Strop over stag do...unreasonable?

Idiophreak

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Facebook's a wonderful thing, especially when you can make secret groups and the groom doesn't go on it very much a few of us are organising a secret birthday party for another friend later on in the year too.

It's not bad. but I had 3 people on my stag that I'm not FB friends with (they're not on there). One of them's one of my best mates - but neither of the best men would have known how to contact him.

[Deleted User]

Well, that's the problem with knowing rich people (and not being one!) - they like expensive things and don't consider costs much. They booked non-refundable football tickets - knowing there was a chance the match would be cancelled! We also stayed at a 4* hotel and ate at a pricey restaurant. Stll, it was quite fun

We got my 2 nights away + laser tag + BBQ down to £81pp and IMHO it was excellent

BugglyB

You could use it as a good opportunity to get to know your friends girlfriends better (I imagine some hens are girlfriends of the stags?)

kitschkitty

Interesting to see all the different opinions on this thread, I think it should also be pointed out that not every groom or bride wants a stag or hen party that is a big invite everyone event, and some people don't want one at all.

What I mean by that is that for some people it's about spending time doing something enjoyable (maybe something challenging, relaxing or unusual etc) with a very select group of people rather than having a big party with all your mates.

I would never have remotely wanted to invite my hubby's friends partners to my hen do so that they could get to know me better - blurgh!

It's all personal choice and the organiser (if it's not the groom or bride themselves) needs to be 100% considerate of what sort of event (and guest list) the groom or bride would want.

BugglyB

Yes thats a good point, I hadnt thought of it like that.

BugglyB

That said, if my husband to be had a good friend that I didnt know, I'd definitely invite her to my hen do, so she wouldnt be left out, and to get to know her. Depends what sort of do you're having I suppose. I have tons of female friends so I have a feeling mine may end up being a bit of a free for all :-)

PolishBigSpender

heartbreak_star wrote: »

How wonderfully anachronistic of you this is the attitude I'm on about...can there not be friends of the opposite gender that would like to celebrate the upcoming nuptials with the half of the couple they know best?

HBS x

Personally I think every other night can be about having a party altogether, the whole point of hen/stag nights are that these are "girls only" or "boys only". I think I'd be rather surprised if one of the girls brought her boyfriend to my hen party :P Just as well, my best friend (male) was invited to the stag party, not hen party, although he's much more of my friend, not his.

All in all - you're overreacting. Sorry.

heartbreak_star

Each to their own I guess There have been some very interesting replies on here, from (IMO) the sublime to the ridiculous! Thanks everyone!

Ringo - I can't believe they did that with the tickets, and incidentally your stag sounds great

Kitschkitty - Yay for you! Excellent points made.

Buggly - Free-for-all FTW, haha. And believe it or not, none of the hens are girlfriends of the stags!! I would be the only one - maybe this clarifies my reticence with regards to the hen do?

PBS - I'd have invited your male best mate to the hen do, with the get-out clause of the stag do if he preferred. And if I was overreacting I wouldn't have helped organise...

I'll definately be having a mixed-gender hen do if I ever get married, like my friend later in the year.

HBS x

ampafc

Bloody women. Typical.

heartbreak_star

What, organised and helpful

HBS x