Have I told you lately?

pimento

How dare the OP be in a happy relationship when some people here want to be miserable.

Thirty two years and counting for us.

Pollycat

dizsiebubba wrote: »

Nobody has slated the OP... just mentioning it might be a tad insensitive! Especially as they say in their post about the other threads...

I agree, it would have been so much nicer without the words I've highlighted below instead of taking a cheap swipe at those people who may not be quite so happy as the OP says he/she is.

Heyjude wrote: »

That I love you?
Reading all these forums and threads, I admit I'm a newbie... I hope I never get as disillusioned as some...
22 years after the first meeting, I am still, In Love! 'anyone else?

Great sentiment, shame about the dig.

QuackQuackOops

January20 wrote: »

What about your partner?

Seriously though, lucky you! But your post has mildly irritated me. What are you trying to achieve with it? Have you thought about the effect of flaunting your happiness in the face of people who are really struggling? Really heartbroken? Have lost the life they thought they had?

People post on here to get help with their problems. They don't usually post to say "hey look how happy I am nah nah nah!" That's why they mostly seem disillusioned.

As I said, lucky you! Just remember how lucky you are!

Unbeliveable! A post critisising the fact that someone is happy and wants the world to know!

What? We should all refrain from saying how happy we are just in case someone gets upset?

opening poster, you carry on. You are lucky and have obviousy worked hard at your relationship.
I for one, would like to see far more messages like yours posted rather than the usual 'Poor is me' wails that some post about. And the "there theres" that follow are just encouraging it.

Each and every one of us is responsible for our own happiness. Noone else can change that and the quicker some realise this the better the world will be.

balletshoes

Heyjude wrote: »

That I love you?
Reading all these forums and threads, I admit I'm a newbie... I hope I never get as disillusioned as some...
22 years after the first meeting, I am still, In Love! 'anyone else?

dundeediva wrote: »

OP just ignore the first post! Some people need to lighten up.

22 years is something to be celebrated...congratulations!!!

I've been with my OH for over 8 years and i love him to bits, i still "fancy" him as well

Before i get any nasty comments back, the OP is wanting to find out if other people are in a loving relationships. Whats the problem with that?? OP is happy, and wants to share her happiness. Go OP!!!

I read the OP's first post and thought aw lovely, still in love after 22 years - but this bit -

Heyjude wrote: »

I hope I never get as disillusioned as some...

was a bit insensitive I thought. I think we all hope that nothing happens to us in our lives/relationships to become very disillusioned - but it happens, and it could happen to any one of us.

dizsiebubba

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

Each and every one of us is responsible for our own happiness. Noone else can change that and the quicker some realise this the better the world will be.

unless of course the love of your life is tragically killed... or the man/woman you thought loved you ran off with somebody else... surely you can't blame somebody for being unhappy then?

pimento

Of course it's so much more interesting to beak around someone who isn't happy than it is someone who is. [/cynic]

Pollycat

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

Unbeliveable! A post critisising the fact that someone is happy and wants the world to know!

What? We should all refrain from saying how happy we are just in case someone gets upset?

opening poster, you carry on. You are lucky and have obviousy worked hard at your relationship.
I for one, would like to see far more messages like yours posted rather than the usual 'Poor is me' wails that some post about. And the "there theres" that follow are just encouraging it.

So would I.

Actually, what I would really, really like is for everyone to be as happy as the OP.

Unfortunately, we live in the real world and there are always going to be cheating rats (males & females), wife (and husband) beaters, anti-social neighbours (I could go on and on but I'm sure you get my drift).

It's those people (imho of course) who need support and advice and encouragement - and if you see that as 'there, there' - then I guess that's just tough.

QuackQuackOops wrote: »

Each and every one of us is responsible for our own happiness.

Maybe we are - but how would you explain that to someone who has been treated as a doormat by partner, family or whoever for years and years?

Many of those people just do not have the courage to up and leave.
Or maybe you see that as 'their fault' that they aren't taking responsibility for their own happiness?

Personally, I found the post by the OP - especially this bit -

Heyjude wrote: »

That I love you?
Reading all these forums and threads, I admit I'm a newbie... I hope I never get as disillusioned as some...
22 years after the first meeting, I am still, In Love! 'anyone else?

as just too smug for my taste.

dizsiebubba

Pollycat wrote: »

So would I.

Actually, what I would really, really like is for everyone to be as happy as the OP.

Unfortunately, we live in the real world and there are always going to be cheating rats (males & females), wife (and husband) beaters, anti-social neighbours (I could go on and on but I'm sure you get my drift).

It's those people (imho of course) who need support and advice and encouragement - and if you see that as 'there, there' - then I guess that's just tough.



Maybe we are - but how would you explain that to someone who has been treated as a doormat by partner, family or whoever for years and years?

Many of those people just do not have the courage to up and leave.
Or maybe you see that as 'their fault' that they aren't taking responsibility for their own happiness?

Personally, I found the post by the OP - especially this bit -

as just too smug for my taste.

Totally agree with pollycat... however I have to leave the thread now though as it is working me up that people are quite happy to moan at others misfortune and it can't be good for my poor baby! For the record, I am 24 but have been with my OH since school...he has turned into a wonderful man and we are in love (not a crazy old cat lady as I'm sure people will assume just for defending the poor unhappy folk)...but it doesn't mean I wish I could ignore others pain...I have seen too many people go through heatache to sit and be smug about it.

SandC

Well from someone who is rubbish at relationships and has only managed 22 months on a couple of occasions, never mind years, threads like this just make me smile!

I love that some of my friends have been with their hubbies/partners for more than 20 years and I am genuinely sad when a relationship ends.

So good for you all those of you who are still happy and in love many years down the line. :T

Jinx

7 years on Sunday since I met my hubby (though chatted online for 18mths before that) and still happy and now married. Long may it continue

My 20 year old told me earlier today we are 'mushy'... which I take as a good sign I think! lol