Mum at school giving evil looks to my child

Sambucus_Nigra

milliebear00001 wrote: »

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If I really felt the woman had a problem with me, then I would ask her if I'd upset her. If I didn't care what she thought of me, I'd probably ignore it.

If my DD came home telling me another adult was rolling their eyes and sighing and didn't like them, I'd be watching and waiting for evidence of this (which probably wouldn't take long) before asking for a quick private word and asking if my DD had done something to upset her daughter.

Excellent. That's better.

milliebear00001

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Excellent. That's better.

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Mojoworking

I've really nothing useful to say - I don't know why people act the way they do, all you can do is not become embroiled in it all, have a fab 6 weeks away from school and make some fab memories and get her mixing in clubs and groups away from school to have a more varied circle of friends. We only live once, I don't understand why people make such an effort to be petty and mean.

maggirl

Thanks, its interesting to see the differing opinions which is why I posted here!

I've already told DD off for the "a bit pointless" comment she made and explained that it could have been interpreted as being critical or jealous. I appreciate that Im not around her all day so DD could have done something else to upset Amy, I really dont know, but she is usually truthful and is a bad liar so I can usually tell if she isnt giving me the full story. I just come back to my point that as an adult I would NEVER behave like that to a child, especially in a semi official environment where the child is supposed to be safe, like afterschool club. I dont personally like Chloe much but I wouldnt dream of being horrible to her.

When I pick DD up from afterschool I personally try and get away as quickly as poss (usually because Im shattered from work and want to get home asap) but some of the other mums linger around, evn sitting sown with their kids and getting involved with the games, especially if their kids are busy or doing these "role play" things that they seem to be obsessed with at DDs school at the moment. Amy's mum does this a lot so comes into contact with DD. I may have a word with the afterschool organisers but then it might just come across that I am a paranoid mum.

Thankfully I have 6 weeks of peace away from school now!

Interestingly, over the weekend I didnt want to harp on about it to DD but I asked her how the womans other daughter (who is younger than Amy and also goes to afterschool) has been behaving around DD. My DD had previously got on really well with Amy's younger sister, often playing with her when Amy and Chloe couldnt be bothered having a younger one hanging around. DD said that this little girl is also behaving oddly to her, hissing at her if she goes near and snatching stuff away and not wanting to be around her. Sounds like Amy's mum doesnt want any of her family to have anything to do with my DD which is sad as my DD likes Amy's younger sister and they were quite good pals.

I got a good book out of the library at the weekend, all about how to deal with cliques, bullying etc in young girls. Its an American book so is centred around what happens in their education system, but it seems quite relevant and once I've read it (Im only at chapter 2) I will come back and post the conclusions from the book!! At least I have 6 wks to get through it!!!

Desperado99

I guess the best thing is to teach your DD that some people have slightly lower standards with regards to behaviour (both children and adults).

My own DD has had some real trials with her friends this year - a couple of them did something really mean to her and she was devastated, even more so when the rest of her 'friends' took their side over her (even though it was perfectly clear to everyone - including teachers that she was the victim). I'm so pleased she's moving schools this september (primary to secondary) and only one other child from that set is moving with her.

Best of luck with it