Hairy arms on 9 year old

Person_one

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Like I said, I'm not interested in any advice like that thankyou and there is no pressure, or even pressure!

You don't have to listen to it, but you can't tell people how to post.

Body image and confidence is important, whether you believe that or not, I hope for your daughter's sake its something you have thought about even though you won't talk about it on here.

19lottie82

OP, has someone in school said something to her? If her comments about her hairy arms were more than just fleeting ones, then I'm guessing so.

You say the hairs are blonde and light,so I wouldn't worry about it. Try not to make a big deal of it in front of her.

When she is older and her body hair bothers her, she can make the decision to remove it, but at 7, she is too young, especially if, as you say, it isn't noticeable. Likelyhood is, if it's not a lot worse than her peers, she will forget about it shortly.

balletshoes

OP I'm glad you've had posts saying its possible your daughter's arm hair may become thinner in appearance as she grows older, hopefully that may be the case with your DD.

If she's the only one who has noticed and commented, then I'd tell your DD that its perfectly normal, some girls get more hair than others on their bodies, and at different times. And that her hair on her body may become less noticeable as she gets older.

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

You don't have to listen to it, but you can't tell people how to post.

Body image and confidence is important, whether you believe that or not, I hope for your daughter's sake its something you have thought about even though you won't talk about it on here.

I know it's important, there are people out there, as well as you, who have their own minds.

I knew this was going to turn into this sort of daft bickering about body image and how I was the bad one bringing it up, which I why I specifically said I didn't want to know anything about it.

Of course I forgot about the MSE busybodies who have to tell everyone else how to live.

Lotus-eater

19lottie82 wrote: »

OP, has someone in school said something to her? If her comments about her hairy arms were more than just fleeting ones, then I'm guessing so.

I don't think anyone has said anything about it to her, this is more about me finding out whether her arms will stay hairy or not as she grows up.

Thanks for the replies which answered this.

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

What I want to know, is there a chance they will get less hairy as she gets older? Or will they get more hairy?
She is a blonde and the hair doesn't show much, more a golden sheen, but she asked the question the other day, why are my arms so hairy.

I don't want to know anything about how her body image shouldn't matter to her, nor anything along those guidelines thankyou.
Just a simple question.

Mine were like that when I was younger (I'm blonde too). They haven't got less hairy, but...I dunno. It's like the amount of skin they are spread over has increased, so it looks like a lot less. It's not a noticeable thing anymore and I never think about it (I can remember being curious about it at her age).

As with the hair on my head, they have gotten a little darker, but a little bit of sun and they go really blonde again.

I can also remember having a friend, with dark hair, who was so concerned about the hairs on her arms that she started shaving them at about....age 12 I think. As far as I know, she still does (at 29). Truth is, hers were never really that bad either, but I guess she didn't think that. But then, she has serious body issues. Unless your girl is showing signs of body issues, then I don't think you need to worry about her going to this extreme.

Oliver14

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Of course I forgot about the MSE busybodies who have to tell everyone else how to live.

Because you don't agree with them they're busy bodies?

If you don't want people discussing the issue don't post it. If you do post it though you have to except the matter will be discussed if you agree with the points or not. That's why it's called a discussion forum (clues in the name)

euronorris

Oliver14 wrote: »

Because you don't agree with them they're busy bodies?

If you don't want people discussing the issue don't post it. If you do post it though you have to except the matter will be discussed if you agree with the points or not. That's why it's called a discussion forum (clues in the name)

I suspect that Lotus is well aware of the possible body image issues that could result, or be linked to, the hair on her arms. But I also suspect he already knows full well what to say, and how to approach the issue, to give reassurances etc etc.

I also wonder if maybe he wants this answer ready, so that if she does start to focus on it, he an assure her that not only is it normal, there's a good chance she'll 'grow out of it' and if not, she can use some form of hair removal, so it's not a big deal that she needs to spend any time focusing on.

At least, that is what I thought when I read the OP, but then I 'know' Lotus from other threads and discussions.

crochet_2

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I don't think anyone has said anything about it to her, this is more about me finding out whether her arms will stay hairy or not as she grows up.

Thanks for the replies which answered this.

Why are you concerned?

What's the issue with females having body hair?

You are hardly empowering her by enforcing such an ideal.

peachyprice

Oh for goodness sake, she's a little girl, little girls don't want to be teased for being different to all the other girls in their class.

But yes, lets empower them and make them feel like freaks for the rest of their school days, I'm sure it must be character building for them.

Not all parents WANT to see their children heartbroken, some would rather take the option of dealing with the problem rather than forcing their children to live lives of miser. Why is that such a problem for you?