they shaved off each others eyebrows and drew them on with a pencil. Soon after they had a swimming lesson at school. My sister said they looked like a pair of aliens as their drawn on brows disappeared when they went into the pool. :rotfl:

What I hate most is getting home from being out in the rain and finding that half of one eyebrow has completely disappeared :eek:. I look like something off Dr Who!

Good thing we can laugh about ourselves isn't it? :rotfl:

Oh and to the poster who mentioned about our husband/partner not loving us without make-up, I don't think that was what was said at all. They love us just the same, but find us more attractive with our clothes/hair/shoes/face looking their best. As anyone would.

Person_one

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Sorry but that really is a judgemental statement.

I am a professional mature woman who CHOOSES to wear (natural looking) makup to work. My career does not depend on it nor do I feel any external pressures to comply.

I am not 'vulnerable' nor am I convinced I look ugly without makeup - I wear it because I want to!

Your statement says a lot about your own insercurities and your view of other women. Does it make you feel better to look down on makeup wearers thinking they are to be pitied rather than face your own views about yourself?

I think its important to be aware of the external influences on our choices though.

There's no denying the huge amount of pressure on women to look as good as they can, or the fact that women are judged on their looks to a much much greater extent than men are.

Its not a choice made in isolation.

Tina20

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Sorry but that really is a judgemental statement.

I am a professional mature woman who CHOOSES to wear (natural looking) makup to work. My career does not depend on it nor do I feel any external pressures to comply.

I am not 'vulnerable' nor am I convinced I look ugly without makeup - I wear it because I want to!

Your statement says a lot about your own insercurities and your view of other women. Does it make you feel better to look down on makeup wearers thinking they are to be pitied rather than face your own views about yourself?

My point is, if the makeup wasn't there you wouldn't feel a lack of it. But the adverts and general marketing makes you feel that you want it, the same as every product really.

You feel you look better with it, because you are told you will look better. If they said 'buy our product, you will look exactly the same' would you buy it? I doubt it, you buy it because you feel it benefits your appearance.

My point is, you wouldn't feel the lack if they hadn't told you it was important.

jellyhead

The thing I don't understand about adverts is how they sell skin cream using a model who's wearing make-up. You can't see her skin!