Strop over stag do...unreasonable?

picklepick

Surely if the groom wanted you (and other women) there, he'd have asked you. If you're that bothered, why don't you organise a paintball event just for fun with girl and boy friends invited.

heartbreak_star

Because people aren't going to randomly pay that much money to travel from all over the country just because it might be fun. Gatherings like this generally happen for a reason.

HBS x

PS. Do most people ever read original posts thoroughly?

[Deleted User]

Your views on feminism are not the 'groom to be's' views on feminism.

Get over it - it's not your day out

heartbreak_star

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Incidentally, the groom knows nothing about all this - the best man is organising it (who happens to my OH).

There you go Ringo. The stag night is being organised without the input of the groom.

HBS x

[Deleted User]

Ultimately, if you cause a strop, you're only going to upset your friends anyway

Just re-read it - so if the groom isn't involved then he must have at least stipulated 'boys only' - otherwise your OH hasn't invited you and you should be angry with him

gadgeteer_2

Sorry but it seems odd to me to have women at a stag do. I have quite a few female friends but I don't intend on inviting any of them to my stag do. They can go to the hen do with my fiancee and some of the friends have known me longer.

shellsuit

heartbreak_star wrote: »

How wonderfully anachronistic of you this is the attitude I'm on about...can there not be friends of the opposite gender that would like to celebrate the upcoming nuptials with the half of the couple they know best?

HBS x

Anachronistic of me? It's not my stag do so they're not my rules are they?

It's that particular grooms day, and if he wants a boys only stag do, that's what he should have.

Shouldn't you just be happy for him?

picklepick

So get your boyfriend to ask the groom if he wants just boys or if he wants a mix?
If he says a mix, then fine. If he says he just wants boys, then you'll just have to get over it. It's not your day.

heartbreak_star

I am happy for him, I'm glad they're getting married (it's been long enough haha) and I'm in a strop but will try my damndest to NOT show it.

Truth be told - if it was up to the groom there wouldn't be a stag night. He tends to go with the flow on everything (the bride has single-handedly organised the wedding) and I don't think he even knows he's getting a stag night - this has all been me and my OH sorting this.

Gadgeteer - what happens if your female friends don't know your fiancee very well? This is the position I'm in - if I knew her well, or was a bit more traditionally girly, I'd happily do the hen night thing

Picklepick - if he asks, the groom will say "Whatever!" I do know there's another girl dying to go to the stag rather than the hen do, so hopefully we can both go and if not we'll go do something ridiculous on our own, lol.

I think at the moment, it feels like I'm helping to organise a big day and night out for all my best mates and my OH...and I can't go simply because I'm the wrong gender. Please try and look at it that way.

HBS x

junesong

I know what you mean hbs! I would have loved to go to a friends stag do! I didn't in the end!

You said they may all end up at yours anyway so why not see if they'd be up for a day after stag breakfast thing so you get to hang out with the friends you don't often see? That way you can let him have his day and not feel awkward about asking if a girl can go!