In tears!

January20

ska_lover wrote: »

That is lovely in an ideal world - but what about people who's lifestyle does not fit in with yours - such as 12 hour shift workers?

Surely you can't live your life on tip toes, trying to be quiet because some people's lifestyle may be different to yours? I don't have to wake up until 7am but I get angry if I hear neighbours leaving for work earlier. That would be silly!

Pollycat

January20 wrote: »

She NEVER said that! I tend to lose respect for poster who won't take the time and make the effort to read a thread properly, and then reply according to their own agenda.

I agree with this, the OP did not in any of her posts

start off being snarky about how horrid a couple are that they don't have kids.

I've reread the OP's posts and this is what she says about her neighbours and kids:

azzabazza wrote: »

They are a couple in their 50s, no kids.

azzabazza wrote: »

They don't have young children who would be disturbed.

Nothing 'snarky' there at all about a 'horrid couple who don't have kids'.

The OP has updated the thread (incidentally before dizziblond's fisrt input to it):

azzabazza wrote: »

I have apologised, handed over a garden pot with some begonias in it and hopefully no lasting hostilities. I think as I said before I was tired and frazzled and slightly taken aback. However, I have taken on board what some of you have said about the noise of hoovered floorboards! Dustpan and brush will be ready for Monday's clear up operation.

dizziblonde wrote: »

Lost all respect for you when you implied that as they didn't have kids they had no right to be upset.

Personally I lose all respect for someone who criticises when they've clearly read something that isn't there.

azzabazza

I wish you were my neighbour. I quite like begonias... :rotfl:[/QUOTE]


Still have a few left! Actually just offered them on Freecycle as someone is doing a community garden.

Callie22

ska_lover wrote: »

That is lovely in an ideal world - but what about people who's lifestyle does not fit in with yours - such as 12 hour shift workers?

As I said, that is how I live my life - I've lived next door to a serious noise nuisance and I know how soul destroying it can be, so I try to live my life in a 'reasonable' way as I don't want to be responsible for affecting someone else's life with my preferences. I used to work in a job where I started at 2 am and finished at three-ish, but I still wouldn't think it reasonable to turn washing washing machine on at 1.30 am just because that's the time that suits me. I've been fortunate that I've never lived next door to shift workers, but regardless, it's the same argument - just because you're working on shifts you can't just think of yourself. People don't live in bubbles and I think it's quite sad that so many people just think of themselves and their own convenience nowadays. This country is overcrowded and we suffer from poorly sound-insulated, cramped accommodation - people really ought to be just a little more considerate of their neighbours, and that works both ways. In the OPs case, the neighbours don't know what's going off and probably over-reacted after hearing noise all day. They probably thought it was going to go on all night too.

azzabazza

Callie - neighbours were out at work all day and did not hear noise all day. They were also advised that work was being undertaken.

azzabazza

I find it quite baffling that when some people read posts they read what isn't there!

Desperado99

I'm glad you've managed to smooth it over and that the neighbours like their new plant

If only all neighbours could resolve their differences in such a nice grown up manner

Hope the rest of your renovations goes well.

azzabazza

Well, I now am kicking myself so much for being so irrational the other night.

Neighbour came to door this afternoon to say he would cut my grass as he had his lawnmower out. Could he just plug in while he did it.
I think I was just overwrought and slightly unthinking on Friday night.

I think we have all learned lessons about being good neighbours.

coolcait

azzabazza wrote: »

..., handed over a garden pot with some begonias in it ...

What a lovely gesture! :beer:

And I see from your later post that it was much appreciated too.

Thank you for letting us know that it has all been sorted out - and so well too!

Ellejmorgan

I live in a row of houses and I have a house either side of me,
I don't care how much noise they make in the day..

Once it got to about 8.30 I would get the hump but then again i've got a baby, and my neighbours respect this

My next doors dog has a bit of a temper he can hear me shutting my kitchen cupboard or shutting my front door...
On the other side they like a barbie while my washing is hanging out, yet he helped put up my fence when it came down and cuts the grass for me..

I'm too busy to argue with neighbours, it's about give and take...
Perhaps giving them a knock , introducing yourself and apologising for any noise might have helped the cause..