In tears!

January20

azzabazza wrote: »

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Yes, I am shattered and yes, the corkscrew should be out. I don't want to fall out with them and perhaps next week when work is done I should ask them through to admire the work and have a glass of wine!

That is a great idea! And you will feel much better tomorrow when you've had a chill and a rest.

azzabazza

SqueekyMouse wrote: »

I think I'd be cranky with my neighbour too if there was continual noise throughout each day and evening.

I understand that you're doing renovation work and there will be noise and I'm sure your neighbour does too, but it wouldn't hurt to pop over with a cake/box of chocs and appologise for the disruption and thank them for their patience. You could ask them if there's is a particular time of the day when they find the noise most difficult and try to respect that as much as is feasible. They would probably also love it if you were able to give them an estimated end-date for the work

Presumably if you're doing a lot of renovation work you intend to stay in the house for a while, so it would be best to keep your neighbours on side.

I am not doing a lot of rennovation. They are aware that the work is only taking a few days. I have always gone out of my way to be a good neighbour. Half their garden is populated with my cast-offs/cuttings. Maybe I should complain when he plays his heavy rock cds with loud base from time to time. No, I appreciate that being in a mid-terrace there is a certain give and take regarding noise. My threshold time is 10.00 pm.

January20

azzabazza wrote: »

I think I have just over-reacted due to being overtired. I honestly wouldn't have thought my hoover just before 8.00 pm would have been a problem especially as they knew work was in progress. As I have said an invite when work completed with some nibbles and wine will put things back to 'normal'.

You know, when my neighbour told me about the work he was going to do and the fact he was working away during the week, I said, fine no problem,etc and I meant it. But boy, was I glad when he finished because it was so stressful. Even now, recalling it, I feel on edge if you see what I mean? I can't explain why it's so distressing. Difference is I didn't go and complain to my neighbour because he had explained, I knew he had to get the work done and that it would end at some point (didn't expect it to take so long though lol)

ETA: Heavy metal? Poor you! No wonder you're expecting them to be more understanding!! Now that is noise!

Flugelhorn

I suspect that by 8pm they were wondering when it was going to stop .... most people can cope during the day but maybe the evening was too much. Maybe worth saying that any work would finish at say 7pm each evening

azzabazza

January20 wrote: »

Making a sarky comment about the neighbour watching JK on their day off is slagging off their lifestyle. Otherwise, you wouldn't have made the comment!

It's not only people with children who can be disturbed. I have no small children living with me, but I still get very stressed with noise made by inconsiderate neighbours.

Your neighbours may have been at home all day, being subjected to the noise, and they've now had enough. Or they may have had a long, difficult week that you don't know about and want a bit of peace and quiet on a Friday night. Hell, I've had a really good week at work and I'm still shattered and ready for a quiet night in.

But somehow, I don't think you will understand what I'm saying, since you've decided the neighbours are wrong.

I have a pan and brush and that's what I use when I need to clean up and don't want to disturb anybody.

Bambam, you sound like the ideal neighbour

I have actually been a very good neighbour to them, doing washing when machine broken, cutting grass when away on holiday, watering their plants, giving cuttings etc. I haven't decided neighbours are wrong. I just wanted a little understanding following the mess made today. And yes, I am tired. Just didn't expect this from my neighbours of 20 years.

I do not consider I have been inconsiderate. I usually never do anything that could cause offence noise wise without informing neighbours.

kafkathecat

I'm glad none of you live next door to me. My husband and son both play drums in our mid terrace house. Luckily we have lovely neighbours on both sides and we don't mind them making a bit of noise either. One neighbour did drill into the joint bedroom wall at midnight once (this was before the drums) and we laughed about it but we didn't say anything to them. Live and let live unless someone is completely taking the mickey I say.

azzabazza

January20 wrote: »

You know, when my neighbour told me about the work he was going to do and the fact he was working away during the week, I said, fine no problem,etc and I meant it. But boy, was I glad when he finished because it was so stressful. Even now, recalling it, I feel on edge if you see what I mean? I can't explain why it's so distressing. Difference is I didn't go and complain to my neighbour because he had explained, I knew he had to get the work done and that it would end at some point (didn't expect it to take so long though lol)

ETA: Heavy metal? Poor you! No wonder you're expecting them to be more understanding!! Now that is noise!

Rush, Joe Bonamassa and Bruce Springstein at 9.00 pm. I just grin and bear it so long as it finishes before I go to bed. One of the downsides of being a mid-terrace. I think that is why I was so hurt when she came through tonight.

azzabazza

Flugelhorn wrote: »

I suspect that by 8pm they were wondering when it was going to stop .... most people can cope during the day but maybe the evening was too much. Maybe worth saying that any work would finish at say 7pm each evening

They were out during the day. I hoovered about 7.30-8.00 this evening.

January20

azzabazza wrote: »

I have actually been a very good neighbour to them, doing washing when machine broken, cutting grass when away on holiday, watering their plants, giving cuttings etc. I haven't decided neighbours are wrong. I just wanted a little understanding following the mess made today. And yes, I am tired. Just didn't expect this from my neighbours of 20 years.

I do not consider I have been inconsiderate. I usually never do anything that could cause offence noise wise without informing neighbours.

I didn't mean you were inconsiderate. I meant some of my neighbours have been. Oooops! sorry.

I think the answer to your question is that you are tired, you have an untidy home due to the work and it's bugging you (would bug me) and I think the neighbours are probably feeling equally tired. A recipe for disaster, isn't it?

marisco_2

It seems as if the noise made by renovation works today has probably been a bit heavy going for your neighbours. 8pm is not late to be putting the hoover round. Maybe though your neighbours were feeling more sensitive than normal and just wanted some peace and quiet.

You are a considerate person who let her neighbours know in advance about work that was being done over a short time frame. No work is being carried out over the weekend, when people most like to relax.

I second the advice about using a dustpan and brush to clear the bulk of the mess and leave hoovering till late morning tomorrow.

Chill out and open a nice bottle of plonk and relax. I get the feeling that you like where you live and get on okay with your neighbours normally. Otherwise you wouldn't be investing in your property or be so bothered to their reaction tonight. It will all smooth over and in a weeks time you will have a lovely renovated home