THE CHALLENGE OF A FUTURE WITHOUT Mr 3Dogs ..... but friends will make it possible

3Dogs

Oh, I rang up JobCentre Plus today to find out what that extra £291 that went into my bank on Wednesday was for and it is ESA money that I should have received in Nov/Dec 2011 :eek: :eek: My records don't really show that I was shortpaid then, but I defer to their superior knowledge and will spend the money wisely :money: :money:

3Dogs

I made a frightening decision last night well it terrified me:eek: and I've gone and paid the deposit on my new car. I did go with the Nissan Note after all as it offered everything I wanted and needed. At the start of my search, I told myself that if I could get a new Note with all the specs I wanted, in the colour I wanted at a certain price I set myself, then I would go for it. Although I did look at 1-year-old cars, and also at the Meriva which proved too expensive, I did find my car at exactly the price I was looking for :j

So, it is being registered for me to pick it up first thing in the morning in two weeks time - Saturday 1st September, with the new 62 plate ................. and I am very excited :j :j

But, like I said, it is a very scarey thing to do, spend that much money on a car, when you've never had a new car before :eek: :eek: and never really had that sort of money before either :eek: :eek: However, Alan did want me to try to get a new car so he wasn't worried about me getting around, and having transport problems, so I am happy with my decision

3Dogs

I am off to bed now so goodnight guys - sleep well

JayJay14

Well done with the car purchase 3Dogs, I like Nissans, they are really easy to drive. I used to have an almera (and a bluebird before that) but traded it in at 14 years old for a brand new seat leon with the scrappage scheme. It was very scarey having my first new car and even 3 years down the line with it's first MOT next week it still feels wonderful. (Though in my case it isn't paid for yet - very large DD going out on 7th Sept for the final payment :eek:)

My DHSS time was 1976-1979 in one of our local offices - I was a trained teacher but there were no jobs so there were loads of us working there. I worked on supplementary benefits before any computers were installed, so it was all face to face interviews and paperwork. We had some lovely clients though, I remember one homeless guy who came in for daily payments - we were the only people at his funeral but he had become a friend over the years and was a gentleman.

House viewing went quite well, they are viewing lots of houses over they weekend so we will see if they come back. Last weeks viewers haven't got back to us yet so they either haven't got the mortgage or are still waiting. It would be nice to find someone though, especially as the price of diesel is shooting up again.

Have to book a hotel this weekend for our trip to London - well I think we are going to stay in Croydon as it is fairly close to DD and my brother with free parking and there is a great deal at the Hilton Well if we are going that far we might as well stay somewhere nice especially if they are only going to charge us £169 for three nights with breaky (and hilton breakies are awsome) and they have a gym to work it off. :rotfl:

Anyway we are off to waitrose (for whoopsies and OH's cigars ) and aldi for the rest of the weeks shopping.

boultdj

Enjoy your new car.

3Dogs

JayJay14 wrote: »

My DHSS time was 1976-1979 in one of our local offices - I was a trained teacher but there were no jobs so there were loads of us working there. I worked on supplementary benefits before any computers were installed, so it was all face to face interviews and paperwork. We had some lovely clients though, I remember one homeless guy who came in for daily payments - we were the only people at his funeral but he had become a friend over the years and was a gentleman.

I go from 1969 :eek: when I left school at 16, to December 1989 when I got my ill-health retirement. At Central Office, I worked in the sections where the NI cards came in and we counted up the number of stamps on the cards and posted them clerically onto their NI ledger sheet, together with credits and then dealt with the 'shuttle cards' which came in from Local Offices asking for details of their stamps/credits to see if they were entitled to benefit. Long long time before the computers took over :eek: :eek:

When we moved down here in 1985, and I transferred to a Local Office, I was training on the Supplementary Benefit side to become a Visiting Officer but a vacancy came up on Contributions so I became a NI Inspector instead. That story of the homeless man is so lovely but so sad too

boultdj wrote: »

Enjoy your new car.

