Rest in peace, Mum.

Mrs.W_2

So sorry for your loss, Mojisola. Wishing you and your family strength to support each other in the coming days and weeks. As an earlier poster wrote, there'll be good and bad days in the immediate future; the bad days are a testament to how close you were.

FatVonD

So sorry to hear your sad news, Mojisola

StaffieTerrier

So sorry to hear of your loss.

We lost my Dad very suddenly in February. We take comfort in the fact he didn't suffer although it's been very hard for us.

Grieving is a horrible process but every time we start to feel low we tell or remember a silly story about Dad (and there are lots). It always raises a smile, even if there's tears, which is important as we know Dad wouldn't want us to cry for him but celebrate his life.

Look after yourself and your Dad x

Mojisola

StaffieTerrier wrote: »

We lost my Dad very suddenly in February. We take comfort in the fact he didn't suffer although it's been very hard for us.

This is the strange thing - we're glad for her, that she's free from pain now and went without any kind of suffering - but we're still sad and lost and bewildered. The mixture of emotions is difficult to deal with.

We've just had a family dinner with my Dad for Father's Day. It would have been Mum's birthday so we opened all her cards as well but he couldn't look at them.

He's doing a common thing - wondering if there was something he should have noticed, whether we could have prevented it. We have to keep reassuring him that there was no warning and that it's not his fault.

StaffieTerrier

Mojisola wrote: »

This is the strange thing - we're glad for her, that she's free from pain now and went without any kind of suffering - but we're still sad and lost and bewildered. The mixture of emotions is difficult to deal with.

We've just had a family dinner with my Dad for Father's Day. It would have been Mum's birthday so we opened all her cards as well but he couldn't look at them.

He's doing a common thing - wondering if there was something he should have noticed, whether we could have prevented it. We have to keep reassuring him that there was no warning and that it's not his fault.

Mom went through the same emotions when Dad died. She went through the previous few weeks trying to work out if he'd said something about not feeling well, and beating herself up that she hadn't picked up on it. Dad didn't even say anything 30 seconds before he died so she was punishing herself for no reason. All you can do is be there for your Dad and try to reassure him (not always easy when grief is involved).

Sudden losses are best for the individual but the worst for those left behind. Take it a day at a time. Sending you (((hugs)))

gingin_2

I am very sorry for your loss Mojisola. My thoughts to you, your father and your family.

mavvymoo

So sorry for your loss.

I lost my mum 5 months ago today My Dad is finding it really hard as they had been married for 65 years.

For me it was the pain of just realising she was no longer on this earth and that must take ages to come to terms with if ever.

You just have to take one day at a time thats all you can do.

Yorkie1

So sorry to hear your news. Hope you and your Dad can be there for each other.

Caroline_a

So sorry to hear of your loss Mojisola. I lost my mum when I was only 34, and I still miss her, but now it's more of a remembering the good times. My dad was devastated too, but he became stronger in many ways afterwards, and lived another 22 years into his 90's. Mum's are special, but they never really leave you
xx

DVardysShadow

Sorry to hear this Mojisola. There are similar days which I know are coming for me and I can see their long shadows already. I hope you will continue to find yourself illuminated by the days which went before.