20 week baby scan

fluffnutter

tiamai_d wrote: »

I don't do job interviews either, you assuming I sit on my !!! claiming benefits or something?

!!!!!!?? People with jobs go to job interviews too. How else do you think they change jobs? You're weird :rotfl:

AllyS

Whilst its a really really lovely idea to take your son, I really wouldn't involve him in a 20 week scan. What if you need your partner for support? Can you not have your appointment whilst your son is at school? I am only 6 week pregnant and my other children are older, but I have had a scan already (bleeding) and I have snuck off to my appointment whilst they are at school. If it falls in the holidays then obviously this is not a possibility. How about one of your son's playmates parents? Wouldn't they watch him for a short while? I dont have any family nearby and only a few friends, but I have at least 2 people that would watch my children in this circumstance, people tend to be supportive if they are asked

If you want him to be apart of the pregnancy, my plan is splash out a little and have a 4D scan, I am hoping the kids can come with me to this, my thought is it will be much clearer too and by then hopefully all medical problems should be clear, obviously always a chance of the worst, but I think I may take the chance at this appointment.

Hope all goes well whatever you decide x

bestpud

I think all you can do is ask when you get there.

I know all sort of problems can occur but, like you say, he will be exposed to that as soon as you leave the room anyway.

The vast majority of scans are perfectly normal so I think I'd allow my child in if the hospital were ok with it. You may want to chat with him first so he understands what it's all about, obviously.

As much as I understand why people say children should not expect to be part of everything, in my opinion they should not be sheltered from everything either.

plumpmouse

fluffnutter wrote: »

!!!!!!?? People with jobs go to job interviews too. How else do you think they change jobs? You're weird :rotfl:

Maybe she is self employed and hence doesn't need to attend job interviews. Not sure why you feel the need to judge so quick about situations you know nothing of and then insult another poster by calling them weird and putting a rolling laughing face!

FWIW I didn't take my son to either my 12 or 20 week scans (he was 6). However my dd didn't play ball at her 20 week scan and they couldn't get the required number of looks at her spine (think they needed 2 or 3 and were one short). I spoke to the sonographer about taking my son to an extra scan a week later to try and get another look. She was fine and said everything looked fine so there shouldn't be any problem. I took him with me and my Mum (DH went to work as he had been at the scan the previous week). All was fine.

We had numerous scans at the end as dd wasn't growing properly and I would never have taken him to these as they were difficult and stressful. There was a chance everytime that I would be whipped down to theatre too so didn't want him worrying if this happened.

If you really have no-one there isn't much choice. I'd ring the hospital and ask. I know some refused to allow children in the scan rooms and others like where I was are fine.

With regards to waiting rooms and children being in them. At 6 I would imagine he would be quite able to sit nicely and not cause much fuss. I can honestly say having been a woman expecting bad news and stressed by scans etc I never once felt other children shouldn't be there

Nicki

The vast majority of scans are perfectly normal so I think I'd allow my child in if the hospital were ok with it. You may want to chat with him first so he understands what it's all about, obviously.

As much as I understand why people say children should not expect to be part of everything, in my opinion they should not be sheltered from everything either.[/QUOTE]

15% of anomaly scans aren't ok though. So it's not an insignificant risk of a problem being discovered. To be honest if the chances of finding a problem were tiny, the NHS probably wouldn't think it was worth the vast amount of money it costs to scan every woman as a matter of course at 20 weeks.

All irrelevant though because the OP had decided before she started the thread that she was taking her son with her whether this was a good idea or not.

MrsBryan_2

When I had my scans there were a lot of women in the waiting room with their OH's and children and what seemed to be the way they done it was the woman would go in first, have the scan and then the OH and child/ren would get called on once they were finished.

My last 2 scans were in half term so probably why there were quite a few kids around though.

OP, maybe just see how you get on when you get there, maybe you just go in at first, wait until they've got everything they need then if all's ok, ask for your OH and son to come in?

*max*

lalaland11 wrote: »

Im wondering if children are allowed in for ultrasound scans? Im due to have my 20week scan and would really love my son to come and see it. Hes 6 and and the moment feels 'left out' so would like him to see it and feel involved.

lalaland11 wrote: »

Yes that is what i was thinking of doing, Im not sure why people have assumed im taking him into the scan as i have not said i am.

That's pretty much exactly what you asked though (ie: can you take him in to the scan room like you want to), so you can't really blame people for commenting on it.

I'm with those who said "don't". Even if it's allowed, I don't think it's appropriate.. It's an important medical exam, the person performing it really doesn't need the potential distraction.

*max*

Then why don't you give them a call and ask? You won't know if you can do that unless you ask them. Not all hospitals have the same policies. All the best for your scan!

Taadaa

We will be taking our 14 year old next week, however we have had the 'it could be bad news' chat. He will be going to school afterwards. I was at the hospital yesterday and they said it was fine, but I would double check.

Wilma33

lalaland11 wrote: »

I would love nothing more for my OH to be able to come in and support me but I really do not have anyone who can help me by lookking after my son. All my family and friends work and I do not know any of the other parents.

Can't one of your friends or family who work drop your son off at school before they go to work? I'm sure anyone who is asked would do this as a one off for a hospital appointment.