A harsh punishment or fair enough?

minimoneysaver

I'm guessing that Spendless's child is Child B. Without knowing the facts, I think it sounds quite malicious. It is obvious that there have been issues in the past. Sounds to me like the teacher is trying to nip this kind of behaviour in the bud.

Gavin83

I'd say from the opening post this seemed like a game and the punishment was totally unjustified. Surely it's quite common for children to pretend to be other people while playing and making such props?

It sounds like a perfectly normal child game to me (let's pretend we're seeing/meeting our favourite celebs) and therefore I don't see why the teacher had to get involved.

Of course the OP is down to interpretation but thats how I viewed it.

minimoneysaver

Sassyblue, looks like we had the same thought at the same time!

gingin_2

If there have been previous incidences of bullying amonst those children, then I would trust the judgement of the teacher.

Although it sounds like a pretty immature trick to play to us, they are only 9. If the intention was spiteful, then they need to be taken up on it.

mynameistallulah

Spendless wrote: »

I can't honestly say "instantly" but pretty much as the invite was mis-spelt.

I am not sure. Child B was spoken about to teacher along with a significant number of other children about being mean and spiteful to Child A earlier this year. The whole group admitted it and were punished accordingly by teacher. Child B was a hanger on of this crowd rather than the ring leader. As I mentioned earlier child A and B had been playing together recently.

It would be very helpful if you gave the full story at the outset!

Given that there is a history of bullying towards Child A I would say the punishment is more than justified. What I would be focusing on now is why Child B thought it acceptable to do something that may have caused further upset, having already been spoken to about their behaviour?

londonsurrey

Spendless wrote: »

I can't honestly say "instantly" but pretty much as the invite was mis-spelt.

That's a very odd and inappropriate way to gauge how much Child A was upset and how long for.

The invitation was made by a child the same age. Child A lacks the judgement skills of an adult. It has the same judgement skills of children its own age.

It is also doubtful that it was straight away as it continued for as long as required for Child B to enquire about Child A's planned attendance.

So, two questions here - is it categorically established that Child A did not experience any distress whatsoever as a result of this?

And if it was just all happy playing, what about this exchange caught Child C's attention that it reported the incident to the teacher?

Spendless

sassyblue wrote: »

Your child is child B isn't it?

minimoneysaver wrote: »

I'm guessing that Spendless's child is Child B. Without knowing the facts, I think it sounds quite malicious. It is obvious that there have been issues in the past. Sounds to me like the teacher is trying to nip this kind of behaviour in the bud.

I'm not. I am the mother of Child A and when told the story by my DD, I actually felt sorry for Child B with the punishment given. DD didn't go to teacher upset, she'd recognised it wasn't official from the spelling mistakes. It was child c that told . Teacher didn't ask my DD about it, she just punished child B. I can sort of see why, there's previous history between them as I detailed earlier. The reason I didn't give more detail is I wanted a balanced view and that's hard to do if you give information that is only known to yourself ie 1 side of the story.

raven83

I wish people would be be more clearer in their OP and state the facts as it would make it so much clearer and easier to understand!

dizsiebubba

Spendless wrote: »

I'm not. I am the mother of Child A and when told the story by my DD, I actually felt sorry for Child B with the punishment given. DD didn't go to teacher upset, she'd recognised it wasn't official from the spelling mistakes. It was child c that told . Teacher didn't ask my DD about it, she just punished child B. I can sort of see why, there's previous history between them as I detailed earlier. The reason I didn't give more detail is I wanted a balanced view and that's hard to do if you give information that is only known to yourself ie 1 side of the story.

Your poor child will now be made to feel awkward as the teacher over reacted!

lovinituk

Spendless wrote: »

I'm not. I am the mother of Child A and when told the story by my DD, I actually felt sorry for Child B with the punishment given. DD didn't go to teacher upset, she'd recognised it wasn't official from the spelling mistakes. It was child c that told . Teacher didn't ask my DD about it, she just punished child B. I can sort of see why, there's previous history between them as I detailed earlier. The reason I didn't give more detail is I wanted a balanced view and that's hard to do if you give information that is only known to yourself ie 1 side of the story.

I completely agree with your point of view and applaud you for being so reasonable over it. It is most certainly the teacher I would be unhappy about.