MSE Pregnancy Club 25

Babynumber4

Hi all, sorry I have been AWOL, I have been finding it so difficult to function lately! Just a quick update, I am having my baby on Friday 2 November, 3 weeks early as she is estimated to be 9lbs 14oz already and I have been getting lots of contractions already although not going into labour! I am so relieved it will be over! I have had steroid injections already as they thought I was in early labour a few weeks back - as this is my 4th baby, I just don't think my body is coping very well now, high BP, lots of palpitations on standing, anyhow, I will update you again when she has been born, I am nervous but excited also to finally cuddle my baby!

BikerChick

Hi all, just popping in and caught up on the latest posts...

I wanted to say the aquanatal session was really good. very much yoga moves to gently stretch legs, hips & pelvis, tummy & sides and arms & chest and a lovely 8mins or so at the end relaxing with the wiggles (snake floats in case you have not heard that term) with the lights dipped. Unfortunately due to holidays, no session this wed so normal swim for me on Thur night instead.

Aida_2

Hi everyone,

CherryDrop hope you have or had a easy labor.

Babynumber4 good luck on Friday. Are you giving birth naturally?

Does anyone has back and/or pelvic pain? I started having some last week and it's getting worst now. I went shopping today and I was in pain 99% of the time .Any advice ladies?

Rups32

hi ladies hope you are all well and enjoyed your weekends.:) xx

good luck cherrydrop and babynumber4. xx

mrs b, hope you are feeling better. been having a week like you are and feeling down. thought working things out with dh and everything was going fine till today when we went out to go and see his niece and his brother's gf and we got lost (my fault as i hate reading maps and dont get them) and the stick i got for that was horrid. dh shouted at me so badly and swore and everything, when he raised his voice so high, the baby even kicked and prob got as scared as i did. i got very upset. been down since then but been trying to stay calm for baby's sake. he is mad and has a foul temper. we havent done much talking because i just dont feel like it and he hasnt even said sorry for upsetting me. ;( i hate men. so just chilling and washed baby clothes which made me feel better. plus got a headache so just in my own world. am calm because i dont want to upset bubba. xx

aida, i hope your pain goes away. today my bum and hips were a bit sore. maybe swimming or some gentle stretches might help? my back is going too nowadays. i ordered a ball from ebay and its the cmpletely wrong size. i thought for my height i need 55cm gym ball but that was so small. i cant be bothered returning it.. grrr

Bamama

Sorry you had a bad day Rups. Men get so angry when they're lost lol.
*big cwtches* xxx

Babynumber4

I am having a c section as I have had 2 previous due to big babies, none of mine have been under 9lbs!

mrs_B_5

Oh Rups, I'm sorry you've had such a rough day. It really did sounds like things were on the up with your OH too I've had a day snuggled on the sofa with our furries catching up with tv

I've heard from DH & he's hoping he'll not be too late finishing work tonight, although that still means it'll be gone 11 when he finishes. With the shifts he's got tomorrow & Tuesday he'll have done over 77hrs in 9 days :0

I've asked him to give me a nudge when he gets in & give me a cuddle, I could really do with one & I'm sure I'll not find it hard to get back to sleep knowing he's home & I've had a big cuddle from him One of my favourite things is letting DH bio-oil my bump, I think it definitely helps him feel part of the pregnancy & like he's doing something really helpful, it seems to help him bond with Bean as well Bean seems to really like it too & always has a good wriggle! Speaking of which Bean's having a major wriggle tonight, I've had some right wallops whilst I've been laid on the sofa, I think Bean knows I'm having a low day so is having a wriggle to make me smile & stop me worrying

Amy (26+5)

Rups32

thanks girls. hugs..xxx

isnt that amazing how they pick up on sad moods and give their best to move to try and cheer you up? i thought i was going mad but today esp when i started just crying in the car and dh was still shouting at me for crying, little one was moving in my belly. at first it was quiet and then when dh screamed so hard, he/she kicked like it was woken up. then it was moving all afternoon and i felt re-assured as my instant worry is how bean is if i get stressed. our babies are so lovely arent they? stupid men. lol.

