Weekly Flylady Thread 16th July 2012

kazwookie

Maybe change the door locks?

Dinner done
Shopping done and put away
Cat food sorted out

pigpen

vanilla wrote: »

So if he comes here shouting his mouth out and making threats then i ring police and then i can get a court order. What if i already had a non-molastion order out years ago could it have any standing because there is history?

yes and a previous order will help but it usually depends on the judge whose desk the application lands on

Kitchen swept
2 loads of washing in
Boys stuffed in shower.. smelly gits!

Rowan_tree_2

Oh dear, I've just lost a long post, not sure where it is, but if any odd messages pop up from me ignore them! (I seemed to be sent to a previous post).

I'll make this short! I send good, positive vibes to Vanilla - stay strong and remember, these are early days, you keep going and stay firm. Good luck with the kiddies and lots of hugs all round.

I hope all those OHs not pulling their weight LISTEN to what their OHs are saying, and get off their b@@s and do something! Dusty is right, all children (inckuding the boys) should be helping with day to day jobs as a matter of course, so they won't expect to be waited on when they are married or living with a partner.

I know I complain sometimes, but my OH is far better than a lot I know, and at least he'll show willing even if he has to be prompted! (And he's lovely!)

Positive vibes too, to all those feeling poorly or lonely, things definitely come round in circles, so your time will come again and you'll be ready to grab it with both hands!

Done b all flying since work - two cups of tea decluttered! Just going to take next doors dogs for a walk then get dinner. Oh, I did tidy the kitchen again and sort some washing!

Goodintentions

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

DH is great and tries but hes always at work im one of those who swaps pegs round after hes hung the washing out as its not how id have done it so he questions why he bothers some days.

I do that!! :rotfl:It drives DH mad I just like things done properly. What i don't understand is that i give a reason why i do things a certain way, and he still does it wrong!! i shouldn't complain, 'cos he does a lot round here (when he is here, of course!)

I have done a little work (learning journeys), washed up & cooked myself dinner. I have also been a taxi - just DS to pick up now, when he calls. DH did HHI (I told you he was good :T)
I am going to do a bit more work, and watch TV.

Hugs to anyone that needs them (esp Vanilla) and LOTS of sticks for the pack of BD's nipping Pigpen's ankles

bossymoo

My kiddies are only littlies, but I'm trying to get them into the "we all pitch in" mindset. This morning I took them upstairs with me to help make the beds. DD was just bouncing but DS was helpful, he held up all the pillows so I could shuffle the cases on, and we decided it was like doing socks! Bless him, he's only 3.5. We took all the bedding downstairs and he put them into piles of white and colour. He said it was like a big birthday cake.

Havent told them yet, but we've got a trampoline coming tomorrow. It's only 5ft so not a very big one, but I'm a bit unsure about them anyway. It was half price, and DD especially will love it, so it's an early birthday pressie for her. If it doesn't annoy me as much as I expect, we can get a bigger one next spring. The bonus with this one is that even with the enclosure it will fit in the garage in winter. I mean put together. If I get tidied up in there I can put a chair in, and we can go in there whatever the weather (it's actually a converted room now) they can bounce and I can read and drink tea...

dragonette

Oh wow, I couldn't keep up with posts this week and everything is happening! Firstly, hugs sticks and spoons to everyone who needs them (no idea what spoons are for but if they help....take one

Vanilla - lots of hugs, hopefully you and the children can all move on now.

Pigpen - I wrote out a list of every single task that needs doing separated into daily, twice a week, weekly monthly. And told OH to pick half. *tm he isn't able to do them due to his meds playing up (I'm working away, as long as its done once I'm home its not my problem).

In theory, OH knows the tasks and has a written list and no excuse. Even with the dodgy meds he knows there are some things that need to be done and I will NOT pick up after him no idea if this idea will help but it can't really hurt.

Jojo - I'm sure someone mentioned steam generators instead of normals irons on here somewhere. I don't iron but they do sound better

I'm sure I've missed lots of people that deserve replies/hugs. Will spend time on sat trying to catch up

Ps. Flying wise - this is OH's day for sorting the flat (coz I'm home tomoz)

helen_jelly

Flippin heck - what a day for everyone

Vanilla - hugs for you and the children and well done on being so proactive
Pigpen - I really, really want to slap your OH!!!
Dusty - Well done on not being used,
Jojo - you did the right thing - stuff em when they are being childish!

Everyone else - have a hug [hug]

My DH is great - he doesn't see the mess like I do but when asked he'll do whatever I say - he's the main poo picker [dog has an upset tummy and it makes me heave lol] he'll do any DIY job tat needs doing, he cooks all our meals, he washes up and if I let him he'd iron - I draw the line at that though cos he's useless at it lol. He works full time, I don't so I am very lucky and appreciative of the things he does but if he didn't help out I'd show him the front door and boot him out!

Flying - had some me time with DH, hoovered, changed beddin in kids rooms and thats it - tomorrow morning will be hectic with housework and its DS's leaving assembly in the afternoon, tissues at the ready, I saw his Head Teacher today and told her how grateful I was for her and the staff being so brilliant at their jobs - got emoptional just saying that - what a show up I was!!

Helen

pigpen

Bossy have you looked at 'sunken trampolines'? It might be better with them being so little.. I hate them, there are lots of children injured every year on them...

Helen .. he doesn't need a slap he needs a rocket up his backside and to grow up a bit.. it is like having an extra teenager in a lot of ways! Don't get me wrong, I love him to bits but really need another adult in the house.

bossymoo

I hate them too and am not sure why I've relented. My mum broke her ankle a year ago and when having the cast on, the guy said, have you been on a trampoline? She said not, and he said "well you're my first break today that hasn't"

Also think they look scruffy, even though our garden isn't really overlooked.

Ho hum. The sunken ones look fab but are a bit too, erm, permanent, for my liking. Plus, we have these drainage pipes that run the length of the garden about 2ft intervals, so you can't dig more than about 18in.

They will just have to be supervised. Perhaps I'll get them those inflatable sumo suits lol

dragonette

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

DH is great and tries but hes always at work im one of those who swaps pegs round after hes hung the washing out as its not how id have done it so he questions why he bothers some days. he always puts the rubbish and recycling out on fridays and does the mowing.

I do this!! I've shown my OH the damage he has done to my clothes but he never remembers. I suppose that's where Dusty post comes in...

Dustykitten wrote: »

Those with kids (especially boys) please don't let them turn out like your OHs. Get them to help everyday so that hopefully that will be the norm for them. My DH is one of the good ones and will do things if they are written in list form for him to tick off. Likes to do them in his order but on the whole will do them. I'm super at organizing other people though and am much nicer to be around when others are helping :D

I absolutely agree. MIL didn't care about housework when OH was small, so he's hopeless at housework on a day to day basis, he will leave everything for a month then do it. I'm gradually upping his responsibilities round the place as I can't ask him to do it all atm. Tbf to him, MIL would still tidy his room for him if I hadn't made it clear I would loose the plot with both of them :eek:I think I'm expected to make all appointments for him, remind him to go etc. I take the veiw that he is an adult and needs to act like one.

Pigpen - does your OH realise the extra stress he's causing you? I sometimes wonder if its not slective vision for mess but being completely oblivious.