school gave results to someone else

cte1111

PinkLipgloss wrote: »

No one is saying the school should not apologise.

However, there is a world of difference between making them aware of what happened and "making a fuss".

Politely highlighting an error will result in the same outcome (an apology) so is there really anything to be gained in making a fuss? Other than getting yourself labeled as a difficult parent that is.

Ooh how awful, the people that screwed up would be happier if I didn't make them feel bad about screwing up so I musn't show any feelings, otherwise they won't like me. :eek:

The OP indicated that she was understandably angry and expressed that anger to the people at fault at the school but was now considering apologising for her feelings. I don't think she should apologise for her natural anger at the school's carelessness. I do think that people who manage sensitive data should understand the impact of their carelessness on the parents and children.

It's not always possible to pretend that you don't mind when people who are being paid to do a job do it badly, particularly when it relates to an emotive topic (and I think most parents would agree that their children's exam results are a sensitive piece of information, however much we may disagree with 5 year olds being given exams).

PinkLipgloss

cte1111 wrote: »

Ooh how awful, the people that screwed up would be happier if I didn't make them feel bad about screwing up so I musn't show any feelings, otherwise they won't like me. :eek:

The OP indicated that she was understandably angry and expressed that anger to the people at fault at the school but was now considering apologising for her feelings. I don't think she should apologise for her natural anger at the school's carelessness. I do think that people who manage sensitive data should understand the impact of their carelessness on the parents and children.

It's not always possible to pretend that you don't mind when people who are being paid to do a job do it badly, particularly when it relates to an emotive topic (and I think most parents would agree that their children's exam results are a sensitive piece of information, however much we may disagree with 5 year olds being given exams).

You have misinterpreted my post completely.

I am not saying the OP should NOT express her feelings I'm saying she should consider HOW she expresses them to the school. The WAY it is said.

"Making a fuss" in my experience (both in and out with schools) is not the way to achieve what you want.

And yes - if you go around "making a fuss" people generally won't like you. If the OP wants all of the staff in the school to dislike her then she can go around making all the fuss she wants - it will fall on deaf ears as soon as she establishes a reputation for being that kind of person.

thegirlintheattic

nahidaakhtar wrote: »

could you help me on another matter so i dont make a hash of this too!!!

my child goes to nursery who do a drop off to the school for me as part of the report they give you they also list attendances/times late etc.
now he has been late to school on 3 occasions the nursery havent mentioned it to me at all. i only found out due to the report. he did get there before registration but was marked as late.

i was thinking that i should just mention it quite casually ad say that thy need to try and get there a little earlier as hes been late. theres only a few weeks left now anyway.

I would leave it. Chances are there were reasons for the lateness - bus/car broke down, child ill etc. Trying to get lots of children to, presumably, lots of different schools is a nightmare. Schools are not bothered by lateness for real reasons like this. For example, at least once every few weeks one of the school buses is late, the kids have to get a late mark, but nothing bad happens to the child and it's noted on the register that the bus was late.

milliebear00001

Can I just clarify that children in Reception do not 'take exams'. These will be scores from the Early Years Profile, which is kept as a record of learning throughout a child's early years (up to the age of 5). It consists of a number of areas in which children can score a variety of points depending on what they have been observed to be able to do. They are not tested as such, but rather 'watched' to see what they are able to do alone. For example, can they reliably count 10 objects.

It's unfortunate the results went astray, but I can't say I would be personally that bothered. I might if they were really poor though! Have to say though, the results shouldn't give you any shocks, as the teacher would have spoken to you if they'd had concerns.

As regards the nursery getting a child to school late, I would have considerably more of an issue with this. Persistent lateness is something primary schools do take seriously. It can be a red flag for other issues (although obviously not in this case). I called a new child's previous school only recently, to find out what her pattern of lateness and attendance was there, as I had noticed she had had erratic lateness to my class since starting at the school.

shellsuit

Jessikita1983 wrote: »

Before worrying about this, maybe you could return to school and do a basic literacy course? Your punctuation and grammar leaves a lot to be desired!

Should that be 'leaves', or should it be 'leave'?

Hmmm?

I don't know why people like you bother to comment on a thread, when it's only to have a pop at the OP on their spelling, language or grammar, and has nothing to do with the help the OP needs.

Surely you have better things to do with your time?!


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OP, I'd have a word in school and tell them you are unhappy. I wouldn't go in all guns blazing, but I would say something.

Good Luck

LibbyR26

Mistakes happen. No consequences to speak of, other than possibly sending the OP's stress levels through the roof. Life is short, so maybe consider saving your anger for a significant or serious incident that merits it.

Lotus-eater

Is it true as was being said on here earlier, that a child can be kept back if they don't reach a certain level?

It doesn't seem to be the case here, we have 2 boys in DD's class who are way behind the others, in fact have to have a classroom helper just for them, yet there has never been any talk of holding them back I know of.

nahidaakhtar

i am concerned about the lateness the nursery is literally 5 mins from the school they only do drop off for my child and one other. They are both in the same class!

the fact that they haven't mentioned it also concerns me, they only do the drop off for me once a week!

When you are have to go to late you must go to reception and state the reason for lateness

cte1111 and PinkLipgloss you are both right i am right to be angry but as that old saying goes you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

After i sent the email, i thought maybe it was a bit much even though i did leave it till today and so wanted other perspectives.I'm not the sort of person who when had overreacted is afraid to say so and will stick to her guns no matter what. As a mother your instinct is to stand up for your child and sometmes when doing that you can lose perspective.

I certainly dont want to be labeled a nuisance so that if anything serious were to happen my concerns would be dismissed.Also my child absolutely loves the teachers and the school.

If they had been able to tell me over the phone it would have put my mind at rest. If my childs done badly i'd want that to be my thats business equally if my childs done well.

The gossiping and falling out at the school is shocking and thats just the parents!!lol!

I'd hate for my child to the subject!!

nahidaakhtar

Lotus-eater

i'm not sure tbh, that was a worry of mine due to not having the result, on the info accompanying the report it said they had to achieve 78 out of a potential 120.

i only have the report to go on which is good but surely if he wasnt meeting the target they would have said.

The only issues have been with writing one or two letter and how my child was holding the pencil are these things that are looked at?

Lotus-eater

I understand you are a bit anxious, but really you are getting worked up over nothing. Your child will not be held back, otherwise you certainly would have talked about it with the teacher beforehand.