Concerned about OH's driving and attitude!

atrixblue.-MFR-.

if i paid for a car for me and OH to share and she treated it as a imeterial object and a bump stop, sorry she'd be off the insurance.

i agree sompeople need to learn the hard way, and the combitnation of i been driving longer than you ego, speeding to get home,squeezing past anything and anyone could put her on the wrong side of 1.the law 2. the insurers. 3. a hedge or planted head on in a HGV.

when she reminds you that she been driving longer just remind say yes you have but ive had less scrapes than you so what does that say.

she may see your car as imeterial object old thing, but i think your neighbours would object to their car being seen as something thats imeterial old and have been used as a bump stop, i would actually make her go round there to [STRIKE]WO[/STRIKE]MAN UP to her actions and take responsability for hitting it.

Bennifred

kev225 wrote: »

In the same way that her shoes/clothes/jewellery is not "our shoes/clothes/jewellery".

Being in a relationship with someone does not entitle you to all their things, nor to cast judgement on how they treat their things.

Hmm - possibly, but clothes/shoes/jewellery are perhaps more personal than money/car - especially if only one of them is being paid for the work they do.

hartcjhart

here you go Andy, this will sort her out

Mr_Thrifty

My sister in law is a bit like that too. Drives her 1.2 litre automatic Corsa like it's a formula 1 car (foot always flat down on either the brakes or the accelerator) and doesn't seem to understand why the head gasket is now blown. Says she drives really carefully - yet when I'm in the car with her I'm genuinely concerned at times that she's going to spin off the roundabout.

When challenged, she just says it's none of my business.

So I explained that it IS my business.

She firmly disagreed and swore at me.

So I asked the cops if they consider it their business. Interestingly, they did. So I waited until one night when I knew she would be coming home from a "party". Called the cops and said I was concerned. Lo and behold - a drink-drive positive result.

Maybe next time I give her some advice, she'll heed it.

Strider590

Mr_Thrifty wrote: »

My sister in law is a bit like that too. Drives her 1.2 litre automatic Corsa like it's a formula 1 car (foot always flat down on either the brakes or the accelerator) and doesn't seem to understand why the head gasket is now blown. Says she drives really carefully - yet when I'm in the car with her I'm genuinely concerned at times that she's going to spin off the roundabout.

When challenged, she just says it's none of my business.

So I explained that it IS my business.

She firmly disagreed and swore at me.

So I asked the cops if they consider it their business. Interestingly, they did. So I waited until one night when I knew she would be coming home from a "party". Called the cops and said I was concerned. Lo and behold - a drink-drive positive result.

Maybe next time I give her some advice, she'll heed it.

Sometimes some people really need a good kick up the backside.....

gilbert_and_sullivan

The car is really of no consequence here, if she wants to wreck it, so long as she bought the car and pays for the damage and increased insurance then leave her to it...though i'd make sure the insurance is in her name if i were you.

Your relationship however is in serious trouble, an online motoring forum is not the place to get help for this.

thegirlintheattic

Sounds like there are deeper problems here rather than her driving.

andygb

hartcjhart wrote: »

here you go Andy, this will sort her out

Cheers mate but it won't work.


Loads of garlic, a wooden stake and silver bullets, all washed down with holy water may do the trick though.

All joking apart, no damage done to either car, but her excuse was - "I didn't think that there was anything behind me"

Obviously all those years of driving experience did not include - looking in your mirrors when you reverse:D

Paradigm

Years of experience tells me....let it all sail over your head! If it bothers you leave it, stay calm.

Let her do what she does & when it goes tits up, smile & say "oh dear".... Then let her deal with the afters.

Basically, keep shtum

namecheck

OP - this situation would really annoy me, too.


Several years ago I worked for a company with allocated parking spaces in their car park.

Unfortunately, the driver next to me did not know how to park. I left as much space as possible for this colleague's car...but each time her huge old estate was at an angle far too close to mine.

She was totally uninterested in cars, did not care about her car, nor could she understand why people would get upset at dents and scrapes on their car.

There may be underlying "issues" with your wife, as others have said, but perhaps she just sees a car as a means of getting from A to B (regardless of the consequences!).