I will

3Dogs

Wow it's been hot here today. 28 degrees and it as 22 degrees during the night :eek:

I went down to the car boot late morning and had a chat and wander, then had my breakfast/lunch and then a cuppa and chat with Stuart after he packed his gear up. Then I went to B&Q as I had a 20% code for this weekend. I got 2 x 5 litres of my Crown emulsion, gloss paint, pollyfilla, brushes, and other decorating bits, plus a ceiling fan for the bedroom and a new mop It came to £156 :eek: :eek: but I got £31 discount which means I got my ceiling fan for nowt as the other things I got were at good prices anyway :j :j

The clouds were coming over when I got home but the temperature still high. Steve, Andy and Kit rang and I had a good laugh with them and after that I decided to do some gardening out the back, pulling out thistles and other weeds and cutting back the rasps/blackberries a bit more. Looking a bit better now I hadn't realised that when I was doing this the clouds had rolled over and the sun was scorching down again

beanielou

All sounding good :j

beanielou

If I am more than 3 lbs over my target I have to pay right?

Anyone got a M on Sun code?

maccymum

3Dogs wrote: »

I am starting a new diary from today as I return home and start my life without my Mr 3Dogs - my beloved w'angel - my lamb - my rock - my Alan

Since Alan was diagnosed with terminal bowel cancer on 22nd February and sadly died on 3rd July, I have been astonished and heartened by the support I have received from family, real-life friends and MSE friends. You have all helped me through this horrendous time and I thank you all, though 'thank you' seems so inadequate for the support I have received but I mean it from the bottom of my heart :A

It all seems to have happened so fast, that I don't think I have come to terms with it yet. A prognosis that went from '6 months to 2 years' and some chemo to help slow it down at the start, to 'more like months' and no chemo possible as he was too weak, to 'within the month' which was actually only a week Alan and I both determined to take it as it came and make the most of every minute, and we did what we could in the time we had, though not everything was possible with him being so weak

Most important thing was that we did it all together, I was with him all the way and at the end, and he knew that I was there. He died peacefully in my arms, having accepted the inevitable when his liver failed. I knew that Kit, Steve and Andy had promised him that they would look after me when they saw him that last weekend but what I didn't know until about a week ago was that he had asked them to promise to look after me and see that I was ok. This was when he gave them all a kiss and hug when we left on the Sunday. Steve was amazed that Alan gave him a kiss after always saying 'I'm not kissing you' :rotfl:I am crying my heart out now, typing this, as it is really shows that he knew at that time that the battle was lost

I know that I did everything I could for him and he knew this too. We talked about my future and he knew that I would be looked after, and, with his pension money, I would be able to manage financially. I told him everything I wanted to and needed to. We had time to say goodbye ............


But ....................................


This is my first time I have been really on my own, at home, in my own space ............... and only now can I scream out in self-pity ..... WHY HIM ............. WHY US ........... I want him back :mad: and I can really sob my heart out. People have said that Alan is still with me and I know he is in my heart, but I cannot feel him here ............ and I do so want to. In my self-pity, I feel cheated right now

But, I will pull myself together and carry on. I know that I can still have fun, as I did on holiday with the gang the last two weeks. I know that I can sort things out with his pension, DWP, Council, etc, as that is what I do best. I know that I will be ok and can have a good future

I am looking forward to getting Bess and Molly back from the kennels tomorrow afternoon and getting into a routine again, taking them for walks, going to the car boot/auction, and shopping especially at Tosco of course

But for today, I will wallow in self-pity, miss my lamb like hell, curse the b*****d disease that took him so quickly, and have a drink later on tonight. Today is definitely a pj day for me ........ and maybe I'll have that drink now actually

Cheers to my Mr 3Dogs, whose avatar, which suited him so well, I have adopted

So here's to the future with my friends keeping me going. I meant to quote it at the time but didn't, but French Knickers referred to how well I was facing up to adversity and my mind went back to a school report when the teacher said:

Susan must learn to stand up in the face of adversity and not bow down to it

Well, I reckon Susan/3Dogs is still standing What do you think guys?


Added from a later post:

On this thread: We share our problems. We share our fears. We share our sorrow. We share our tears. We share our hopes. We share our joy. We share our laughter. We share our advice. We share our love :A

hi

i hope you dont mind me commenting, i have come on to make my own diary to try and get debt free.....but reading your post has just brought home to me there is more to life!!! (yes i do know this but sometimes get bogged down with things and forget how lucky i am)

i hope you are finding some comfort in your memories of your beloved and the times you shared.

again, i hope i didnt offend by commenting.

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