A harsh punishment or fair enough?

dizsiebubba

Would the teacher have punished B if they were playing any other game and A pretended they were a princess/doctor/teacher

londonsurrey

Spendless wrote: »

Child A wasn't asked anything about it by teacher whether they thought it real or not. Child C informed teacher. A and B had been playing thru-out breaks and lunch-times, the invite was given during one of these times.

So both Child A and Child B were happily playing, and there wasn't a problem?

What I don't understand is if it was smooth untroubled happy playing, what was significant about this that triggered Child C to even think of telling the teacher?

sassyblue

Spendless wrote: »

Child A realised the invite wasn't official. Yes, it was done in school time though not during lessons.

Then the punishment is about right. It was a mean thing when under the schools supervision so that's why they had to do something. Good behaviour will make sure child B earns their way back up higher.

FatVonD

A cruel and nasty trick to play and the parents should be backing the teacher, not looking for reasons to try to excuse their child's behaviour.

balletshoes

I started off thinking a lot would depend on Child A's reaction to this - but then I thought, no, it really shouldn't depend on Child A's reaction. My opinion is that its a mean thing to do to Child A.

Child B should be made aware that their actions, however intended, had the potential to be a mean and embarrassing thing to do, which could upset Child A (or any child they did this to in similar circumstances) greatly, and its not nice to upset/embarrass people. So yes, I think the punishment is fair to be honest.

peachyprice

But child A knew it wasn't real, according to OP she wasn't in the least upset.

Spendless

londonsurrey wrote: »

Did Child A realise it straight away?

I can't honestly say "instantly" but pretty much as the invite was mis-spelt.

peachyprice wrote: »

It depends whether this was done out of malice or whether child B thought child A would see through it within a short time if child C hadn't interfered. Was it a joke gone wrong or was it a purely cruel, spiteful act?

I am not sure. Child B was spoken about to teacher along with a significant number of other children about being mean and spiteful to Child A earlier this year. The whole group admitted it and were punished accordingly by teacher. Child B was a hanger on of this crowd rather than the ring leader. As I mentioned earlier child A and B had been playing together recently.

lovinituk

I think Child C should be punished for being a jealous mean little brat. And the teacher should be on a disciplinary!!




Sorry - there are so many other ridiculous responses on here I just thought I would join in!!

averagemummy

Spendless wrote: »

Child A realised the invite wasn't official. Yes, it was done in school time though not during lessons.

Why did you withold this piece of information?

The way you wrote the opening post immediatly made me think this was done in a malicious way. Having said that there is no smoke without fire and the children still need to think about the consequences of their actions.

They won't forget this lesson, then

sassyblue

averagemummy wrote: »

Why did you withold this piece of information?

The way you wrote the opening post immediatly made me think this was done in a malicious way. Having said that there is no smoke without fire and the children still need to think about the consequences of their actions.

They won't forget this lesson, then

I was going to say the same thing.

But now you say child B has already been spoken to about mean behaviour towards child A earlier this year, so l can see why the teacher intervened again.

It doesn't matter whether child A and B had been getting along recently, child B actually wnet to the time and effort to make something that could have had upsetting consequences.

Your child is child B isn't it?

If l were you l'd draw a line under the whole saga, it's done and dealt with and child B has learnt (probably) a harsh lesson.