Do you think this is acceptable behaviour from family???????

piglet74

no you are not over reacting, and the smelling incident screams sexual abuse, :eek:(if it was a 9 year old boy and a 5 year old girl you would not think twice about the element of abuse?)

you need to get SS involved, ASAP, the physical injury was bad enough, but now theres a sexual element!

my heart goes out to you,

good luck :A

supermezzo

Please bear in mind, that whilst no less serious, access to adult content material (such as the sort of 'lads' magazines kept under the bed etc) can affect a child and result in the same sort of behaviour as your half sister is displaying, and not necessarily that someone is physically abusing her. The spectrum of abuse and it's manifestations are enormous and what affects one child may simply wash over another.
There are a million possibilities for her behaviour and I genuinely hope that it isn't abuse of any kind - But you must involve those professionals who are able to keep a level head and sort it out.

whitewing

I agree with the other posters that at the very least you need to speak to the NSPCC about getting some kind of support for your little sister. Her behaviour is not right.

Jinx

I find the comments re potential sexual abuse really interesting...... My friends daughter and her male best friend were found naked at one point laying one on top of the other 'licking' each other... (age 7 or 8) Both mothers didnt want to overreact and thought it was hilarious and to an extent somewhat normal - I was completely horrified and didnt feel it normal at all but then I only have one now adult daughter and no experience on the matter!

To the OP, Id be keeping my son away from your sister. Shes not adding anything positive to his life and shes stressing you out.

Abbafan1972

You need to involve the authorities. This reminds me of a girl I got talking to on the internet some years ago (I never met her in person). Her DH had been married before and had an older son, as well as a son with my friend.

Older son would come and stay now and again. It turned out that he had been fiddling with the younger son. The mother refused to believe it and said they were making it up!

You have to think of your son and your baby when he/she arrives.

sassyblue

Jinx wrote: »

I find the comments re potential sexual abuse really interesting...... My friends daughter and her male best friend were found naked at one point laying one on top of the other 'licking' each other... (age 7 or 8) Both mothers didnt want to overreact and thought it was hilarious and to an extent somewhat normal - I was completely horrified and didnt feel it normal at all but then I only have one now adult daughter and no experience on the matter!

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It's difficult isn't it? I was inclined to think those suggesting ringing SS were being over the top as children may do things along those lines BUT at the very least the sister should be in serious trouble with her parents because the boy is very young - she needs to understand how unnacceptable that behaviour is.

If the OP brings in SS the relationship with her mum and step dad could break down irretrievably.

Really tough call, poor OP. x

FatVonD

skipsmum wrote: »

As a long-time foster carer, I have found that children will show each other their private parts without any sexual connotation.
HOWEVER, I find the "smelling" issue disturbing. I think you need some help with this one.

I agree with this but the age difference would worry me (and the knife incident.)

You need to keep her away from your son and your baby.

savingmummy

My honest opinion would be to stay away and have no dealings whatsoever!!

Thats appalling and your son shouldnt be around people like like however old they are!

*Louise*

What a difficult situation, it has come a long way from just dealing with a spoiled/jealous litte girl

I think you are right to distance yourself and not allow you children to be around her. Aside from the worrying incident you mention, the spoiled behaviour on it's own isn't something you would want your own children to watch and learn.

Unfortunately I don't think you are going to get very far until your mum is prepared to take her head out of the sand, accept there is a problem and have a proper conversation with you about it.

Missus_Aka

Thanks everybody for taking the time to reply to this thread you have all assured me that im not crazy feeling like this is a big deal, i will be phoning childline either when bil comes around so i can use his phone or hopefully the house line will get it sorted before. I have been worried that doing this will estrange us further but to be honest we are already so i have nothing to lose, oh has been very supportive but i think doesnt want to overstep the boundary of saying exactly what he thinks as they are my family still.

I normally clean their house for them once a week as their cleaning lady quit and have never seen any explicit mags or anything or that nature and didnt experience any of that whilst i lived there either.

My son and unborn child are my main priorities, though my sister is also a priority for me, my parents arent really one at all, its just that i like a quiet life and dont want any conflict just a civil relationship with them (as i have seen what it is like when they fall out with other family members)

Will come back and update as soon as i have some more info from the professionals.

Thanks everybody.xx