Why the everyday make-up?

jellyhead

RadoJo wrote: »

I have never come cross a scenario where someone has commented on another's decision not to wear makeup, and certainly not in the workplace. OP - perhaps your thoughts on your colleagues are more obvious that you realise if they felt drawn to comment about your decision? The fact that people have taken offence at your comments on here suggests that you may word things in a way that leads people to believe that you are antagonising them. Either that or you work with an unusually rude bunch of people, but you say that you get on the rest of the time, so I am at a loss as to why the subject should have even arisen.

It's possible that they are asking her to be better groomed because they think she's too scruffy. I've had that twice

When I was a barmaid it was in the contract that we had to wear make-up. My supervisor was offended that I looked like a scruffy student, and came straight from uni, doing nothing to get ready other than put on my uniform.

When I started my uni placement I was again spoken to about my appearance. My doc martens were scaring the pensioners (I worked for a charity that helped elderly people). I had to buy some normal shoes and proper work clothes.

Both times they wanted me to be more normal, be more like them. My next job was in mcdonalds where I had hair tied back under a hat and no make-up. I preferred that

Fuzzy_Duck

I just like wearing it I guess. It only takes me a few minutes to do a full face of make up as well so it's not like it takes up much time. I think a lot of it is down to having bad skin as a teenager and only feeling confident if I was wearing make up to hide it. Despite being surrounded by girls who apply their make up with a trowel, I was made to scrub it off by the teachers. Needless to say I went a bit mad with experimenting once I was at college and could wear what I wanted. I now wear a lot less, but I still feel a confident boost with a bit of lippie on.

I only wear it if I'm leaving the house though. I'll happily not bother with it if I'm staying in, and I'm perfectly able to cope if I have to open the door to the postman with a bare face All my friends have seen me without make up on so I certainly don't think I'm so insecure I can't manage without it.

As for what men think, my boyfriend is not so keen on the lippie as I don't like him smudging it all over my face. Otherwise he doesn't care. In his own words I don't look better or worse with make up on, just different. And I look fine to him either way.

lostinrates

I have not been wearing daily make up recently. For me its a sign i feel.....not up to par, not worth bothering.

My normal routine is that i get showered, changed, made up after my morning chores (roughly between nine and ten) today i did this as normal for the first time in ages and I really do feel a little better for it.

I caertainly look much better wearing makeup. Not necessarily much but a bit. Today its some bb cream, touche eclat, some eyebrows (which i don't really have without an eye pencil) and mascara. I have some vit e oil on my lips (whoch i use instead of lipbalm or gloss) and mascara. So not much. But i look more like a me i like. In the same way I think i smell more like a me i want to be when i wear deoderant/antiperspirant than if i do not.

FatVonD

Person_one wrote: »

Having been both reasonably attractive and fairly unattractive I definitely feel the world in general is a much nicer and kinder place for attractive people.

That is so true, I'm aware that many doors opened to me when I was younger because of the way I looked, (I hope I can say that without sounding vain now that I'm older and fatter ), it came as a bit of a shocker to me when I had to start paying to get my tyres checked, age is a great leveller :rotfl:

Tiddlywinks

Tina20 wrote: »

My point is, if the makeup wasn't there you wouldn't feel a lack of it. But the adverts and general marketing makes you feel that you want it, the same as every product really. You could apply that to MacDonald's food, buying handbags or using a bed! Availability gives CHOICE!

You feel you look better with it, because you are told you will look better. If they said 'buy our product, you will look exactly the same' would you buy it? I doubt it, you buy it because you feel it benefits your appearance. No, I use it because I WANT to.

My point is, you wouldn't feel the lack if they hadn't told you it was important.

No, it is you that is missing the point.

Personally, I have reached a point in my life where I am comfortable with who I am, what I can achieve and what I want from life.

I'm sorry that you find it hard to grasp that I might want to wear makeup or choose to wear makeup but I do - my life, my choice.

And the fact that you want so deperately to believe that I wear makeup because I am weak and have been manipulated... well, again, that says more about you than it does about me.

balletshoes

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

Oh and to the poster who mentioned about our husband/partner not loving us without make-up, I don't think that was what was said at all. They love us just the same, but find us more attractive with our clothes/hair/shoes/face looking their best. As anyone would.

hmm - you see I think thats a matter of perception, which is different for everyone.

ie my OH changes his hairstyle and facial hair style almost every week, the hair is often cut for practical reasons, not fashion/style reasons, and it wouldn't be what he would choose to have ideally. However, I think with very short hair he's really sexy-looking, so to me, thats him looking his best, but to him, its not.

zaxdog

I'm not scruffy at all tbh. The subjct more came up one day when we were discussing our morning routines. Mine involved getting up, taking the dog out, getting showered, dressed then bunging a pinny over my work clothes and putting together a casserole for dinner in the slow cooker. Oh and I like to set up my OH's desk (he works from home) with a flask of coffee, bottle of ice water, fruit, supplements etc.

The idea of sparing time to put make-up on is just not something I would do and I was interested in whether others do, that's about it.

jellyhead

If your OH took the dog out while you made the casserole, or vice versa, you'd have time to do your make-up

tea_lover

Tina20 wrote: »

I really don't mean to offend anyone, but why on earth would you be in a relationship with someone who didnt love the way you look without makeup?

My OH loves me just as much without make-up on, but I do agree with another poster who says it's also a matter of perception.

Using the example of OH's hair (borrowed from balletshoes) - my OH currently has his hair a bit longer and I love it. It was shorter when I met him and I'm sure at some point he'll cut it again but honestly, I do prefer it a bit longer. I love him just the same regardless of what it looks like, and obviously find him attractive. But I think it's fine to find certain hairstyles/clothes/aftershaves more appealing than others on him. In the same way I know that he loves me no matter what make up I have on/don't have on - but honestly he probably prefers not having to look at my acne at all the time lol.

delain

I havent worn makeup in about 5 years :eek: I'm just too lazy. My opinion - if you don't like the way I look - don't look at me!