Frump to Fab - Sizzling Summer Solstice to Awesome Autumn Equinox

evilsquid1603

Callisto- I hope you are ok today. your priority has to be you, if he is acting like that now, you don't know what it could be next time.

I'm also a depressive. I've just dragged myself out of my last bout. I've had bad experiences on antidepressants (i got compulsion to take ever pill in my house that was only foiled because I only had in lemsip and antihistamines and a day holed up hallucinating because I stopped taking them because I realised I was just a zombie) but make sure you get them changed if you need to.

I was one of the lucky ones and got my first bout at 17 so I was originally treated as a child. I was rushed to a clinical psychologist and given CBT. I've been back as an adult and the difference in attitude and treatment is deplorable. i got given pills and sent to a trainee councillor who knew nothing and I've had nothing more offered.

one thing I find when I start to worry and stress is to ask myself 'can I change this?' it's either yes or no, there will either be something you could do however small or it'll be completely out of your control. if there's something you can do, you have a plan to do to change it and worrying more will set that plan back. if its no, then worrying is a waste of time. it wont change anything and will only make you feel worse so do
something else instead and chalk whatever it is as 'one of those things!'

lessonlearned

Callisto - sorry I've no words of wisdom here.

Except to say - either get out of there or get him out of there. No ifs, no buts, no ands, no whys, no what ifs, no excuses.

He's just not worth it.

Stay safe.

Sparkles - have a great holiday. Hope the weather is kind.

Madrabbitgirl

Callisto - I'm so sorry to hear things are so bad for you at the moment. If he is threatening to hurt you, you need to get him out of your life. Being drunk is no excuse. Sounds like he needs anger management. You can't let him treat you like this. I really hope you can find the inner strength to make a clean break from him.

Obviously I don't know your living arrangements, will it be easy to get him to leave? I mean if it is your property then it may be easier to boot him out than if it belongs to both of you. Or could you go and stay with family or friends for a few days until things are sorted out?

Stay strong! Have courage. We are all rooting for you.

lizzie157

Callisto have messaged you. Hope you are ok.

I too suffer from depression - have had counselling as some of you know. At the moment I'm not too bad but know from experience it can be a seemingly small thing that sets me back. Seems with this illness it takes time to know how to respond when we have setbacks, everyone is different and it is hard. The only positive from it is it forces us to slow down a bit and take stock.

Having a bit of trouble with DD2 atm - she's developed an attitude and it's now a juggling job with H and her and as you all know being reasonable isn't his strongpoint. I know if this continues I'm not going to have a day's peace.

maman

I can't stop as I've got people coming and loads to do but...

Callisto, you just have to get him out of your home. Don't listen to any apologies or promises, just get him out or leave yourself. You have to be strong and see this through. Please don't put up with it any longer. I don't know a great deal about depression but I just can't imagine that you will improve with this person around you. You're better off without a relationship at all, pleasing yourself and building your confidence and self esteem, than trapped in an abusive one.

Bitsy_Beans

Callisto I echo what the other ladies say, stay safe, don't believe any excuses and don't be swayed in staying in this relationship xxxx

Now much fabbing today, too busy watching the tennis :rotfl:

WelshWoofer

Well I am officially kn*ckered! The 8 mile walk turned into a 9 mile one due to a detour for a flooded field and the first third was exclusively uphill (a steep hill:eek:) but I managed it ok and could have carried on if needed to.:j
During the 30 min drive home I was elated then got out of the car and legs were like lead, then had to walk the dog, thankfully I did his big walk this morning so it was just half an hour or so. I will be stiff tomorrow - on the plus side I've burnt off 766 cals on the main walk:T.

Need to have a sit down, some tea (am starving now) and then a nice long bath. I need to do a couple of hours schoolwork later but its nothing too hard just labour intensive.



This week's mini goals are....

• To stick to healthy eating plan
• To exercise at least 4 more times between now and next Saturday (swim, Shred and Couch to 5K)
• To keep up night cream and serum regime
• To wear some clothes that usually linger in the wardrobe

Right time to put some tea on (replace all those cals burned off:rotfl:)

podperson

Morning all,

Just a quick one, but wanted to say
Sparkles - have a lovely holiday
Callisto - hope you're ok hun x

Been a bit of a mixed weekend. Wedding was on Friday, quite exhausting, got to bride's house at 10.30am and left the reception at 11pm (and they still hadn't cut the cake at this point :eek: had been hanging on 2 hrs for them to do but in the end just gave up as the buses would have stopped running if I'd stayed much longer and really didn't want to have to a taxi home). Wasn't a bad day, thought a little annoying as they kept changing their mind on what they wanted to do so I felt rather unprepared and like I didn't get some of the things we had agreed on. Still the church shots are looking quite nice, which is good since this was the only traditional church wedding I had lined up. Saturday and Sunday have been working on the xmas story, managed to get it finished but is still a bit over the word count and am struggling a bit to trim it down any more Also have to do a synopsis and query letter to go with it - which are actually harder then the story as you need to tell the whole story as well as making it sound exciting and readable in 1-2 pages!
Also took the cat to the vets on Saturday, apparently she has some bad teeth and an infection in her mouth, which is why she's been off her food. So had to pay over £50 for her appointment and some anti-biotics on Sat and she's booked in for some to come out on Wednesday which is going to cost me at least another £150 :eek: So am worried about her and the money now!
Plus OH has not been so well and is full of a cold (slept on the sofa last night as every time he lay down in bed ended up having a coughing/sneezing fit) so all in all I'm a bit stressed :rotfl:
Hope everyone else is having a better day x

Madrabbitgirl

Weshwoofer - Well done on the super long walk! :T

I had quite a good day yesterday, I suddenly had the urge to have a good tidy up so I spent most of the day having a good sort through stuff and cleaning/tidying etc...

I am still in an organising mood today. I plan on printing off some weekly calenders with some of my goals printed on it so I can tick them off as I achieve each goal. I am more likely to stick to something if I can see it in writing and if i put it somewhere where I will have to look at it. I will put it on the wall in my front room so there will be no hiding from it!

I also want to try to organise one area of my home/life each week. This week I want to start on my clothes. I know I have way too many clothes, my wardrobe is bursting! I also have a chest of drawers full and boxes under my bed. I find it very difficult to part with any although many of them don't fit me. I hold on to them thinking one day when I lose weight I'll be able to wear them again. Well enough is enough! I have decided that if I don't slim down in the next 2 months they are going! So I am going to start by sorting through my clothes and throwing out any that are really unwearable and take to the charity shop any that have never really suited me or I have never felt good in (even when they fit me). I will do a bit a day so I don't feel overwhelmed. today I will make a start on dresses.

SAVVYJADE

Hi all

Callisto - hope your okay, look after yourself

Well done to all those doing exercise. I've been working in London since Friday and got bk at 4am! Shattered!

Have had a nice soak in bath with face mask and hair mask too

Need to get focused on eating today as over weekend food was issued to us but wasn't great and limited choice, so was eating a few things I shouldn't have!

Lots of love and hugs to everyone x