Hoarding...not just on TV

Byatt

I just lost a long post because I clicked on the wrong thing.

I'll try and replicate later but I suspect the moment has gone. I want to thank you all for your insights into your own "building a thing up so it will take forever mindset". :T Jo-Jo, you make a good point and I think that is what happens to me now, but I've also always done it to some degree, that along with perfectionism, ocdishness, and family of origin (foo), not allowing mistakes (to make up for thier mistakes, we had to be perfect children so they would appear as perfect parents, huge cross to carry, the sins of the fathers/mothers.)

Welcome newbies to the thread! :T Iwantababy (aweee ), I agree about AFoods! That was me a few months ago. Should have learnt from previous years, but at least I stopped after 3 orders this time. The cous cous mountain lives on.

I do lists in my head, always had a good memory (not so much now), so everything is filed away, no wonder I'm tired. :eek:
LIR, what kind of puppy?

Val, spot on about assigning equal difficulty to stuff to do. That's me. And isn't Ginger Cat a very clever cat to help you with decluttering! :T

VJ, I found that green tea was one of my aspirational things, but I loathed it. I still have some lurking in the cupboard though, so when I go home I will throw it away also. It feels incredibly liberating knowing I can do that. Thanks for sharing.

Well done everyone and thanks so much for sharing. :A xxxx

Jo_anne_2

valk_scot wrote: »

My DS will be off to uni in two or three years, eek. I've already got a box set aside in the attic for stuff for him like a set of Jamie Oliver pans I got at 90% off, a pair of casserole dishes, the set of cutlery I replaced lately. I'm not going overboard on keeping things for him but a dinner set would definately be worth putting in the box, I think. They'll need crockery and a dinner service is a big buy.

I was hoping to palm off some household stuff to DS1 and DS2 when they went to Uni. DS1 has been living in rented accom full equipped with pots and pans, so didn't need anything. DS2 is in halls for the full duration of his degree with no cooking facilities - so my plan failed miserably. :rotfl:Still there is always DS3!

rachbc

I'll find a box for it tonight and pop it in the attic - ready to be put away when OH moves some stuff to access the hatch. I shll start list - mental if not physically nd set aside bits as an when. Watch him decide to stay at home and go locally now!!

Patchwork_Quilt

I have a Uni box for DS and there are definitely some things in there that couldn't quite make it out of the door and into the charity shop. However, I have told him that this is a box for him to choose from and that if he would like something else I will take all that stuff to the cs and buy him what he wants. That way, I know I've got to get rid of it and he doesn't feel he's being given our cast-offs.

Funny, isn't it, that things actually have to leave before you stop feeling their influence. The red T-shirt I wrote about a few posts ago has been in the bin for days but it was still there. Now it is in the wheelie bin, being picked up tomorrow by the bin men, I finally feel as if it has gone.

Patchwork_Quilt

"I do have difficulty with buying what I actually want rather than the thing that will just "do"."

So true alec eiffel! I feel like this! Aren't we worth it?

alec_eiffel

Patchwork_Quilt wrote: »

"I do have difficulty with buying what I actually want rather than the thing that will just "do"."

So true alec eiffel! I feel like this! Aren't we worth it?

You know how all the frugal types always tell you to wait a week before buying something I have tweaked that - if it's cheap and just "there" I wait and if it's "the thing" I don't wait :rotfl: I can usually find a work around or substitute for the "it'll do" but only a Robin Day chair is a Robin Day chair :T

We are worth it and it's quite a tough thing to do to make the leap to have lots of nice things - having nicely scented laundry detergent or the very nice coastal blue mug rather than the Census 2011 one you got free last year or the nice tea rather than the one that was on offer. But just as getting rid of the stuff is a bit by bit thing and each little thing makes us happy, opening a drawer and seeing some nice socks rather than the 10 pack of plain is a little boost too. (Socks are a thing in this household...)

suzitiger

Thanks for the welcome guys, I am happy to be here. Getting ideas already like doing a cleaning rota and to do lists that actually work for me, mine are always never ending...

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Got the call today, my scary meds are being delivered next week and then I'll get a nurse visit to show me how to self inject. So the house MUST be good by then, as I have no idea how I am going to react to the meds - but I usually react badly, so am planning for the worst (and hoping to be pleasantly surprised by getting my life back for the first time in years).



However, in good news, I have now finished paying off two loans. So I am £80-odd the richer from now on. :j:

valk_scot

Bought a new toaster today. The old one still works but it came from my mum's house, it's scuffed and shabby, it burns 90% of what you put in it and...well, Tesco is having a mega clear out of their stock rooms and while I was looking through the shelves one of the staff came out with four toasters of different designs, all marked down by 80%. One of which was a stainless steel long slot toaster and just what I wanted. For £7.:T

So far so good but what do I do with the old toaster? As I said it's a shabby old object but it does still work, sort of. I did think about putting it in DS's uni box but tbh, I don't want to inflict it on him. But it still works......

Tell me I'm allowed to just throw it out?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Bin it bin it bin it bin it.