Real life MMD: Should I ask her to buy curtains?

gettiton

PasturesNew wrote: »

No. It's your mum. Just smile, suck it up and move on.

no more needs saying!

CSA_2

Another perspective - if there's a radiator below the window (which is quite common) then she's actually saved you from wasting energy as you'd only be heating the floor length curtains (when closed) and not the room!

happyinflorida

These questions are getting worse every week

fairynuf

You need to learn how to make things such as curtains if you want to save money by not buying readymade ones.
32 years ago when I was expecting my first child I bought material and made curtains and a cot quilt cover by hand with no help or advise just common sense patience and determination. You will gain a fantastic sense of achievement and pride in doing such things for yourself.
Your mum might loan you her sewing machine or perhaps you can request your own machine as a present for christmas or your birthday. (You could ask family members etc to give you money instead of a gift and buy one yourself).
Put it down to experience make the length of curtains you want then make cushion covers or whatever else is suitable to match up the room's decor out of the short curtains.

paulah1007

Of course not!
Your mum saved you loads of money making made to measure curtains, just cos she got 1 a bit wrong be grateful she put liners on others. You will be grateful of the liners come winter

Cookiepops

Yes I think you should. Not only for the fabric but also to reimburse you for the labour. Whenever my mum offers to do something for me, I always draw up a contract outlining the requirements and agree on compensation figures and we both sign it, that way there is no room for misinterpretation which is what has appeared to happen in this case......................


oops sorry, I thought it was April 1st

Talent

It's your fault for not being specific and forceful.... give your Mum a hug and say thanks. Don't let her make any more curtains though ;-))

Ebenezer_Screwj

I wouldn't ask for money but I would certainly want to know why my instructions had not been carried out leaving me with sets of useless curtains. The lesson here is to employ professionals in the future.

Fujiko

Solomon_Broad wrote: »

Having a child does not make you omniscient. If the OP specified "floor length curtains" and the mom ignored that and decided to do what she thought was best, then the mother is in the wrong. If the OP has their own place, I'm guessing that they're not a child any more. The mother should be respecting her offspring's wants and needs, not ignoring them.

However, I think that asking for money would be rather churlish. I wouldn't ask for money. I'd definitely think twice about asking mom to help me in future, though.

There do not seem to have been any responses from mothers, so may I just say how nice it is to read the kind and supportive messages - although I don't agree with all of them! My daughter has been married for 25 years, has had three different houses and I have made the curtains for all of them paartly because to save her money and also because I quite enjoy it. Three points:

The first rule of curtain making is accurate measurements. Did the mum in this case not do this? If she had done she would have know the rail to floor depth and there would have been no confusion, and how did she know the rail to window sill depth?

Second - I have made my daughter's curtains in fabrics, styles and lengths which I would not have chosen, but they were her choice and I would never dream of trying to impose my own ideas.

Third - I have never heard of anyone lining one set of curtains with other curtain material! One of the points of lining curtains, apart from using thermal lining if required, is that of having a uniform look from outside, not a mish-mash of contrasting colours.

And lastly - having made curtains I have also altered quite a lot, and it is possible - although rather fiddly and timeconsuming - to lengthen curtains with left-over material so that the join doesn't show. I know because I've done it!

jude1952

This isn't really a dilemma is it? Thank God you've still got your mum and that she's fit enought to do your sewing. Laugh at the mistake and love your batty mother even more.