Real life MMD: Should I ask her to buy curtains?

dawncath

How can anyone seriously ask this question? And why would you post such nonsense on your page.

If I was this person's mum I would gladly pay the material price and then invoice the ungrateful child for my time making the curtains which would be considerably higher.

mrshughes86

I completely sympathise with you, having often been in the same situation with my own mother-in-law, however I don't think you can ask for the money.

If you mention to her that you actually asked for them full length, she may have done it accidently and be upset that she did it wrong, or (more likely in my opinion) say she knew that is what you asked for but she did it her way anyway.

Just take it as a valuable lesson never to accept 'help' from the mother / mother-in-law to again!

datlex

I think it is highly amusing that mums are considered above question when they do wrong.

I would sit down with your mum, explain that you are going to buy new curtains as you wanted full length ones. Leave her the opportunity to offer you money. Simply replacing without saying anything will insult her.

BNT

If my children charged their parents for every screw up they be very rich kids.

pennypinchUK

Nope, you obviously didn't make it clear what you wanted. And even if you did, you didn't check how the curtain making was going. And even if you did that, she was making them for free, so she was doing you a favour. Lesson learned the hard way.

Augustus_the_Strong

Are you mad? Of course you can't ask her to pay for a new set of curtains after she's gone to so much trouble for you.

If she got something wrong, it's likely that you didn't explain yourself properly. You'll have to put up with the short curtains (not the end of the world, is it?) until you can afford to buy some others. Or get her to unpick the linings and stitch them onto the bottoms of the short curtains.

But, as someone has wisely said:

Sooler wrote: »

Mums know best, the curtains she made are the ones you want.

ps where do these 'dilemmas' come from? There certainly seem to be some grasping opportunists out there, with just a tiny hint of conscience or they wouldn't be asking the question.

onesixfive

Why not throw away your mums hard work?
Why not give it her back, along with a bill for the other pair she "ruined", & hurt her feelings good & proper?
Ask her to make you another long pair - that way you'll have 2 pairs - but dont forget to bill your mum for both!
Either put up or shut up!
If you were not capable of running up a pair of curtains yourself - and if your mum couldn't pander to your every whim, (and, incidentally probably did you a favour by saving you money on future heating bills by lining your other curtains!), then you should have either bought ready-made, or paid to have them made professionally.
Did you pay her for the thread, header tape & HER time & skills I wonder?
I doubt it.
Live with them & learn to love them - otherwise you could lose the love of the most important woman in your life!

bionda

This is your mother????? Surely you ought to know her much much better than this. I suggest you spend sometime getting to know her.
You might have discovered that she would do what she wanted....and is the sort of person who does not offer to rectify their mistakes.... or perhaps is not good at taking/understanding instruction. Or perhaps is simply not a very good sewer.....Take time and not money from her! You will certainly benefit from discovering her true talents and will certainly not suffer another set back due to your not understanding her.
La mamma e sempre la mamma

jgriggle

It's not like the curtains don't cover the windows. The material is the right one so they must still look good. Basically you need to decide which of the following is most important to you:

Either

a) Your Mum.

or

b) Your curtains reaching the floor.

squirehorse

No! Shes your mum! She bought you up, paid for you for 18 years and.....shes your mum! Just accept it, smile about it and get new ones!