Real life MMD: Should I ask her to buy curtains?

rosalie-lavender

Making curtains is a time consuming job. What I suggest is you get some more fabric and ask her to show you how to do it yourself. You might have some appreciation then of how much effort she has put in for you.

Assuming it was just an error on her part then I would make sure any future requests were written down. On the other hand if it was just that she decided her way was better then don't ask her to do any sewing again and pay someone else who will do as you ask. Be prepared for it to cost you quite a lot of money for a decent job.

Devonian_Rodders

You have TWO alternatives.

1. Live with the custains as they are, they do cover the windows.

2. Buy another length of material and pay to have it made up.

newkitchenfund

Many older people, brought up in a more thrifty era, can't get their heads round the idea of full length curtains on a not-full-length window. Why would you buy more fabric than necessary, is their logic I think. Whereas I just think they look as if you skimped on it!
She's your mum, she did you a favour, so put up with it. Every time you look at the curtains they will remind you of how much your mum loves you!
Incidentally my mum, who was also an ace curtain maker, died when I was in my late 20s, and I would LOVE to have this sort of dilemma myself!

Sooler

Mums know best, the curtains she made are the ones you want.

POPPYOSCAR

I do not understand all the comments about mum knows best etc!!

You told her you wanted floor length and she did not do what you asked.

Have you asked her why she has done them they way she has?
Is it a genuine mis-understanding or she thinks she knows better than you?

If it is not a mis-understanding, I would not ask her pay but neither would I ask her to do anything like that again for me.

tgroom57

Should I ask her to pay for some replacement curtains that are what we actually wanted?

No. The most you could ask is for her to pay the cost of the material you originally bought.

Curtains is no big deal- if you just want hems and a header tape it is all straight seams and something you can do yourself with a sewing machine. It is time-consuming, but then you get exactly what you want when you do it yourself- which is why many people do.

You're lucky it was just curtains- you can choose what you want to do next. I got home to find my 60 yr old father-in-law (bless his cotton socks) had hung the living room wallpaper upside down - he'd just finished the first wall...

close supervision - under guise of making a cuppa - recommended !

Fi2012

Sorry but I agree with everyone your mum would just be doing what she thought was best. I know you mentioned your other curtains didn't need lining but it's amazing how much warmer a room is when your curtains are lined - she might even have saved you some cash on heating.

I did something similar when I made curtains for my brother & I felt really bad when I found out it wasn't what he wanted.

If the fabrics plain you could buy a contrasting colour and extend the curtains & make them a design feature - if you can't do it yourself ask your mum but say you saw the idea on tv or in a mag to save her feelings

duchy

On the basis that your Mum raised you-If the situation was reversed and you had done something for your Mum (Yes honestly some people do this !) and it backfired in the same way...........Would YOU expect your Mum to charge you and would/could you be gracious about it or might it turn into a big upset ?

Frankly though if you were my sister/cousin etc and you charged her or or kicked up any sort of a fuss you'd be getting tounge pie followed by cold shoulder from me and the rest of the family !

I'm thinking these MMDs have run their course now and are just plain silly and obvious now though-and certainly shouldn't be in the newsletter anymore . They used to be thought provoking-sadly-no longer.

Cimscate

This is your Mum, is this the best dilemma MSE can come up with, it's definitely a no brainer
:mad:

iclayt

Seriously? This is a moral dilemma? No, she should not buy you some more fabric or curtains, nor should you even ask. She saved you a bit of money by not having them made professionally. They do say you get what you pay for, and all you paid for was the fabric!

Your mum has been a bit scatty, but helped you out, and probably thought she was doing you a favour lining the other curtains - I know my own mum and nanna would shudder at the thought of unlined curtains and start muttering about heating bills.

It's not like you've been left with NO curtains - they're just not the style you originally wanted. You can still close the world out, and presumably you like the fabric, so it's not like they're a total eyesore.

Save up and buy your dream made to measure curtains when you can. The curtains are not up to scratch stylistically, but they still function - it's not the end of the world. Stop whinging.