Being a minister's wife

Torry_Quine

peachyprice wrote: »

No it most certainly isn't tongue in cheek.

It's this arrogant attitude that agnostics/atheists need to be convinced that they are wrong that gives religion a bad name.

An atheist is as passionate about their own beliefs as a Christian is their. Would you not find it disrespectful if an atheist belittled your beliefs and was insisitent that you needed convincing that your beliefs were wrong?

I certainly wouldn't belittle anyone's sincerely held beliefs and yes that is disrespectful. As I said it's one of the things Christians are called to do and I have no problem with someone who felt it important to tell me about what they believe or not and try to convince me. You believe that you are right but I suspect don't think you are arrogant.

cottonhead

Talking about religion is always going to cause arguments. What I am about to say is just me being honest and not meant to offend so here goes ! Being a minister is not just a job buit a way of life and you have to be on hand 24/7 if someone needs you. It often means getting quite involved in personal issues and sacrificing personal time as a couple so the fact that you are willing to support your husband is great.
My only comment is that as your husband will be a minister - most members of the community will assume that your share his views. I dont know what type of community you will be based in but many smaller parishes and older members of the community will frown upon Gay marriage and even Gay acceptance. I dont speak for everyone but all the major religions teach against being Gay and even state what the punishment is for it. To me thats a hard one to work with. I see that a person is either religious and follows all of what God says in which case you must be against Gays. Or you support a persons lifestyle and believe they have chosen to be Gay or been created Gay and so must surley believe that some part of the religion is wrong. I just dont personally see how you can pick and choose which part of a religion to follow.
The reason I say this is not to upset you or anyone else, but just because if you wish to work with Gay people, some of the Church community might react badly to it which could then upset you or your husband.
Good luck to both of you and hope it works out for the best.

Person_one

Torry_Quine wrote: »

That's my point. If you aren't a Christian then your spouse has a career which you support as you would any other but to me Christianity is the number one thing in my life and I just couldn't share my life with someone who din't feel the same way.:o

I can understand that, I don't consider people who are religious as potential partners, I want my partner to share my fundamental outlook on life/beliefs etc.

What I don't understand is why it bothers you so much that someone else has a different approach. Just because YOU feel that a non Christian partner would never work for YOU doesn't mean that every other Christian has to feel that way surely?

Person_one

pinkclouds wrote: »

To qualify my comments, I was being logical rather than religious. It's not his fault that you're an atheist but, in my opinion, it doesn't make him a very convincing church leader if he can't convince his nearest and dearest.

That's all religious belief is? Whoever is the most convincing storyteller wins?

Person_one

peachyprice wrote: »

No it most certainly isn't tongue in cheek.

It's this arrogant attitude that agnostics/atheists need to be convinced that they are wrong that gives religion a bad name.

An atheist is as passionate about their own beliefs as a Christian is their. Would you not find it disrespectful if an atheist belittled your beliefs and was insisitent that you needed convincing that your beliefs were wrong?

The bolded, not necessarily. Its important to remember that atheists are not a united organisation and do not necessarily have anything at all in common besides not believing in any gods.

peachyprice

Person_one wrote: »

The bolded, not necessarily. Its important to remember that atheists are not a united organisation and do not necessarily have anything at all in common besides not believing in any gods.

Sorry, they can be as passionate, just as some Christians can be indifferent.

Torry_Quine

Person_one wrote: »

I can understand that, I don't consider people who are religious as potential partners, I want my partner to share my fundamental outlook on life/beliefs etc.

What I don't understand is why it bothers you so much that someone else has a different approach. Just because YOU feel that a non Christian partner would never work for YOU doesn't mean that every other Christian has to feel that way surely?

I agree that sharing fundamental beliefs is important that in itself is enough to make me wonder. As I've said we are told not to be joined to unbelievers.

Person_one

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I agree that sharing fundamental beliefs is important that in itself is enough to make me wonder. As I've said we are told not to be joined to unbelievers.

What do you wonder?

balletshoes

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I agree that sharing fundamental beliefs is important that in itself is enough to make me wonder. As I've said we are told not to be joined to unbelievers.

who is told "we are not to be joined to unbelievers"?

Torry_Quine

Person_one wrote: »

What do you wonder?

Why someone would marry someone who doesn't share their fundamental belief.

balletshoes wrote: »

who is told "we are not to be joined to unbelievers"?

Christians.