i asked dh to cream my belly yest and think he liked it. he is a bit rough though as he has heavy hands so i have to tell him to calm down. even to feel a movement, he like thumps his hand on my belly.

well the morning started lovely and the evening was rubbish but am better now and jst tired. still have that headache though. should go to bed. at least me and dh are chatting now but he hasnt even said sorry for upsetting me and that annoys me. will let it go..

thanks for listening. amazon have emailed to say my stuff is being delivered tomorrow and i am working from home. doh! got the changing mat being delivered and some baby books. yay.. from the 1st of november, can start my countdown to leaving work. wo hoo

well sweet ladies, think i might log off and try and get some sort of sleep. night night xx

martafdz

Sorry to hear that you had such a stressful evening, Rups. Could you stop him short next time and say "there's no need to shout" or "the baby feels what I feel, please let's stay calm"?

Aida, I have lower back and pelvis pain. Swimming and the gym ball seems to help, plus I do not move much when I am in pain. I find it difficult to walk more than half an hour!! I just take it easy. Hot showers in the back and gentle rubbing from DH make.wonders. Not a massage, that actually hurts, but very gentle rubbing in circles.

martafdz

Rups, by the way, I think the ball you have us the right one for what you have previously said. If you are 163cm / 5 ft 3 or less, you need the 55cm one, if you are taller, the 65cm. I got a 65cm one a couple of days ago, I am borderline at 164cm lol, but it also looked small when I first inflated it. And some pregnancy yoga websites even said not to inflate it too much. You need to be comfy when you sit on it.
I hope you sort out things with DH, as others have said, try not to go to bed without solving stuff, and do not wait for an apology, look for it or see if there's something you could apologize for too, like "sorry I can't read the maps properly, but the reaction was.unjustified" or something like that. Most of the times, there's always something each part could apologize for, it does not matter who apologizes first.or even if it is always you saying sorry, the important thing is to be happy and leave arguments solved and behind. In my opinion. I think all relationships need some work to be good, no matter what cheesy Hollywood films say, there's always some work and acceptance of defects, compromise, dialogue, understanding and putting oneself on other half shoes. My DH is very good natured and I cannot remember when was the last time we argued, definitely before the pregnancy, but it also required work to get to this point. It took us a while to understand how to deal with each other's reactions. I warn him when I am in a mood or I have not slept well, and he warns me when he is hungry or had a bad day at work. It might sound silly, but just by saying "I am a bit grumpy today" I feel we have avoided many misunderstandings and arguments. But again, it was not like that from day one, it took us a few years of living together and a lot of talk. Everybody wants to be happy and nobody likes arguing ( at least not normal people), so I am sure your DH wants to sort issues as much as you do, but pride might be in the middle. If so, think of the result you want to achieve and nit the method. Do not wait for an apology, or apologize yourself for whatever little part in the incident, even if it is his fault, but make sure at the end of the conversation he understands it is wrong to shout at you, pregnant or not, and getting lost is not a big deal as to justify that reaction. Don't take it and cut him short by calmly but firmly saying "I don't deserve that reaction" or sthg like that. I thought you bought a satnav? In any case, Rups, try to work it out, you cannot be this unhappy forever. You have been married just over a year, did you live together before that? It takes a while to get used to the other person, but you both need to make it work. I think marriage requires constant tlc to make it work, a paper does not guarantee happiness on its own. I don't know you, I am not there and I only read what you post, but it kind of worries me that you seem to argue so much over silly things. Once the baby is here, you will be both tired, he will have less time with you alone, and you will probably have different ideas of parenting. Try to set up the basis of communication now. You chose each other as life partner, there must be a lot of things you like from each other, bring that back.