Partner problems- stolen money

raven83

I am not convinced by this thread, just doesn't sound right to me. If it is though then i am sorry.

floss2

FBaby wrote: »

What did she spent the £1000s on?....

The OP suggests alcohol

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

....Are you going to help with the birth ??
What if she has a C-Section, will you help ??

I don't think he can actually hold the scalpel but....

raven83 wrote: »

I am not convinced by this thread, just doesn't sound right to me. If it is though then i am sorry.

Emergency housing for a pregnant parent of 2 children is an emergency - as has been previously stated, some council DO have empty houses and will put those people requiring statutory care into them, regardless of how long they have been on the housing list; an acoholic pregnant parent is not necessarily going to accept help to stop drinking, things like a TV can be sold to pay for the drink; wet clothes can be casued by not being aware of what is going on to avoid situations like being soaked in a sudden rainstorm etc.

What is it that makes you think it is untrue?

raven83

floss2 wrote: »

The OP suggests alcohol



I don't think he can actually hold the scalpel but....



Emergency housing for a pregnant parent of 2 children is an emergency - as has been previously stated, some council DO have empty houses and will put those people requiring statutory care into them, regardless of how long they have been on the housing list; an acoholic pregnant parent is not necessarily going to accept help to stop drinking, things like a TV can be sold to pay for the drink; wet clothes can be casued by not being aware of what is going on to avoid situations like being soaked in a sudden rainstorm etc.

What is it that makes you think it is untrue?

It's not about the housing, it is about the whole tone of the thread that makes me sceptical.

Ellejmorgan

floss2 wrote: »

The OP suggests alcohol



I don't think he can actually hold the scalpel but....



Emergency housing for a pregnant parent of 2 children is an emergency - as has been previously stated, some council DO have empty houses and will put those people requiring statutory care into them, regardless of how long they have been on the housing list; an acoholic pregnant parent is not necessarily going to accept help to stop drinking, things like a TV can be sold to pay for the drink; wet clothes can be casued by not being aware of what is going on to avoid situations like being soaked in a sudden rainstorm etc.

What is it that makes you think it is untrue?

I don't remember saying he was holding the scalpel just that he should help...

He said Social Services housed them not the council, that's why people are not believing this..

suited-aces

I hope this thread's fake, I'd hate to see someone in this position be told it's their fault and they must be there for the lying stealing cow to walk over no matter what.

meer53

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I don't remember saying he was holding the scalpel just that he should help...

He said Social Services housed them not the council, that's why people are not believing this..

Blimey, poor OP ! He's getting a load of stick for not being able to explain himself very well !

Whatever has happened, both he and his partner are in a right pickle and deserve some sympathy. Doesn't matter whose fault things are, it's happened now and he has to get through it. From reading his posts, he sounds as though he will be there at the birth (if he's allowed) and that he will support his children as well as he can, despite his partners actions.

We don't have her side of the story of course, i agree that there must be something causing her issues, but without this information, can't we just give the OP advice without accusing him of making it all up ?

I know that 2 days after i found out my ex was having an affair, i didn't really know what day or time it was, let alone try to cope with a situation like the OP's. He needs help and support, not people questioning his every statement.

MrTeacher, don't stop posting, you have to accept all points of view on a forum, you'll get some good advice and some bad, thats just how it is i'm afraid.

conradmum

suited-aces wrote: »

I hope this thread's fake, I'd hate to see someone in this position be told it's their fault and they must be there for the lying stealing cow to walk over no matter what.

I agree. It's often the case that the victims get blamed on this forum, though. Especially men.

OP, if you're still reading, you might want to consider joining this organisation: http://www.fathers-4-justice.org/ It isn't free unfortunately.

Getting a lodger is a good idea but check the terms of your lease. If you aren't allowed to sublet it might still be worth contacting the landlord and explaining the situation. I'm sure they's rather have the rent than not.

Also, have a look at the DebtfreeWannabe and OldStyleMoneysaving boards on this site where there are lots of money-saving tips. On the Debtfree board I think you may be able to get advice about what to do about the money your partner has stolen.

One possible avenue you might consider is caring for the two children yourself, though I doubt your partner will agree. You would be entitled to everything that she's currently getting and at least in the short term you won't be jeopardising your job offer in September.

If I were you I'd record all further conversations you have with her. Please try to do whatever you can to stop her drinking during the pregnancy. Half a bottle of strong wine a day is far too much. If she needs money for food, give her food. Ask, in writing, for contact time with your children. Record her reply.

Try to stay calm and reasonable and remember to always document as much as you can.

Ellejmorgan

meer53 wrote: »

Blimey, poor OP ! He's getting a load of stick for not being able to explain himself very well !

Whatever has happened, both he and his partner are in a right pickle and deserve some sympathy. Doesn't matter whose fault things are, it's happened now and he has to get through it. From reading his posts, he sounds as though he will be there at the birth (if he's allowed) and that he will support his children as well as he can, despite his partners actions.

We don't have her side of the story of course, i agree that there must be something causing her issues, but without this information, can't we just give the OP advice without accusing him of making it all up ?

I know that 2 days after i found out my ex was having an affair, i didn't really know what day or time it was, let alone try to cope with a situation like the OP's. He needs help and support, not people questioning his every statement.

MrTeacher, don't stop posting, you have to accept all points of view on a forum, you'll get some good advice and some bad, thats just how it is i'm afraid.

Not sure why you quoted my post all I said was he had a duty to help her with the birth which he does...

First he said the social services rehoused the ex then he said council, no ones having a go at him...

I suggest you find your glasses and read my posts properly..

[Deleted User]

I just feel it is a bit of a mess and the poor kids are in the middle of it all , I agree with the comments regarding if you KNEW what she was like regarding the drinking etc then why GET HER PREGNANT , at ALL even , it is sad you have waited till this 'final straw' as if you had no kids together you could have walked away without leaving her as a single Mum , you being a single Dad , and the poor kids in the middle of the mess! :(

And one hasn't even come into the world yet , so like someone else said a few months ago everything was perfect , well idyllic family situation etc , not

I think you chose a woman with problems , even if you didn't know she had problems you must subconsciously choose women like that and then the drama begins

You are just going to HAVE to be civil to her for the sake of the children and choose more wisely in future or as the Robbie Williams song says ''I'll go out and find another you'' .......... And the whole thing starts all over again!

zenmaster

Secure the fraud charge.

She'll get bird, you'll get the kids.

You won't get your money back though but it's the best of a bad job.

Frees up a council flat, too, for someone (hopefully) more deserving.