A harsh punishment or fair enough?

lovinituk

raven83 wrote: »

I wish people would be be more clearer in their OP and state the facts as it would make it so much clearer and easier to understand!

Or perhaps people shouldn't jump so quickly to conclusions based on their emotions Ask for more info if you're not sure.

Nan63

As stated, if Child A has been the subject of previous bullying then I completely understand why the teacher got involved and the punishment given.

The question that needs answering in my view is why Child B and 'significant number of other children' appear to be targeting Child A with 'mean and spiteful' behaviour and what is being done to stop this.

sassyblue

Spendless wrote: »

I'm not. I am the mother of Child A and when told the story by my DD, I actually felt sorry for Child B with the punishment given.

Apologies spendless, but you're being very generous towards child B. It could have been upsetting and given the history l still think the teacher was right.

londonsurrey

lovinituk wrote: »

Or perhaps people shouldn't jump so quickly to conclusions based on their emotions Ask for more info if you're not sure.

I have. Twice.
It hasn't worked yet.

lovinituk

londonsurrey wrote: »

I have. Twice.
It hasn't worked yet.

You have what twice? Jumped to conclusions? I told you about doing that

londonsurrey

lovinituk wrote: »

You have what twice? Jumped to conclusions? I told you about doing that

I've asked about Child C twice.

embob74

Maybe I'm seeing it differently but I would think it all depended upon the intention of Child B. If it was to hurt and humiliate Child B then it was unnecessarily cruel but if it was meant in good humour and it was thought that Child A would see the funny side then it is fairly harmless IMO.
Of course I am basing my thoughts on the fact that Child A and Child B were playing at the time the invite was given so I'm assuming it was very obviously not a real invitation (possibly handmade?)
I would be surprised if the invite looked genuine as although I know my DD at the age of 9 was extremely proficient in the use of Powerpoint and could have created a good invite it would have involved a lot of time and effort on the part of Child B and I just don't like to think any child would spend that much time on being nasty.
Besides which surely the grammar and spelling would not be that great?

EDIT:
I took so long typing the OP has given a much clearer picture! I feel the teacher has over-reacted. When my DD's were 9 they regularly had fallouts with other children which sometimes led to intervention by the teacher. And lo and behold a week later they were friends again! It teaches that you may get punished for bullying behaviour but also that it is good to forgive and move on.
If the scenario was that the children were role-playing and the invite was made while they were role-playing (in view of Child A so they knew it was not a real invite) and the question of whether they would be attending was in the form of role-playing then it is totally harmless in my view.

Tropez

Apologies if I missed it but what is this traffic lights system as that to me is the real indicator of whether there has been an overreaction? What implications are there in being moved down a light? They're 9 years old so I cannot imagine they're anything particularly severe.

Spendless

sassyblue wrote: »

Apologies spendless, but you're being very generous towards child B. It could have been upsetting and given the history l still think the teacher was right.

Thank you, though I knew I was leaving myself wide open to being asked/accussed by not giving more detail. I decided early on I would reveal who I was if it was thought Child B was mine or a lot later on in the thread. I did think some people might question if I was the parent of Child C. As to why she told teacher, I've no idea. Child C has flitted between the group of girls being nasty to my DD and playing with her. A question that came up was if my DD realised straight away the invite wasn't genuine. I think it was you who questioned my earlier response. The answer is I don't know. I don't know if she took one look at it and realised or if she read it and thought about it and then knew it wasn't true.

Spendless

londonsurrey wrote: »

I've asked about Child C twice.

Aplologies but this is a fast moving thread and in the time it takes me to type an answer to something I've seen there's been loads more replies. I have answered this above I think.