Hoarding...not just on TV

Byatt

Thanks for your kind support, I know this is not the place to post really, but I also know my hoarding is all related to past rejection the biggest of course being my ex, although there have been plenty before and since relating to my family.

RAS you are right, spot on. I made an appointment with the Dr for next week to discuss counselling as I suspected my sister was going to do this and knew I would need help, but the body blow was worse than I expected.

And Greenbee, you are right too.

I think it's part of her condition, the change is dramatic after I only saw her last Friday. The trouble is the neighbours are obviously colluding with her which doesn't help and I can't fight them all. But I'm not emotionally robust anymore.

I am going to return all the paperwork even the stuff put to one side for shredding. Not sure how, but may parcel it up. There's a lot of carp.

And now, I'm going to have a large whisky...thanks for listening and sorry to hijack the thread.

katep23

Byatt, so sorry to hear that, what a horrible time for you and your dd as well, hugs to you both.

wannabe_sybil

Byatt - big, big hugs!

Please be kind to yourself, have lots of hugs, and if you need to I think this is a safe place to vent a little, or just make a little contact. hugs hugs hugs.

Perhaps this evening and this weekend you can concentrate on doing things you like, and build in lots of ring fenced time for you to take care of yourself.

hugs again

wannabe_sybil

Byatt - btw - paperwork can be returned in plastic bags well taped. You wouldn't believe what ebay 'treasures' have arrived in here, and if sending stuff in scratty carrier bags is good enough for them, it's good enough for your sister. Just make sure it is well taped. If you have sturdy garden waste bags available, they will do. Bung in the post and forget. Also, it isn't your fault, why should it be your problem? Hugs again.

If you are really concerned about fall out then ask the hospital contacts for advice about how to deliver the stuff. After looking after yourself this weekend, I think you may find it helpful to make cutting all ties a priority, for your own sake. Wishing you all the luck!

Byatt

Thanks Kate and Sybil,

I'm somewhat calmer and I haven't had a whisky yet!

Good idea about the bags Sybil...I just wanted to make things better for her as well as organise things, I'm so much better at oragnising other people's stuff, than my own. I guess I took too much notice of neigbours who said she would never go home again, and as they'd seen her for the last 5 years and I hadn't, and didn't take into account that sister can appear fine around others but around me, her family it's something else, sowouldn't have touched some things at all.

DD called me to say sister told her why she wouldn't give me her number and it was because brother had told her not to. Now as far as I'm away, brother has not had contact with her for 5 years either...but that was his modus operandi where I was concerned. So, I think it is paranoia and will get worse. She was always fine with my DD. I'm one of nature's carers and it goes against all I believe in not to help, but I know it will be at great cost to me.

xxxxx

RAS

Byatt wrote: »

Thanks for your kind support, I know this is not the place to post really, but I also know my hoarding is all related to past rejection the biggest of course being my ex, although there have been plenty before and since relating to my family.

It is the right place to post, Byatt. Get the help you need where you can.

Glad that you have started to arrange help.

skipsmum

byatt, I do feel for you, ((hugs)). And fine to post here.

craigywv

Big hug sent to you BYATT and you can PM me anytime...R.E. RICE PUDDING...I SHALL SAY NO MORE big big big hug xxxx

whitewing

byatt, sorry to hear that today has not been good. Hope the sun comes out for you tomorrow.

Haven't done any decluttering today. I am continually astounded at how much easier it is to keep the house tidy since our decluttering efforts. For the first time ever, we had time to tidy up before we went out this afternoon, toys are so much easier to put away since we got our new boxes and thinned them out and sorted into categories. We came back to a house that was lovely.

DH is at work tomorrow. I will probably skirt around the house and try to find some more stuff to send on its way, rather than start on the two cupboards that need proper reorganisation - one being my craft cupboard. I have some crafting books that I can pass on to be enjoyed by others. My tastes have changed over the years, and I can now think why am I keeping some of the papers and stuff when I don't like the design. My craft cupboard is so stuffed, I can't venture in there even when I want to do something.

Byatt

I'm sorry about posting, just got caught up in the triggers so wasn't responding rationally.

to keep on topic, I have decluttered some of my own paper work, I have a nice new shredder which chops everything into tiny pieces and even does credit cards. My old shredder packed up after several good years, but couldn't cope in the end and went on strike!
xxxx