Do you think this is acceptable behaviour from family???????

Yorkie1

Childline is there for children to ring - you should contact the NSPCC in preference so that you're not blocking the line at Childline for a child's call.

NB Note that both SS & NSPCC do not automatically protect confidentiality ...

You have said repeatedly that your mum/stepdad love your son, but given what you've told them, and their reaction to it, I think they've got very mixed ways of showing it.

You have mentioned 2 assaults on your child, who is only aged 4, by their daughter, who is 9. You have also mentioned sexual type conduct. Yet they do not give this any credence and are not prepared to look into it. This clearly shows that either they think your son is a liar, or that they believe him but don't care about the impact on him / risks to him.

I agree with the others about minimising contact with them. Others have asked but I don't think I've seen your answer (may have missed it), but what does your OH say about all of this?

Bubby

Please ring someone to report this behaviour it sounds as if she is a very troubled child and what she needs is for someone to notice and do something about it rather than disregarding it. From now onwards you have a duty to protect your son before anyone else and you need to cut all contact with them, they don't appear to add anything to your life and I fear that your son could be at real danger staying over there.

Ellejmorgan

In my opinion I think this girl has attachment issues...
It may not be directly to do with sexual abuse, it is possible that she could have perhaps got these ideas at school or from another outside influence other than the parents...

The Social services are the experts, they have ways of interviewing a child indirectly with pictures and conversations regarding this subject, a four year old would be easy to assess i'm sure...

They are the experts, the main problem you will encounter will be having the 9 year old assessed, I don't think the parents would allow it..

Your priority is your family, your children & partner, and you need to protect them...
I would stop all contact until you have spoken to professionals, and my first port of call would be your health visitor..

Op would it be possible for you to put your initial post into paragraphs, as I think you may get more help this way, it is a little tricky to read...:)

lilibet1

I would like to know why ss don't always protect confidentiality? I know that where I live that if you want to call ss to speak to them about a confidential issue then the call is recorded.... It could easily put people off reporting worries and therefore children remain at risk. Its a really dreadful situation,

Hootie19

lilibet1 wrote: »

I would like to know why ss don't always protect confidentiality? I know that where I live that if you want to call ss to speak to them about a confidential issue then the call is recorded

Sometimes the information provided, when shared with the family, is enough to identify the referrer, as the information could only come from certain sources.

Calls into our team are not recorded.

I am very concerned about the 9 year old in this scenario. The 4 year old and the unborn have someone looking out for their best interests, and as such are safe. Within her home environment, this little girl doesn't seem to have anyone looking out for her. I know the OP is concerned, but as far as I can remember, doesn't live with them, so isn't in the home environment. This together with a strained relationship with the girl's parents, isolates her further.

I think that the kind of sexualised behaviour that has been described by the OP is not something that a 9 year old would make up, so therefore it has been "learned" from somewhere.

Whether that is within her own home, or at the home of someone else (friend, maybe?), it is very worrying and I believe this little girl needs help.

If the OP does contact the NSPCC can I please ask that you give as much information as you possibly can, as to the child's name, address, date of birth and possibly school attended. We hate getting NSPCC referrals. The number of times we get vague information, with "Name - Unknown", "Date of birth - Unknown" and "address - unknown" is ridiculous. Yet we are expected to be able to locate this child from a description such as "child is about 5-8 years old, has brown hair and was outside the local Spar shop at 8pm one night last week". Yes really - we do get that kind of information.

So to make sure the child gets the appropriate help and support as soon as possible, please give a reasonable amount of information.