Rest in peace, Mum.

melymay

Mojisola,

So sad to hear your news . . My dad died almost 6 months ago and although the sadness doesn't go away the pain is starting to recede . .

Listening to music he loved, listening to his grandchildrens memories of him, remebering the man he was and his love for his family and friends keeps him constant in my heart and thoughts . .

I hope you can get peace in your heart for her passing soon x

Tuesday_Tenor

Mojisola
So sorry to hear your sad news.
(I've been away 10 days so only just seen this thread).

The sudden deaths are so hard, however elderly the person was.
Wharever age, you're still planning some sort of future activities and ongoing relationships (even if life is one of diminishing capabilities) and it's so disorientating when these plans, and the familiar relationship, come to an abrupt end.

My Dad died 18 months ago after a 2-day illness following three very stable years after my Mum's death. She'd died younger but had been so ill that there was a sense of relief for the end of her suffering, even amidst our grief. In contrast, when dad was taken ill, he recovered so much during the ambulance ride that he actually WALKED into the hospital and I assumed it would be a matter of days before they sorted him out. I had no concept that he'd be dead 30 hours later. (A heart attack while still under assessment in hospital; had been eating well and going to bathroom independently ... No one was expecting him to DIE, the ward staff were shocked too).

Almost certainly the WAY he would have wanted to go. And not bad to make it to 87 when as a WW2 slave labourer in Eastern Europe he wasn't sure he would live to be 17. But such a shock to happen when we were still planning various day trips, and I was mentally gearing up for some sort of deterioration over several years...

So my thoughts are with you as you go through this stage of 'coping', as that's all it can be; practicalities, planning the funeral, carrying on, concern for Dad, and all while missing Mum, and feeling numb and disorientated at times ...

We know from your posts how astute and level-headed and caring you are; all of which will help you adjust over the next few weeks and months; but it's never easy, and I wish you strength in coping with everything.

TT

sheilavw

So sorry to hear about your Mum xx

System

So sorry for your loss :sad:

belfastgirl23

I'm really sorry to hear this, I hope you and your family find the strength to get through this together.

Stephb1986_2

I'm so sorry for your loss, look after yourself love

Steph xx

heartbreak_star

Love and best wishes to you and your family, Mojisola. I know it doesn't feel that way (lost my dad 2 years ago and it's still raw) but time heals and talking about them helps...your mum will always be in your heart.

HBS x

Mojisola

We've had the coroner's report and it was a natural death that we couldn't have done anything about or prevented. Dad had been worried that she wasn't well and we hadn't noticed so it was a relief to hear the official news.

He's still devastated but at least now we can get on with all the administrative stuff.

shellsuit

Ahh, that's so sad

Your poor Dad, he must be absolutely brokenhearted, bless him.

Thinking of you all xxx

heartbreak_star

My heart is going out to you so much. Be strong for each other but don't be afraid to grieve.

More love to you.

HBS x