Real life MMD: Should I ask her to buy curtains?

medthehead

goes a long way...speak to your mum. Think how you would like your children to breach the subject with you. Tell her how lovely it is to have a mum who takes interest and likes to support and help you, but it would also help if you explained that you really wanted long curtains and not short. If your mum is anything like me I would feel so bad that I had not understood what was needed I would buy the material anyway and make them again. Hence I doubt you will need to actually ask outright for her to replace the material, it would be your mums choice...and besides you will have some other lovely matching curtains (and possibly cushion covers) from the mishap!

kb68

Absoutely - she should be made to pay.

If she refuses, and starts to use the 'I'm your mum, I was only trying to help' type of emotional blackmail on you, just go and get some nice made to measures done and send her the bill.

If she is still being awkward after that, just take her to court. Could be worth getting a good solicitor to help at this point too - as we know a well worded legal letter usually does the trick with these kind of people.

The solicitor should also be able to help you with the court orders to stop the rest of the family from harrassing you - after all they are probably just as much into this kind of scam as her, am I right??

phoebe03cat

You're lucky it was just curtains- you can choose what you want to do next. I got home to find my 60 yr old father-in-law (bless his cotton socks) had hung the living room wallpaper upside down - he'd just finished the first wall...

close supervision - under guise of making a cuppa - recommended ![/QUOTE]

Haha..my father did a similar thing. He decided my husband WAS going to learn how to plaster and ripped a wall of wallpaper off. Tricky moment there..but now dh can plaster like a goodun and is pretty nifty at icing cakes!

Solomon_Broad

Having a child does not make you omniscient. If the OP specified "floor length curtains" and the mom ignored that and decided to do what she thought was best, then the mother is in the wrong. If the OP has their own place, I'm guessing that they're not a child any more. The mother should be respecting her offspring's wants and needs, not ignoring them.

However, I think that asking for money would be rather churlish. I wouldn't ask for money. I'd definitely think twice about asking mom to help me in future, though.

Saetana

My Dad offered to do some decorating for us (we can't hang wallpaper between us) many years ago and he hung the kitchen wallpaper upside down. We never said a word, he did us a big favour, I could see how he made the mistake and it was only cheap paper. Its your family, put it down to experience and tactfully decline if your mother ever offers to make you something again.

moxxy-girl

No you shouldn't - I can understand you being cross - I would be,. But she is your mom and there are some people in life you have to make exceptions for - and your mom is one of them!

moxxy-girl

kb68 wrote: »

Absoutely - she should be made to pay.

If she refuses, and starts to use the 'I'm your mum, I was only trying to help' type of emotional blackmail on you, just go and get some nice made to measures done and send her the bill.

If she is still being awkward after that, just take her to court. Could be worth getting a good solicitor to help at this point too - as we know a well worded legal letter usually does the trick with these kind of people.

The solicitor should also be able to help you with the court orders to stop the rest of the family from harrassing you - after all they are probably just as much into this kind of scam as her, am I right??

Love it - it IS tongue in cheek ....isn't it??!:rotfl:

scchin

she's your mom and she's done you a favour by sewing the curtains in the first place (even though slightly incorrect but still usable)!! I can't believe the thought of asking her to pay even crosses your mind.

2dachs

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I do not understand all the comments about mum knows best etc!!

You told her you wanted floor length and she did not do what you asked.

Have you asked her why she has done them they way she has?
Is it a genuine mis-understanding or she thinks she knows better than you?

If it is not a mis-understanding, I would not ask her pay but neither would I ask her to do anything like that again for me.

I actually agree with your post i would actually asked my mum if she wanted them and then purchase some new ones online, it's not being ungrateful it's someone not listening to what you wanted in the first place.
Older mums of a certain age things just go over their heads i'm 40 and my mum is 73 i actually tell her and my dad when something is good enough or not whether it's something they've done or not, but then again i always believe in the saying if you want something doing right then do it yourself.
Also she's your mum, she'll get over it.

pollypenny

Asking mum to pay! Ha!

I'd be asking DD to pay for the car she's 'borrowed for 6 six years now, all the paint and bits we bought when she moved and anything else.

What a daughter OP is!