Some posts from certain people on this fourm are shocking

RuthnJasper

MacMickster wrote: »

I don't often venture onto this board, but have had a look through quite a few threads.

A little unexpectedly it appears that this board actually has surprisingly few trolls. Most of those who reply to questions are doing their best to be helpful. A little blunt perhaps, but definitely helpful.

Perhaps now that the OP has stopped lurking they will join in and give the sort of replies to threads which they consider are missing at the moment.

Agreed. Some people, I think, can often confuse bluntness with insults - especially if it's the first time they have had to face stark reality and the consequences of their actions.

RobertoMoir

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Agreed. Some people, I think, can often confuse bluntness with insults - especially if it's the first time they have had to face stark reality and the consequences of their actions.

I also think that some people define rude as "anyone who isn't telling me what I want to hear".

amyloofoo

MUMZ2BEE wrote: »

I must admit that some people who reply to posts are not very friendly at all.

This is supposed to be a non judgemental site, but some replies are downright rude.

Everybody's circumstances are different.

In this economic climate, people do fall on hard times through no fault of their own.

Some of us like me wanted some help and advice, yet some people who respond are rude and sarcastic.

I must admit I've taken a look back at the posts you're complaining about. Yes, some of the posters were blunt (to say the least), but it's hard not to be when you're insisting "I'm not naive" then showing a complete lack of understanding about interest rates, repayments, the loans you've taken out and the law. People have genuinely tried to help you, but given your posting history of claiming every other debt is 'unenforcable' or 'missold', I can see why people have become concerned.

There may well be mitigating circumstances, I know there certainly are for the debts in my case; but that doesn't mean you or I get to walk away from them, or that it's the company's fault. You might not like the tone people have taken with you, and I'd not be that blunt myself, however it sounds like they've saved you a fortune (and a lot of embarrasment) by explaining how your loan works and stopping you from seeking legal advice for a doomed cause.

pineapple

thomaslu wrote: »

Dear All,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

I have signed up just to say how shocking I find a number of posts from people on this forum.

So you have been lurking a long time and signed up just to say this?
But you never felt tempted to sign up to help some of those who clearly need help or contribute in any way. And you never had any questions of your own. Just interested in the general subject matter. Ok.....
Strangely enough I have noticed the exact opposite. Which is that the majority of responses are helpful and supportive. In fact a lot more supportive than it would be if it was me responding.
Sometimes people need a wake up call and 'subtle' and 'nice' doesn't do it. Call it tough love...

iolanthe07

Sometimes the responses may be a bit robust, but it is hard to be gentle and patient when confronted with the levels of stupidity and naivety occasionally displayed on this board. I think that often the robust and abrupt responses are given more out of sadness and helpless frustration than contempt.

his_missus

I believe that every comment posted on the forums has a

If you feel a comment is abusive, click it and let the board decide.

There will be some people who may be critical of a poster or say something the poster doesn't like/agree/want to hear.

There will also be trolls who delight in upsetting people.

I must say that, whilst I don't use the loans forum much, I have only ever read a few posts which have made think "Hmmm...bit harsh."

DCFC79

his_missus wrote: »

I believe that every comment posted on the forums has a

If you feel a comment is abusive, click it and let the board decide.

There will be some people who may be critical of a poster or say something the poster doesn't like/agree/want to hear.

There will also be trolls who delight in upsetting people.

I must say that, whilst I don't use the loans forum much, I have only ever read a few posts which have made think "Hmmm...bit harsh."

But compared with the benefits forum i bet the loan forum is pleasent.

Eonel

The Debt Free Wannabe forum is the place where every post is constructive & non-judgemental. The forum rule is clear on this and and the rule is very rarely broken.

I have always interpreted this as allowing other forums a level of robustness. Posts on the Loans forum can be blunt and sarcastic, but very few ever give bad advice.

antrobus

Eonel wrote: »

The Debt Free Wannabe forum is the place where every post is constructive & non-judgemental. The forum rule is clear on this and and the rule is very rarely broken.

I have always interpreted this as allowing other forums a level of robustness. Posts on the Loans forum can be blunt and sarcastic, but very few ever give bad advice.

Quite.

If you actually ready the 'official' MSE announcement - Pls remember Debt-Free Wannabee's for support and help not judgement - it states:-

While elsewhere on the site robust discussion is welcomed, ....

So there's no point in complaining about 'robust discussion' on the Loans board is there?

Tixy

Eonel wrote: »

The Debt Free Wannabe forum is the place where every post is constructive & non-judgemental. The forum rule is clear on this and and the rule is very rarely broken.

I have always interpreted this as allowing other forums a level of robustness. Posts on the Loans forum can be blunt and sarcastic, but very few ever give bad advice.

+1

Its the reason that people who post on this board who are clearly in a downward spiral with loans/debts are often pointed to the DFW board by many of the regular posters (including regulars who I imagine the OP brands as 'shocking').

I think that on this board after 3 or 4 replies threads usually have a mix of helpful advice and reality check, and yes humour as well (there is no ban on humour on the forums I believe).

Sure there are some posts that don't offer constructive advice on this board, the same as on all boards and pretty much on all forums - as with all forums the key is to learn to ignore those posts if they don't help you.

There are occasional posts that seem to overstep the usual mark (though not so much by the regulars on the board imo) and then as said above anyone reading is free to report those posts.
The most offensive posts I've seen recently on this board have come from new thread starters, who not liking the answers they have received have resorted to swearing and abuse of others.