Would a best friend act like this?

raven83

Spidergirl76 wrote: »

I have just been berated on another thread for ending toxic friendships as apparently that is not what you are 'supposed' to do and you are 'supposed' to somehow try to find fault and blame with yourself for how it has turned out...

But I would definitely end the friendship in your situation. You would be well rid of your friend.

Spidergirl, i too have been in a very toxic friendship with a so called "friend" Long story short but after years of on and off, when we made up the last time i was the bestest friend i could be and i made a massive effort and did everything i could to make it work, sadly though it didn't but i know i did everything i could in that friendship but it wasn't enough. Don't beat yourself up or listen to self righteous holier than thou twits on the other threads, until you have been in a toxic relationship/friendship with someone, than you wouldn't understand how soul destroying it can be.

cottonhead

This sounds like my ex friend ! We fell out because we grew apart. We too were friends from school but then wanted different things from life and so didnt see each other as much. Then it just fizzled out. I think she disliked me for not spending so much time with her after I got married and I did try to avoid her if I am honest as I didnt like the constant lateness, getting us to pay for everything and the moaning about everything thats wrong with life all the time.
I would say its probably run its course. Remember the good time and move on. No need to break it off formaly - just dont contact her for a while. Maybe the odd christmas card would be a nice touch but cool it off gradualy. You dont have to always be friends and there is no shame in breaking it off if you get more annoyed than happy by being in her company. As for her husband charging for a job. Could be that they need the money. Was he turning down other paid work to do a job for you ? Perhaps they are short of money but cant bring themselves to say so. Perhaps he pushed her into asking.
I would move on.

poet123

Friendship is a two way street sometimes both parties don't want the same out of it at the same time.