Strop over stag do...unreasonable?

adouglasmhor

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Go to strip clubs. Get drunk. Do stupid things. Say stupid things. Embarrass themselves.

I have done all those with female friends, also been to a hen party for a friend.

Skintski

My best friend is male I wouldn't have expected to be invited to his stag do. We were lucky in that they decided to have a joint stag/hen which worked out well for everyone but never the less, a boys night is exactly that but that's just my opinion obviously.

eleanor73

I'm afraid if it is all a surprise and the groom doesn't know then surely it defaults to tradition? I am really good friends with a lad that is getting married in March (he told me before his family that he had proposed and we are dead close) but if i turned up at his stag do and he and his close male friends had not been informed that a female was coming I know not only would he have every right to be annoyed but also can you imagine the stick i would get from the lads??
Leave them to it and if you insisted on organising it or felt pressured into it then that's a shame and maybe have a knees up with the groom seperately!

P.S If you are not a man you cannot have been a 'best man'? Maybe a 'best person'?

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Ah, it's all sorted now, as far as it's ever going to be. And I'm not just good friends with the groom - I'm good friends with a LOT of the stag party and virtually NONE of the hen party...and used to getting stick as the only girl out until I drink them under the table!

And I did put best "man" in quotes in a later post, and for those of you that wonder I go out in tshirts and jeans with the lads, not dressed up to the nines.

I'm going to put some cash behind the bar at the pub they're starting in on the evening for the groom to have a couple on me, I know the bar supervisor and he's said that's fine

HBS x

Idiophreak

eleanor73 wrote: »

I'm afraid if it is all a surprise and the groom doesn't know then surely it defaults to tradition?

In this day and age, I don't really get how it can "all" be a surprise. It just wouldn't work. If I tried to organise a "surprise" stag for any of my friends, I'd have no ideas who to invite, muchless how to contact any of them.

Every stag I've been involved in, the groom's given the best man a list of invitees and contact numbers...I just don't see how you could do it any other way, unless you live in Royston Vasey...

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heh, for my stag do, i told my brother who to invite, where to stay, where to have our activity, where to eat...

I don't do surprises (and my brother is so tight I don't trust him to organise a decent weekend away without it involving a youth hostel)

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Idiophreak wrote: »

In this day and age, I don't really get how it can "all" be a surprise. It just wouldn't work. If I tried to organise a "surprise" stag for any of my friends, I'd have no ideas who to invite, muchless how to contact any of them.

Every stag I've been involved in, the groom's given the best man a list of invitees and contact numbers...I just don't see how you could do it any other way, unless you live in Royston Vasey...

Facebook's a wonderful thing, especially when you can make secret groups and the groom doesn't go on it very much a few of us are organising a secret birthday party for another friend later on in the year too.

HBS x

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ringo_24601 wrote: »

heh, for my stag do, i told my brother who to invite, where to stay, where to have our activity, where to eat...

I don't do surprises (and my brother is so tight I don't trust him to organise a decent weekend away without it involving a youth hostel)

Seems very sensible in your situation!

HBS x

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I have been stung once by the opposite.. one night away ended up costing me £500

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Ouch! That's madness!

I considered a stag overnight when I was best "man", but none of us could really afford it and we wanted people to be there.

HBS x