Preparedness for when

princesstippytoes

elaine241 wrote: »

Somebody did read the above post and reported it! I dont understand why anyone has to personally attack anyone on this forum and leave such vile comments. Everyone is entitled to their own views, however different to your own!

Maybe if your child was autistic you'd be less enamoured with a poster who refers to them as a hellcat kid. And mitstm has posted many more vile comments than mine on MSE under her half a dozen different user names. Some of us have long memories.

I full expect a ticking off or a ban and that's fair enough as my post breaks the rules. I rarely even look at MSE these days so that's fair enough too.

maryb

I'm sorry you are so upset Princess Tippytoes. I thought Ceridwen was being more careful these days since the last big row and probably didn't mean to say things you found hurtful. I agree with everyone else who suggests using the ignore button - no point reading if it only upsets you

charlies-aunt

My eldest DD is adopted and has Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD and attachment disorder - to say that she was a challenging child to parent would be an understatement.


She is now an adult and although some of her behaviours have changed, it hasn't got any less difficult to cope with


I love her, I understand that she cannot help being the way she is and I help & support her as much as I can.....but there are many times that I don't like her very much ..... so I can understand others thinking that she is a b*gg*r

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I can understand the instant rush of distaste when a post pops up that runs counter to all we believe in and hold dear, we're all only human and the first reaction for many of us is How dare they post that! I DO find the best way of dealing with them and this works for me is to instantly apply the ignore option and not read posts by that particular person again, whoever they may be. It's much better for my blood pressure levels and stops me posting an answer which would be no more acceptable than the original post. There is monitoring by the hard working Board Guides and we do have the facility to report posts that are positively rude or contain unacceptable sentiments but firing vitriol back at the original poster rarely achieves more than another post along the same lines as the first. Much more sensible to just accept that we all see the world from an entirely different point of view and that the offending posts aren't aimed at us personally, hard to do I know but much better as a way of keeping the thread on an even keel.

moneyistooshorttomention

Indeed...and many haven't all been very used to a general "university debating etc" type environment they live/lived in and do sometimes take posts personally that have never, for one moment, been meant that way.

If we don't examine objective facts and take personal opinions as exactly that (ie personal opinions) then how would we ever make any progress as a society?

History teaches us that lesson - amongst others....

Mygawd those poor suffragettes who dared to raise their heads above the parapet and have what was, at that time, a "personal opinion"...and thankthelawd they did obviously....

Frugalsod

I wonder how much the increase of diagnosis of autism is down to additives in food that we really have little idea of what they really do to us? They are not fatal but maybe doses over time impact how we think?

I will accept that when we see an unruly child we do not necessarily think autism but go with what we know. My own personal experience is exceptionally limited of autism so if I were to know that, then I would definitely not consider bad parenting. The problem is that we only see some of the picture so are really making judgements on very little information and our prejudices fill in the rest. Autism was not an issue when I was younger or was invisible, so I am not going to criticise such families, who probably have enough problems to deal with already.

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I certainly don't have a university education and came up through the school of 'Hard Knocks' but what I hope I do have is a bit of common sense and enough manners to try not to offend with things I post. I know you can't please all the folks all of the time though and we do operate as a democracy and there are bound to be things we either wholeheartedly agree with or vehemently disagree with, that's life. I do know people though and can understand offence being taken where none is actually intended, also can understand that my point of view is not the only one. Better to be on a friendly footing if that's possible and to not read posts from other folks who you know don't hold views you will be likely to agree with.

moneyistooshorttomention

A valid point - ie not to read posts by people who come on only to try and be deliberately upsetting.

Must try and remember that one myself....before reading any post like it...

jk0

This is rather worrying. How long before we get it here?

http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2015-12-01/greeks-told-declare-cash-under-mattress-jewelry-and-precious-stones

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moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

That would leave only 2 possibilities - genetic inheritance or "born evil"

A third possibility would be, lack of parental control.

When I was young, there was lad who lived a few doors down, who, from a very young age, would be violent to other children, especially those younger and/or smaller than himself.

Informing his parents, when he acted like that, always produced the same response, "My boy doesn't do that", even when the adult reporting it, had seen him do it.

As a result, he knew he could get away with it, and just did it all the more.

Funny thing is, he stopped being violent, almost overnight, when, at about 7 years-old, he moved up to "junior school".

Maybe it had something to do with the battering he got, when he tried to beat up a boy from the second year.