20 week baby scan

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scottishchick27 wrote: »

I took my DD to the private scan I had at 9 weeks, she waited outside till we knew everything was ok and then we allowed her to come in. I've got my 20 week scan on Friday but it will just be me and my OH just incase there's anything wrong.

i have my 20 wk on Friday too
when are you due?

fluffnutter

lalaland11 wrote: »

Yes im taking him to the appointment as i have no-one to look after him so either way he has to come but i want to take him into the scan room as he's sad ad feels left out.

Well, logically, where else could he be? If you're taking him to the hospital because you can't arrange childcare, then he'll have to come into the scan room won't he? You can't just leave him on his own.

I think this has already been mentioned but I'll reiterate anyway - it's not great to assume that your child will be a welcome addition but it's even worse to expect one of the medical staff to 'keep an eye on him' in the event that they don't let him in to the room.

You can't just turn up with him. You really need to find out first whether he's allowed in. If he's not, what are you going to do?

tiamai_d

fluffnutter wrote: »

God help them when their precious children go to school then

Personally I don't think you can simply assume that, just because you've procreated, the entire world is child-friendly. I hardly think taking the occasional day or hour off work to look after your own child is 'willy-nilly', nor do I think you need a 'million' relatives to help you. Surely one would suffice.

Some things, possibly hospital appts included, just aren't suitable places for children. That's part of being a parent - appreciating that at times you're going to need to enlist someone to look after your child. Are you really suggesting it's reasonable to expect to be able to take your children everywhere with you? A funeral? A job interview?

TBH, I really don't give a !!!! what folk do with their kids. I've got childcare that I pay for.

I don't do funerals, depressing as hell.

I don't do job interviews either, you assuming I sit on my !!! claiming benefits or something?

emweaver

In all 3 of my pregnancies I have never had my 20 week scan last longer than 20 mins so Im not sure why you say they last 45 minutes.

skintchick

I took my DD to my last scan, the 12-week one. We had not taken her to the private 7 week one because of my history of miscarriage. Having seen the heartbeat at that one we assumed we were safe, and so instead of getting my parents to drive a 200-mile round trip to look after her for an hour or so, we took her with us (our hospital allows children).

We found out the baby had died at 10 1/2 weeks. My two-year-old DD watched as I collapsed, and my Oh had to look after her rather than me.

Never again.

We didn;t take her as a social occasion or to stop her feeling left out, it was a practical decision based on not having childcare as I am a SAHM.

I am pregnant again now and there is no way DD will be coming to any appointments except the odd midwife one, and those only because they are at the children's centre and she can play safely outside the room while I go in.

If you have to take your son, and I honestly think you could ask a friend to have him for an hour before school for you, it's before work time, then don;t take him into the scan itself.

But please, reconsider taking him at all. It is awful having to think about your child when you have just been told your baby has died. It must be just as awful if you are told they have something wrong with them.

These things DO happen. They happen to people like me. They could happen to someone like you. Don't take the chance of traumatising him. There must be someone who can look after him for an hour before school, perhaps even one of the teachers would oblige?

Sounds to me like you haven't tried asking anyone. I don;t believe you don't have any friends who live near you.

sausageface

If you can I would avoid taking your son. I had a scan at 17 weeks with my first baby, all was fine but I had to go back again as they said it was a bit early to do the proper anomaly scan and I was made an appt which was just before 24 weeks. At this scan I found out my baby had died. The chances are your baby will be fine but as people have said, the purpose of these scans are to check if the baby is growing correctly and if there are any problems, they are not meant to be an opportunity for first introductions to siblings.

Also, the waiting room is not just for you, it is for other patients - who may already know about problems with their baby, who may be going through some sort of hell - the last thing they want is other peoples' children possibly messing about, being annoying or whatever - I know I wouldn't appreciate it...

So, even if it was allowed, I wouldn't take my children to a scan, it's not the place for them.

I do sincerely hope all goes well with your pregnancy and your little boy loves being a big brother

lizziebell*80

There are some strong opinions about this!
I had an early scan due to history at 7 weeks and it was me OH and my daughter (2). I asked the EPAU lady and she said it was fine to bring her. She behaved fine so no problem. I think that she is young enough that she isn't as aware as an older child so I was not worried about it.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and will need to take her again, we have no relatives nearby, my friends work (well so do I but not Fridays) so we are a bit restricted with help. I'll just need to be organised and bring things to keep her amused.

dizziblonde

emweaver wrote: »

In all 3 of my pregnancies I have never had my 20 week scan last longer than 20 mins so Im not sure why you say they last 45 minutes.

You ain't met my daughter who proceeded to give us 40 minutes worth of views of her backside! You'd turn her, she'd turn back and moon you again!

We have a lovely 20 week scan photo... of her butt!

ikkle87

dizziblonde wrote: »

You ain't met my daughter who proceeded to give us 40 minutes worth of views of her backside! You'd turn her, she'd turn back and moon you again!

We have a lovely 20 week scan photo... of her butt!

Sounds a bit like my scan, everytime the sonographer tried to measure his nose and lips he played peek a boo and put his hands over his face, he loved being awkward in that scan, in fact the only thing he seemed to happily show off was the fact that he's male lol. Was an enjoyable hour though

emsbet

emweaver wrote: »

In all 3 of my pregnancies I have never had my 20 week scan last longer than 20 mins so Im not sure why you say they last 45 minutes.

They can last that long. At my anomoly scan, little man refused to budge and they tried to scan me three times with me going for a walk, eating chocolate and drinking water in between but try as we might he didn't want to be disturbed. I was there for a total of 2-2.5 hours and spent about 40-45 mins being scanned. I was also the first appointment of the day but was still late going in initially!

OP as quite a few people have said, it varies from hospital to hospital whether or not children can go in. At mine I know you can't as they have signs up. So the only people who can answer your initial question would be the hospital so give them a call.

xx