Do you ask visitors to remove shoes?

Tropez

thorsoak wrote: »

OK - let's suppose that a celebrity is going to visit your home .....do you insist that s/he removes their shoes before coming in???????

It isn't my "policy" to ask people to remove their shoes but if it were I would also ask a celebrity to remove them. I don't believe that simply because someone is more well known than I am it makes them a better person than me or makes them above any rules that have been implemented in a specific place.

But as I say, I don't really care about the shoes thing so all celebrities who love to wear their shoes are quite welcome (providing they're not covered in mud and dog poo) especially Eliza Dushku, should she be reading this.

Person_one

thorsoak wrote: »

I will never ever see the need to be friends with people who consider their possessions more precious than their friends and family.

I think this is what it boils down to, what do you value more, your guests' comfort or your carpet?

I only know one person who insists on shoes off, and I always feel tense and watched when I'm in their house. You can feel their eyes on you when you drink your tea making sure you don't spill. If you put your handbag down in the wrong place it gets whisked away in a second.

Not very welcoming, would never go if I didn't have to.

rollnchips

thorsoak wrote: »

Well actually, although my children always removed their shoes in the house - as did their father and I, the condition of the flooring was always (and still is) less important than the well-being of my family and friends.

I will never ever see the need to be friends with people who consider their possessions more precious than their friends and family.

And, for the record, nowadays (I'm late 60s) I need to wear shoes/supportive footwear in order to be able to walk - so it really is super that I won't be visiting you!

Get over yourself dear.

I don't think not wearing shoes in the home and expecting guests to respect this makes you materialistic. Not everyone wants to walk barefoot on whatever muck shoes bring in.

thorsoak

rollnchips wrote: »

Get over yourself dear.

I don't think not wearing shoes in the home and expecting guests to respect this makes you materialistic. Not everyone wants to walk barefoot on whatever muck shoes bring in.

Listen, duckie, I'm not the person who won't allow anyone over my threshold who wears shoes ....I'm of the barefoot hippie generation - sadly its only now that I HAVE to wear shoes.

Live and let live - life is too short to sweat on people's feet!

Person_one

rollnchips wrote: »

Get over yourself dear.

I don't think not wearing shoes in the home and expecting guests to respect this makes you materialistic. Not everyone wants to walk barefoot on whatever muck shoes bring in.

For a new poster you sound a bit familiar and you're awfully, er, 'confident' very soon.

Have you been here before?

pollypenny

rollnchips wrote: »

Get over yourself dear.

I don't think not wearing shoes in the home and expecting guests to respect this makes you materialistic. Not everyone wants to walk barefoot on whatever muck shoes bring in.

That's the second time you've used that nasty phrase, this time coupled with a patronising 'dear'.


Everyone else has discussed the issue logically. Key word 'discussed' - you're welcome if you can be polite.

Ellejmorgan

thorsoak wrote: »

OK - let's suppose that a celebrity is going to visit your home .....do you insist that s/he removes their shoes before coming in???????

Depends who it is, Tom cruise would be taking off more than his shoes

cherylim

I would never expect someone to take off their shoes in my house. I want people to feel comfortable and relaxed, whether they want shoes on or off.

I find the whole issue a little stressful. I'm not great in social situations, and I'm uncomfortable in the houses of others even if I know them quite well. Sometimes, I walk in to someone's house without thinking, and only remember to take my shoes off once I've said my greetings. I always feel quite ashamed if I notice then that their house is a no-shoe zone. Otherwise, if I remember, there's the awkwardness of hanging around by the front door staring at shoes and feet and trying to work out what's the accepted convention. I always try to be as polite as possible, but I find it very confusing.

Person_one

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Depends who it is, Tom cruise would be taking off more than his shoes

Are you sure? He'd have you signed up to Scientology before he untied his laces! :eek:

Ellejmorgan

Person_one wrote: »

Are you sure? He'd have you signed up to Scientology before he untied his laces! :eek:

I'd lie just to get my own way, mind you he'd have to stand on a stool or something