Weekly Flylady Thread 30th July 2012

Jazee

Right achieved so far:

Find out what the horrible smell is in the fridge - cleaned thoroughly, still don't know what's causing the smell though, all food seems ok
Eat - done
Clear hotspots - done
See how much I've spent - done, not as much as I expected so woohoo!
Menu plan - done using mainly what's in the freezer

Still to do -

Shower
Walk dogs (weather permitting)
Cut grass & weeding (weather permitting)
Unpack
Sort out recycling
Food shopping, not a lot to get now, should come in budget even with major dog food order
Vaccuum living room
Get up to date with washing

Not bad, just finishing off another cuppa, then will get moving again.

Valli

Morning all

lounge full of dozing, TV watching 16 YO girls
dw emptied
kitchen straightened
am awaiting e bay collection 'this weekend'
have requested confirmation of tighter time slot - so far not forthcoming:mad:
I have laundry to distribute -

MrsChaos

Morning all (just )

Not had a great week, but I'm not really sure why. I'd better snap out of it and stop wasting time. I think I'll forget about the lists for the moment and focus on my downstairs RoD (aka the dining room) this weekend.

Shopping will happen tomorrow (quick trip to lidl), although I'll have to pop into our little towncentre for milk (and probably burgers for tea). Hopefully DH will stop sulking long enough to read my text and buy some toothpaste for DS2.

I'll try to order uniform online, so one trip to town next week should be enough. Trying to save fuel for our trip to the seaside next week in the hope that I can manage with the petrol budget and not need a top up. I'd hoped to visit a friend in a different seaside town, too, but that's not looking too hopeful.

OK, list looks as follows:
[STRIKE]dry laundry[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]strip beds and wash[/STRIKE] dry bedding
[STRIKE]buy milk[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]uniform order[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]catfood order[/STRIKE]
lots of HHCs in RoD
[STRIKE]plan tea[/STRIKE]
get DS2 to help

Hope everyone has a good Saturday. x

bossymoo

Have we been spammed? #384

rita-rabbit

How many of you are getting your other half to do chores? Even 30% of it?

I ask because BF recently moved in & after biting my lip I told him that I didn't find it fun to:
do the shopping
cook
wash up afterwards
so he started doing the dishes (v small kitchen no space for dishwasher)
yesterday I was off sick but still cooked (twice) he was off work (he works rotational (day shifts) sporadically he brought me mugs of tea & ocassionally fruit. I washed up as I went along to discover this morning he left his dirty plate & spoon behind.
Note: after asking him if all laundry was in basket before he left for work today: I then discovered dirty socks in `his side of the cupboard' instead of in the laundry basket (fury & tempted 2 set fire to them ensued).

Is there
any point continuing with this relationship
ways 2 get him 2 act like a decent adult
ideas very welcome :0(

Valli

post after mine and before Mrs Chaos' reported as spam!

because it will be deleted!

Please do likewise (shame really as I haven't got a sugarcane crusher. Not sure if I would have much use for it :rotfl:)

Ironing done

Rita - I live alone - well, with the Vallikids. I have two kids. I used to have three - tips for man training?

be specific - don't moan about how much youi have to do - tell him he has to do his share and you want him to do X, Y and Z. Without being asked. Or reminded. Reminded = nagging. (In his vocabulary)

BUT IF YOU ARE OFF WORK SICK YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING! Other than sip soothing drinks;)

I have been married twice so not the best person to give advice;)

MrsChaos

Reported it, too, Valli.

Internet orders done. Time to peg washing out and see to beds now. Then I'll make a drink and decide where to start in the DR.

ionafan

Hello, rita-rabbit.

You asked:
>Is there
1. any point continuing with this relationship
2. ways 2 get him 2 act like a decent adult

1. It depends on how many other annoying little ways he can wind you up with. My DH and I are constantly annoying each other - not intentionally: it's just the way we are, having each spent 15 years on our own and becoming set in our ways - but now after nearly 3 years of marriage (we are both in our 60s) we are in total agreement that life together is infinitely better than it was before, and we are becoming more able to cope with each other's ways.
If the sum total of your BF's annoying little ways outweighs the joys of togetherness, and you cannot change to accept how he is, the answer is definitely NO.

2. See if you can compromise. My DH has the garage all to himself and I do not try to tidy up his mess in there unless it piles up too close to the gas boiler and becomes a fire hazard. But he knows that if he leaves piles of papers and magazines on the breakfast table or in the LR and I am in flying mode, all his junk will go in a basket on the bookshelves (better than just piling them up: things don't fall out of it). He then has to sort it out for himself, and usually makes an effort when I point out gently that the basket is overflowing.

Thank him for everything that he does. Work around him. Look upon picking up clothes off the floordrobe as exercise to tone your tummy muscles. Ask him to do one job on a daily basis (my DH always gets the breakfast for both of us) and only add to his list of regular chores when he can do the first one without having to be reminded. If it's his job to wash up after a meal, leave it to him and don't interfere. Remember that very few men can multitask. Sometimes they also genuinely forget. (All things that I've learnt the hard way.)

Invite him to fly with you rather than for you.

And don't expect miracles in a week!

Good luck!

Jazee

My update:

Have done the following

Shower
Unpack
Sort out recycling, also emptied all the bins
Food shopping, not a lot to get now, should come in budget even with major dog food order - it has come within budget, yay!
Get up to date with washing - 2nd load in WM, 3 more to go. One on line. Emptied airer from the other day and put the clothes away.
Had a quick lunch

Still to do:

Walk dogs (weather permitting)
Cut grass & weeding (weather permitting)
Vaccuum living room
Get up to date with washing
Washing up

I have no advice re the BF moving in and not doing a lot. I'm a bit of a nagger, can't help myself.

helen_jelly

Afternoon everyone

Pigpen - Happy Birthday to LO, I can't believe she is 2!! Hope your party goes well and that the sun shines for you

I've decluttered some money at Wilkos in their sale of gardening bits and also at Argos on a new Hoover - just a little one [can't afford a biggie] Now I feel knackered - coughing is terrible and my chest, tummy and throat hurt from all the coughing, I want to clean the inside of the car so need some energy for that :[[

Helen