Disabled and First Time Parent

kingfisherblue

What lovely news, LM. Congratulations to you and your husband xx

Mojisola

Congratulations!

There's a good chance that you will feel a lot better while you're pregnant - the majority of expectant mothers with ME do get a reduction in their symptoms.

I hope you can get somewhere to live close to your family - it will make all the difference. I went down with ME during my second pregnancy and I wouldn't have coped without the help my parents and PILs gave me.

Forget everyone else's "rules" about coping with baby. When baby sleeps, you take a rest. Do get on the ME forums and see how other mothers with ME cope - take what's useful to you and the current state of your health.

Ellejmorgan

I have tried to focus on eye contact and smiling at my baby, it helps build trust and bonding between me and baby as I am limited to when I can pick her up, when my arm is bad I can't hold her, I lay her on a pillow next to me and just look at her, she loves it....

Also invest in a bouncy chair they are a godsend, even from birth they are brill....

LadyMorticia

Thank you everyone for your congratulations, posts and advice.

I'm in too much pain to reply to everyone individually at the moment, but I will soon.

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many many congrats on your good news and to lord m as well

having kids is a learning curve for all of us,and its bloody hard work,but rewarding,i dont have any special advice other than to enjoy your last 6 months of peace and quiet for you wont get much for the 18 years that follow -)

Anubis_2

Not just 18 years

Having kids is the hardest but most rewarding job in the world

daisy_darling

If you can't self propel, can't you apply for a power wheelchair from the NHS ?

LadyMorticia

daisy_darling wrote: »

If you can't self propel, can't you apply for a power wheelchair from the NHS ?

I'm not eligible for help from the NHS wheelchair services because I don't need my wheelchair for 4 hours a day, 4 days a week because I can't go out that much.

Plus, I can't concentrate for too long and wouldn't trust myself not to injure people in a power wheelchair.

LadyMorticia

Would you suggest that if someone became disabled shortly after the birth that they should then have their baby adopted?

You can have prams made that attach to the wheelchair and we have alot of help from his parents.There are also baby slings and the like.

McKneff

woodbine wrote: »

many many congrats on your good news and to lord m as well

having kids is a learning curve for all of us,and its bloody hard work,but rewarding,i dont have any special advice other than to enjoy your last 6 months of peace and quiet for you wont get much for the 18 years that follow -)

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

18 years, you have to be kidding, mine are 43 and 39 and I still worry, the 39 year old is getting married this year for the first time and I just cant wait to see my only daughter in her wedding gown, same feeling as I couldnt wait to see her face when she was born.

Enjoy every single moment..............
Even labour is a conversation point for the rest of your life lol.