Hoarding...not just on TV

Picklepot

Hi Everyone

As is normal for me it takes a while to get into the new mindset of things. I have beeen taking on all that has been going on in this forum and something has changed in me! Believe me i have read so many declutter books and ways of organising but no where have i found anywhere that truly addresses' how difficult the process is.

So whats happened?

A few weeks ago my doctor told me my job was bad for my health , i know..... . As autumn arrived so did the feelings of SAD and the failure of a year on still not leaving the job i have promised i would for the last 3 years...this is tinged with the fact i feel fortunate that i have a job and should not be moaning....A lot of opportunities have come up this past year but then fizzled out, a lot of hopes raised then dashed.

A couple of weeks ago i realised i was back to my 'ground hog' day life.Does anyone get it where you do the same things everday and kick yourself but not do anything about it?? Why do i never plan the evening meal until i am on the way home from work? Why do i dare sit down after dinner and then stare moronically at the TV all evening because i am too exhausted to get up? Why do i start clearing out and end up surrounded by sub piles that are worse than the original??? Why do i allow mealtimes to be stressful when i often create the stress???

Anyhow small babysteps here but am chipping away. I am marvelling at how much i can get done in little chunks of time. Kettle boiling time is just enough time to get dishwasher emptied, ad breaks just enough time to shred before shredder overheats. Computer so slow at booting and shutting down but this has become my 'sort out the junk mail' time . The slow cooker is out and will resolve the stress of mealtime . Best of all yesterday i decided to start it at work.I have started using the little chunks of time and it feels good i am slowly clearing my desk for that momentous day that i can resign and i hope by then i have so little office junk of mine that i can shove the remains in a little box and go:j
I was pleased to see blossomhills comment thats what i aspire to, to have no pangs of fear embarrassment or shame when a visitor arrives unexpectedly.
I have lots of dilemma moments ahead so will need to tap in to seek help soon x

whitewing

Picklepot, that is what is happening here too (chipping away).

Even more miraculous is that things are bothering me if they don't get tidied away. I now want to make the effort.

alec_eiffel

Hi Picklepot,

Chipping away is good. It's so easy to want everything to be gone right away and then become frustrated and disheartened when it can't be that way. So to know that there will be days where you just feel like you're surrounded by sub piles but believing that this is progress is a great thing.

Picklepot

Hi whitewing same here! Hope i can keep up the momentum..x

Brighton_belle

Picklepot wrote: »

Hi whitewing same here! Hope i can keep up the momentum..x

Stick with us here and you will. Yes, you will have days when you do nothing and feel you have lost the will over it all again. But keep posting and eventually you'll find the momentum again. Tackling this the way you are is really good - lots of small actions do eventually add up and is the best way to beat overwhelm:j.
Today I need to ring the local charity shop to arrange for a van to pick up a dining table and 3 chairs and a bookshelf up, non of which are useful to us (bookshelf has fixed shelves so wastes a lot of space).
Trying to persuade DH to weed the hall cupboard of his excess of jackets/coats (15?) in exchange for the haircut he wants me to give him.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Afternoon and welcome to our new posters, along with our lovely lurkers!

Still lurgified, so another morning written off. I emptied and cleaned the bin and done nowt else.

Spoke to boyfriend on the phone -well, squawked mostly - and he's having a rummage round the various sheds, outbuildings, garage and attic of his parents' bungalow to see if, along with everything else his late father hoarded, there are any tools specifically meant for wicking with glass. If there are, that saves me a few bob and helps declutter there a bit. Eventually I'll repay mil by making some panels for her windows, nothing that has to be sat on a shelf or a table, as she's got the tendency.




Everyone seems to be doing so well! Every act counts, and they do add up over time. See how it's becoming a habit to consider use or disposal, rather than automatically keep everything?


Anyhow, I'm worn out again, so I'm off for a cuppa and maybe another kip :eek:....

VJsmum

Didn't do my 10 minutes in the office of doom yesterday - was too busy removing radiators :eek:

Did a pile on Monday though so probably counted for yesterdays and a bag has now gone to the charity shop. Another will go tomorrow.

House is a complete tip as we have decorators in - and one wall has had plaster removed :eek:. Will only be a couple of weeks though and we will have nice shiny new walls. last time it took us over 6 months to do it.

Byatt

Hi everyone,

Pickle, as BB says, we all have days (sometimes weeks ) where the CBA feeling comes over. I know I feel overwhelmed still and look at rooms and think what have I got rid of??! As it looks exactly the same. :eek: But it's the chipping away, and just doing five minutes is better than doing nothing. It all adds up.

I went home (still house sitting) to take pics of the improved living room ready to show counsellor today, but then came over all lurgified and had to cancel. I still took the pics though and I will post the before and the current state of living room, but will not leave pics up due to :o.

Will work out how to do it later, I know really just putting it off. :cool:

Hope you feel better soon Jo-Jo, and Elona if you're reading, hope all is well with you and family.

idristhedragon

Hello all. Long time no see!
I've been feeling pretty low recently with my youngest starting nursery and other stuff getting to me and the hoarding of clothes has started to become a bit of an issue again. I have been to two clothes swap parties and got rid of probably 150 items but still have a highly disorganise
D wardrobe and boxes of stuff everywhere. It is feeling insurmountable at the mo again.
Please someone give me a nudge in the right direction

valk_scot

Picklepot wrote: »

Hope i can keep up the momentum..x

It's easier to keep doing a small but managable amount each day rather than to feel you've got to do it all in a week. I did the windowsill in my DD's bedroom today, just one windowsill but it's enough, it means I'm still moving forwards.

OH, yes, and I went shopping today, looking for coloured t-shirts for teenage son. No such thing in the high street shops, they're all black, white and grey. So the day wasn't a success in that respects. But I managed not to buy any magazines, not to buy more nail polish even though I had coupons, not to go and look round the new houseware dept in the local M&S. All good!