In tears!

azzabazza

January20 wrote: »

Really? So you don't fancy trying to understand what has been going on then?

Thanks January. I now regret my outburst last night, doing the hoovering etc etc.

I am actually a very good neighbour and would go the extra mile if anyone should need me. I just didn't think. I actually should have remembered how I used to feel on a Friday night after a hard week at work. Knackered and grumpy! I am now fortunate that I am retired.

Anyway fences mended today and the pot of begonias is in pride of place on their front doorstep! Thank goodness I had a few extra growing in my greenhouse.

azzabazza

Callie22 wrote: »

I've lived in flats and currently live in a terrace, and I've always tried to live by the rule of no noisy stuff (using a washing machine, vacuuming etc) either before seven am, or after seven pm. I'm hoping that if I behave that way it might spread lol ...

Hi Callie

I think I will now make my curfew not before 8.00 am and not after 6.00 pm. I certainly don't want to go through this again. It was actually unintentional but I can't live with bad feeling.

Azz

meritaten

while I can understand you are upset, you are only hoovering fgs, perhaps it is just that your nieghbour has tolerated all the renovation noise all day and your hoovering was the 'last straw'?
while my neighbour was ill her son remodelled her house - they are not exactly soundproof to begin with.........the joke in the street is we can hear our neighbours changing their minds!
I had nine months of banging as they knocked down walls, changed all the lectrics, plumbing etc - without a word of complaint, and the last straw for me was a painter who put his ghetto blaster on downstairs full volume while he was painting upstairs! I tore strips off the poor sod! he complained to the son and I told him that while I realised work had to be done - surely painting could be much quieter than knocking down walls!
I would pop round to the nieghobour with a peace offering (cake maybe?) and explain you just wanted to clear up the mess and work out with her what time is reasonable to finish for the day?

meritaten

oh sorry azzabazza - I seem to have missed a page! youve already done this!!!!!!!!!!!
remodelling is stressful on everyone isnt it? good luck with everthing and I hope its completed soon!

sheilds

Azzabazza-I think it was very decent of you to overcome your upset and resolve the situation with a gift etc..it's not easy to swallow your pride at times so well done.
I can understand your annoyance as we previously had neighbours complaining about our son practising his guitar in the garage despite them blasting their radio on their patio at times.I actually thought they were a bit hard of hearing and excused the loud radio and said nothing so the complaint about my son was even more upsetting.
Anyway life is too short to have an ongoing feud with your neighbours so well done again.:)

Anarchist

It does sound like your neighbour is being unreasonable. You can't expect silence at that time, bonkers.

I guess the only thing is that you can expect silence from them, otherwise you've got every right to make a big issue about it!

ska_lover

Oh OP I would be fuming if I were you

People are so nasty and judgemental these days

Your neighbours moaning at you for doing your house up! !!!!!!. No, I would NOT turn the hoover off at 8pm at night at their request. Your neighbours are being rude. LOL @ phoning you instead of knocking the door. I would have told um to grow a spine and carried on hoovering

I work full time, and often have the hoover/washing machine going up to 10pm at night - never later, as OH is in bed after this to be up for 4am.

I dare my giro junkie neighbour to request I be quiet at 8pm to suit her.

ska_lover

Callie22 wrote: »

I've lived in flats and currently live in a terrace, and I've always tried to live by the rule of no noisy stuff (using a washing machine, vacuuming etc) either before seven am, or after seven pm. I'm hoping that if I behave that way it might spread lol ...

That is lovely in an ideal world - but what about people who's lifestyle does not fit in with yours - such as 12 hour shift workers?

aliasojo

OP, you will always get differing views about what's suitable and what's not but the fact is, the only views you really have to consider are your own and the neighbours.

I think (after your initial kneejerk thing ) you deserve credit for thinking things through and accepting the fact the neighbours had a problem (whether you or anyone here agreed or disagreed) and you've now helped to sort it for them.

It may mean a slight change in what you would normally do, but that's what consideration involves.

Good on you.

January20

dizziblonde wrote: »

Not particularly when someone starts off being snarky about how horrid a couple are that they don't have kids.

She NEVER said that! I tend to lose respect for poster who won't take the time and make the effort to read a thread properly, and then reply according to their own agenda.

azzabazza wrote: »

Thanks January. I now regret my outburst last night, doing the hoovering etc etc.

You shouldn't. If you hadn't posted on here, perhaps you wouldn't have calmed down enough to "mend" the relationship with your neighbours. You got a place to vent and ideas and opinions from people who wanted to help you. You got to see the other side of the situation.

I wish you were my neighbour. I quite like begonias... :rotfl: